When personal attacks are made, especially from new members and/or those in active addiction, rather than retort in defense and antagonize (thus, to a degree, playing into their objective) as difficult as it may seem, why not ignore them, respond with kindness or bring it to our attention?
We understand the desire to get back at the other or attempt to "set the record straight", but in essence, attempting to do so feeds fuel to the fire and detracts from your personal recovery and the overall purpose of this messageboard.
"An eye for an eye leaves everyone blind"
- Ghandi
Thank you for listening.
Moderators,
I agree 100%, Thanks for sharing,
Take care.......................................God bless.......................................Bob
I agree 100%, Thanks for sharing,
Take care.......................................God bless.......................................Bob
I have been wrong before.......am I wrong now??? You read everything that goes on here. If I am the problem don't sugarcoat it, just tell me and I will leave peacefully. I just thought I was trying to set some people straight on things they themselves could not see. Obviously it did no good so I see I should let it go..............will they leave me alone if perhaps I should stay??? I do remember way back when I first got here.........I did not start this s***.......the very two I am after did and since I have watched them very two do it to many others......I"m not blind........are you moderator?????? Everyone else on here tells me to post as i please and ignore them two. I could do that if they would keep their negative commments to themselves. It would be no problem at all. If they would have done that to begin with none of this would have ever happened. Am I truly the only one who sees this?????
Hi,
Moderators. Lock this! MP, your wrong again! I'll paste your first post if ya' want? The post where I was supportive to you at first! Don't twist the truth.
The poor me poor me isn't gonna work. Teresa did nothing to you, nothing!
You wanna point out someones defects of character, focus on your own. There are things I really wanna say right now, but I'm pi$$ed and trying to do the right thing. Your only purpose here today posting was start a bunch of sh--!
Take care......................................God bless.......................................Bob
Moderators. Lock this! MP, your wrong again! I'll paste your first post if ya' want? The post where I was supportive to you at first! Don't twist the truth.
The poor me poor me isn't gonna work. Teresa did nothing to you, nothing!
You wanna point out someones defects of character, focus on your own. There are things I really wanna say right now, but I'm pi$$ed and trying to do the right thing. Your only purpose here today posting was start a bunch of sh--!
Take care......................................God bless.......................................Bob
Moderator,
Your suggestions won't work when you continually allow these same negetive
people, which is putting it politely, keep posting. Nothing but instigating posts come from this guy! Why let it keep happening?
Take care...........................................God bless..................................Bob
Your suggestions won't work when you continually allow these same negetive
people, which is putting it politely, keep posting. Nothing but instigating posts come from this guy! Why let it keep happening?
Take care...........................................God bless..................................Bob
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oh yes bob........I instigate all......and you none???
didn't you just say recently.........."why do all my posts get locked up".....................gee bob I wonder why........maybe it's because of your angelic status
didn't you just say recently.........."why do all my posts get locked up".....................gee bob I wonder why........maybe it's because of your angelic status
MP,
You just said in the above post, "The two I'm after". stop trying to look like the victom, get a grip, heres my first post to you I made before you for some reason jumped me, don't say I started with you......Not true! I'm sick of being accused of saying things I didn't!
Here is my first post to you, and I hope you eventually stop twisting the truth and start focusing on your recovery.
Bob Posted: December 23, 2004, 10:06 PM
Posts: 1606
Joined: February 14, 2004
Hi Maj,
Good luck to you, I'll pray you succeed as I pray for all of us. Addiction is a disease and speaking for myself, i can't do it alone. I tried it "My Way" and picked up. It was explained to me that willpower has nothing to do with it, it's like trying to will away Cancer or M.S. and I found that out the hard way. Good luck to you, I'll keep you in my prayers.
Take care....................................God bless.......................................Bob
You just said in the above post, "The two I'm after". stop trying to look like the victom, get a grip, heres my first post to you I made before you for some reason jumped me, don't say I started with you......Not true! I'm sick of being accused of saying things I didn't!
Here is my first post to you, and I hope you eventually stop twisting the truth and start focusing on your recovery.
