hi. i replied on a moms page about getting her daughter help with rehab... well i dont know much about meth...but from what i have seen my son do i have understood it a little better...i love my son very much he is the oldest of three kids... and he will be a senior this fall....he has been in and out of juvenille hall and just spent from march until june in there for a treatment program ...which they were letting him come home on the weekends...he would come home on the weekends and i would hardly see him...i see now why cause he was using again...he failed the program two weeks before he was to finish for pot and meth. i am so worried about him...i want him to have a good life for himself...he is a very good athlete...he wrestles for high school and is the starting center on the high school football team...he is now spending the summer at his grandmas away from home and his friends and i have preached to him about staying clean and doing things for himself...i guess what im asking is how can i help him in his recovery? I know that i need to be a lot stricter with him...what i have told u is the short story version...there is a lot more...but i made it short..he has been using pot and meth since the eight grade and i just found out about it in 2003 he got busted at school for being under the influence... i was blind to the drugs ...me and his father both work very hard..i work days and his dad works rotating shifts and we have been separted since october...this having nothing do to with our son...i am not home during the day. but at night i am always...there...do i move my son away ...this is a vey small town..everyone knows everybody...he has gone to school here since he was four...or do i stay let him graduate with his friends... all i can do is be very supporting and that is what i have been ...each time i get a call from his p.o. and its bad news..i get very angry ...but only because he has hurt me again...i cant take much more of this and it is very hard...meth i have seen is a very evil drug...my son is a very good kid...he has mad some bad choices...please tell me what i can to to try and help his recovery thanx... wooried mom
Hi mum,
You sound so much like me! There really doesn't appear to be that much you can do. The stricter you try to be, the further you push them away. The more you preach, the less they listen. I'm a single mum too and his dad who I separated from just months after I had my son (who's 20) is a user off and on as well.
Sounds that your son's father is still around, can he help you? Help YOU try to find a way to deal with this. Because you have to look at ways to cope. You have to believe that there is nothing that you have done to create your son's situation. YOU ARE NOT TO BLAME. YOU ARE NOT A BAD MOTHER.... And all you can do is be there. It's a long, long road. I wish you all the best of luck for you and your son.
Another mum. : )
You sound so much like me! There really doesn't appear to be that much you can do. The stricter you try to be, the further you push them away. The more you preach, the less they listen. I'm a single mum too and his dad who I separated from just months after I had my son (who's 20) is a user off and on as well.
Sounds that your son's father is still around, can he help you? Help YOU try to find a way to deal with this. Because you have to look at ways to cope. You have to believe that there is nothing that you have done to create your son's situation. YOU ARE NOT TO BLAME. YOU ARE NOT A BAD MOTHER.... And all you can do is be there. It's a long, long road. I wish you all the best of luck for you and your son.
Another mum. : )
