Hi there, The Gal that I've been working with off and on for several months on the Program took some drastic measures last night and wound up in the County hospital. My Sponsor and I went on a 12 Step call to her. Oh, I am so grateful...it is very sad, but this may just be the wake up call she needs. She finally started cooperating with the Doctor and Nurses when we got there. She's been living with her Grandmother and her Grandmother finally said enough is enough you are not welcome back here when you are released from the Hospital ~ hopefully her Grandmother will stick to this....I'm going to try to find some sober living facilities that might have an open spot. Any suggestions as to what message I can carry to her when I return to the hospital tomorrow? I know I can only carry the message and not the alcoholic.
Just let her know that you will be there for her if she is ready to get the help that she needs. Sometimes knowing you have a friend that will be there for you no matter what bad things you have done will carry a person a long way. I think it is great that you are reaching out to her. It takes a special person to be so kindhearted.
God Bless
God Bless
Thank you, I intend to do just that....by going to see her it totally shored up the foundation of my recovery. The Program is so simple, just one drunk talking to another drunk...that's how we do it...it sure as heck will keep me sober tonight. I can't keep this thing (sobriety) if I don't give it away.
Hey VWGirl my brother used to wake up in hospital check out what drugs he was on and stay till they put a straight iv line in, as long as she sees a recovery face before her dealer she will slowly get the picture and not all rock bottoms are the same as i said just plant the seed and she has to grow it.
Light and love Zac
Light and love Zac
VW, be careful that you don't fall into the trap of trying to "cure" her. 12 Step Service is what it is all about. I seem to remember in the Big Book also there were those who, after being called on, and did not respond, had to be let to their own devices until they were ready. Please don't misunderstand the intent of this message I write. It's easy to fall into co-dependant behavior of trying to fix them, beyond the call of the 12th step.
It's so hard, especially when you have such a loving and giving heart. I admire your progress!
:-)
It's so hard, especially when you have such a loving and giving heart. I admire your progress!
:-)
Thanks Zac and WW, Well I was woken up this a.m. with a call from the young Gal that's in the hospital, just sobbing, reality is starting to hit...thank God. We have a lot of state funded sober living homes here in SoCal...I'm bringing some AA literature to her today as well as a vast amount of sober living information too. The Social worker is going to the hospital to see what can be done. I've sponsored her before and she managed to stay clean and sober for 18 months, but it is no lie that the disease is lying in wait...and continues to progress without drink or drugs; she is way worse off then before. Just so you know, I took my Sponsor with me last night, she is a no nonsense type of woman, that's why she is a good Sponsor for me...pulls my covers and says things that I don't like to hear, but know are true. It's suggested that you always take someone else on a 12 Step call, so I'll be returning with someone who is on the Program this afternoon. My Sponsor also has a background in chemical dependency counseling and she kinda let me know that I back pedaled a few times when I shoulda stood my ground last night...I slipped back into the "co" behavior. But overall, it went well, I learned a lot from watching my Sponsor last night too. I knew I'd get some great advice here too! Have a great day everyone!