Bob Posted: December 23, 2004, 10:06 PM
Posts: 1606
Joined: February 14, 2004
Hi Maj,
Good luck to you, I'll pray you succeed as I pray for all of us. Addiction is a disease and speaking for myself, i can't do it alone. I tried it "My Way" and picked up. It was explained to me that willpower has nothing to do with it, it's like trying to will away Cancer or M.S. and I found that out the hard way. Good luck to you, I'll keep you in my prayers.
Take care....................................God bless.......................................Bob
MP, in an open forum with hundreds of regular users each having their own opinion of what works (and does not work) in recovery, there will always be those that disagree with you and they have the right to state it. If you can take the approach that has been suggested by others here many times: take what you want and leave the rest, you will be fine here. If, however, you take every response personally and attack those that you feel are attacking you, it probably won't work for you. Also, what may seem like an attack is often people trying to help others in the way they know best.
Bob, if we take a hard-line approach and ban every user who personally attacks another, there probably would not be many users left. Some of the biggest "trouble makers" have really blossomed over the months and have stated that this forum was a big part of their recovery. We don't want to deny anyone a second, third, or even fourth chance as we all know it can take that and many more to succeed in recovery.
Best Regards to everyone.
Bob, if we take a hard-line approach and ban every user who personally attacks another, there probably would not be many users left. Some of the biggest "trouble makers" have really blossomed over the months and have stated that this forum was a big part of their recovery. We don't want to deny anyone a second, third, or even fourth chance as we all know it can take that and many more to succeed in recovery.
Best Regards to everyone.
ummmm..... can we get back to recovery now?
Moderator,
I understand, I just am getting tired these days of being accused of things I'm not a part of. I enjoy recovery and enjoy trying to share what works for me. I know I've been a handfull myself here in the past, but I really am trying to do the right thing here. I know you can't just ban people all the time, but damn, at least if you see someone, me or anyone getting accused of something they had no part in, then I think you should say something. That might keep those of us trying to do the right thing from feeling it's necessary to defend ourselves, which is only fair, only to "Fuel The Fire". Sure I can tell myself, "How important is it"
or "Let it go", but in a place where people only know someone by the written word, it's hard to get put down or accused of something and not respond. And I think it should be pointed out at least, that Majorproblemo started with me and esp. Teresa today for no reason, instead of alowing him to look like the victom in something that never happened.
Anyway, thanks for letting me share.....................God bless.................Bob
I understand, I just am getting tired these days of being accused of things I'm not a part of. I enjoy recovery and enjoy trying to share what works for me. I know I've been a handfull myself here in the past, but I really am trying to do the right thing here. I know you can't just ban people all the time, but damn, at least if you see someone, me or anyone getting accused of something they had no part in, then I think you should say something. That might keep those of us trying to do the right thing from feeling it's necessary to defend ourselves, which is only fair, only to "Fuel The Fire". Sure I can tell myself, "How important is it"
or "Let it go", but in a place where people only know someone by the written word, it's hard to get put down or accused of something and not respond. And I think it should be pointed out at least, that Majorproblemo started with me and esp. Teresa today for no reason, instead of alowing him to look like the victom in something that never happened.
Anyway, thanks for letting me share.....................God bless.................Bob
Thanks to you moderator, and Bob.......I fully give you credit for what you wrote above. Not to keep kicking what i wish would be a dead horse, but it was 100 percent teresa who started it. You just jumped right in the middle and teresa quietly bowed out for a few days after she got the s*** going that she wanted and it was left to me and you. I hold nothing against you. I am man enough to forget each and every single harsh thing said between us. Things ended up as they may and In the very beginning, it truly was not you, not one bit, and I apologize if I said it differently. Seems all the sudden once again....it is you and me????? Hmmmmmmmmm.......oh well. Shall we let it die bob.........perhaps both sit back and say no more so this can pass........then it will be up to T to decide if she can let it go as well...................
Sure,
I can let it go, thats fine with me.
Take care.........................................God bless...................................Bob
I can let it go, thats fine with me.
Take care.........................................God bless...................................Bob
To be honest we don't always no what happened to who and who said what first and why, etc. Like the email accusation which occurred yesterday which we knew nothing about until it was resolved later in the thread. In any case, MP, please let it go and if you want help try to clear your mind of what you feel happened here in the past and focus on seeking help with your recovery...otherwise there is really no benefit for you here. To find peace with others you must first find peace within yourself.
Kindest Regards.
Kindest Regards.
