I went to this psyc once and he said i have "social phobia" well it appears to have gotten worse, i cant go anywhere where there are big crowds....malls, shopping centres.....i can to places where i usually go and it doesnt bother me....doctors, video store, milkbar, i made myself go to the movies last sat night cuz i really wanted to see Dakota Fanning in "Hide and Seek" but i even put a cap on. I just dont want to bump into people i know and have them ask me....what are u doing now? what do i say? ive been at home popping pills and now my doctors got me trying to come off them....and plus i dont look as good as i used to...i dont mean to sound vain. Im just embarrassed. Even when i had a part time job this year for one day a week....i couldnt wait to get home! like homesickness or something....im too old for that...i just dont like to be away from home or out to be seen.....i dont like thinking anything will interupt my day....like work...that sounds so selfish i know but i just dont know whats wrong with me?!?! can anyone relate? if so i would really appreciate your thoughts and input as i feel as if im inprisoned and really im not, if you get what i mean. well i got to get off for now cuz im on my sisters comp and its late, but i will come and check in tomorrow!! thanking u in advance!!! take care friends! xxxx
Goodmorning Elvis,
Yeah, I can totally relate, my drug worker sent me to an anxiety counsellor and they told me i was 'socially phobic' (sp?) I never thought i was, but i do avoid people as much as i can,(since being in recovery, when i was in active addiction i lived with numerous people and was always around lots of people, but when i got onto sub, i had to get rid of everyone i knew as they all used some drug or another, and start afresh so i could remain clean) what i have done to try and get through this is firstly i got myself a part time job (4hours a day) and i work over the phone so i dont have to face people, and i have joined this board, i know i need to join some other kind of support network (na or summat like that, but i've still not plucked up the courage to go) and things are getting a little easier, i'm now plucking up the courage to do some volentary work with people with special needs which will lead to another job(again i'm terrified but sometimes you just have to bite the bullet and get on with it, or nothing will change) I wish you all the luck in the world, and know you can do it, if can, then you can babe.........
GOODLUCK
Love
Gabbi
Yeah, I can totally relate, my drug worker sent me to an anxiety counsellor and they told me i was 'socially phobic' (sp?) I never thought i was, but i do avoid people as much as i can,(since being in recovery, when i was in active addiction i lived with numerous people and was always around lots of people, but when i got onto sub, i had to get rid of everyone i knew as they all used some drug or another, and start afresh so i could remain clean) what i have done to try and get through this is firstly i got myself a part time job (4hours a day) and i work over the phone so i dont have to face people, and i have joined this board, i know i need to join some other kind of support network (na or summat like that, but i've still not plucked up the courage to go) and things are getting a little easier, i'm now plucking up the courage to do some volentary work with people with special needs which will lead to another job(again i'm terrified but sometimes you just have to bite the bullet and get on with it, or nothing will change) I wish you all the luck in the world, and know you can do it, if can, then you can babe.........
GOODLUCK
Love
Gabbi
Hey sweety so theres a word for what I have.E I totally HATE being around people.Its not that I dont like people but Im happier being alone or with my small family.I just stay out of public places if I can or I go with the BF otherwise my chest gets tight,I get jumpy,sweated it gets ugly.So i guess your not alone...mj
Hi Mj, yeah elvis, you really are NOT alone xxx
hey gabs sort of like....we are not alone ufo etc...mj
LMAO you are so funny mj xxx
Gabbi I feel like a fool.I probaly read it but was so into me I miss the smack part I thought you were a pill popper.So on that note.I THINK YOU ARE TOTALLY 100% AWESOME you are beating a demon that has taken alot of souls home.I AM SO PROUD GABBY....mj
I was a pill popper too, but it was smack that brought me to my knees (lost 10yrs to heroin addiction) but i have been smack free for a couple of years now.
