Hi, I am on this board to try and understand what this type of addiction is all about and what you are all going through. Why? Because, I just made a new friend (Sept), whom I adore, only to find that she is fighting an addiction (pain meds). She is so sweet and kindhearted. We relate so well. I care. When I met her she was on a happy high (we bonded and she was happy to have met me and I felt the same), then she slowly progressed downhill. She has confided in me to a certain extent about her addiction. I know she is going to addiction meetings....etc. I just don't know what to do. She seems distant at times, wanting to connect w/me, but doesn't, seems depressed, retracts, then reaches back out to me, only to pull back.....We are both married and have children....so our time together is limited. Her husband told me to "just call." When I do, she seems distracted and disinterested. Doesn't always return my calls. My question is what can I do or say to help her through this? What helps? I don't know how to help her...I want to because I care. Is this beyond my reach? Can I help? What should I do? Thank you so much.
-Wanting to be a Good Friend
You are a good friend. I read your post feeling more how your friend feels than you do. We're very sociable when high, euphoric, talkative, etc. When we're out of pills and withdrawing, we're frightened, and don't feel that anyone understands. When we're sick like that and I've been many times, I get afraid. Afraid because I don't want to talk to even the best of friends, the only ones I can connect to are the ones here. I can't speak for your friend, but I'm sure she loves you very much. I reach out then pull back too. I don't know why I do that. Maybe she doesn't either. Reading your post did help me to understand that I probably do and have done that to my friends too. I even avoid calls at times, just don't feel like talking because my mind gets preoccupied on the pills, worries about the pills, etc, but it all seems to revolve around that.
Your a good friend. Stay with her....God bles....Briar
Your a good friend. Stay with her....God bles....Briar
