Hey,
I am new on here as well and just need a little get up from anyone who will give it.
My ex is addicted to Marijuana. A lot has happened over the last year including his move to Florida with his family. He is turning 19 soon and his parents have tried to talk to him and even gave him a few wake up calls but he is gone. He's going down fast. He cut me off for like 6 months after a fight we had. I wrote him a letter enclosed with all my personal thoughts and feelings about his using. It had personal experiences in it regarding my addiction issues with Pornography. I didn't say it was porn but that I knew addiction like his. He connects back with my in May. I wrote him again and told him he needed help and that I still loved him and would only help him get help. That was it. He denied the problem again. I recently wrote him again and say the same stuff and getting help and that he was in my prayers as well as my pornography issue, but he just kept denying it. He says he's cut back on drinking and hard drugs but I highly doubt it. He has told me about his arrests and says he can control his using and it won't ever get out of hand but ugh. I'm giving it to God but it still pains me so much. It scares me, because I know how hard it is. I've told him so much and I feel like it is doing nothing. I just pray that its making him think. Before it gets to bad.
Addict to Addict to Addict....the harder you push him to get help before he's ready the faster he'll run in the opposite direction. Alcoholics, Drug-addicts, compulsive gamblers.....ADDICTS....DO NOT like to be told what to do or how to do it.
It sucks. It's true. I'm living proof.
He'll be ready when he's ready. Until then reflect inwardly on how you can better your situation and strengthen your recovery so that when he's ready you can be fully there armed with an arsenal of tools for recovery to help him with.
Just saying...
It sucks. It's true. I'm living proof.
He'll be ready when he's ready. Until then reflect inwardly on how you can better your situation and strengthen your recovery so that when he's ready you can be fully there armed with an arsenal of tools for recovery to help him with.
Just saying...
Thank you SerenitySeeker! I will and yes I understand. I just need to keep moving forward and he'll come through when he does. Thank you for the great advice!!