Go me!!! Go me!!! Go me!!! I NEVER thought i'd make it this far, i thought i was gonna die, and so did everyone else, but i surprised em all xxx
Go me!!! Go me!!! Go me!!! I NEVER thought i'd make it this far, i thought i was gonna die, and so did everyone else, but i surprised em all xxx
Gabs have you ever got that feeling in by your heart where it feels so so happy?Thats how I just felt reading your last post.I really am so glad you are here today.Im proud to be getting to know such a beautiful person.I bet the smack covered that side up huh?ANYWAYS (((((((hugs sweet gabby)))))))mj
Ok Elvis,
I know exactly what you are talking about...but I have a different thing going on. I love people and am very outgoing, but the crowds kill me and stupid places where I am comfortable bother me.......I have noticed that the farther I get from the door the worse I am.....I have even changed the way I do things...I work from back to front so I can see the way out.....This is total insanity, most of it I know is my own doing.....and I take nothing. I have found that I can get through anything if I have company along.....
But your touching on a problem that I am going for answers for next week....And of course my doctor is a firm believer that pills cure all....and I hate the fact of having to take meds....I just sent a buch of stuff out to some on here about panic attacks if you want just let me know and I will post my email, you can even get from Molly she has it.......My biggest hope is that in reading what I just got I see some outside things that could explain what the hell is going on. Things that are simple like food allergies, diet and vitamin defiencies(sp)...
this is new for me........like 6 years but I was pregnant 2 times and nursing in the mix of things.....so when that happened the panic got better and when I was pregnant it all but disappeared, but as I weened the baby it started coming back with a vengence......So much for trying to understand even alittle what the hell is going on.....
I really hope that you can find things that work for you......my sister has suffered since she was in her early teens. It took her awhile but thank god she found a way to cope and enjoy life......Nothing holds her back now....
Love,
Tina
I know exactly what you are talking about...but I have a different thing going on. I love people and am very outgoing, but the crowds kill me and stupid places where I am comfortable bother me.......I have noticed that the farther I get from the door the worse I am.....I have even changed the way I do things...I work from back to front so I can see the way out.....This is total insanity, most of it I know is my own doing.....and I take nothing. I have found that I can get through anything if I have company along.....
But your touching on a problem that I am going for answers for next week....And of course my doctor is a firm believer that pills cure all....and I hate the fact of having to take meds....I just sent a buch of stuff out to some on here about panic attacks if you want just let me know and I will post my email, you can even get from Molly she has it.......My biggest hope is that in reading what I just got I see some outside things that could explain what the hell is going on. Things that are simple like food allergies, diet and vitamin defiencies(sp)...
this is new for me........like 6 years but I was pregnant 2 times and nursing in the mix of things.....so when that happened the panic got better and when I was pregnant it all but disappeared, but as I weened the baby it started coming back with a vengence......So much for trying to understand even alittle what the hell is going on.....
I really hope that you can find things that work for you......my sister has suffered since she was in her early teens. It took her awhile but thank god she found a way to cope and enjoy life......Nothing holds her back now....
Love,
Tina
I suppose the smack did hide that side, but cos i'm not nasty by nature(and wasnt even in full adiction mode) i did get shat on from some real heights by some so called friends who were also junkies!!!!! I think thats why i have such a hard time trusting people now??
Thanx for your kind words it means sooo much to me xxxx but you are an awsome person and i feel so much better for knowing you a little xxx
Thanx for your kind words it means sooo much to me xxxx but you are an awsome person and i feel so much better for knowing you a little xxx
Elvis,
Just wanted to jump in and say I can't relate but I know people that can. My boyfriend's brother is 21 and he is that way. He is on paxil and it helps some but really not enough to get him out of his bedroom. One of my great grandma's had a phobia of being around people for years and years before she died.
I have always been out-going and love to be around lots of people, crowds, concerts whatever, so I can't say I can help you much. I hope you know that your not alone there are many people that suffer with the same problem... What does your doctor say about it? Keep us posted.. Take care! Rae
Just wanted to jump in and say I can't relate but I know people that can. My boyfriend's brother is 21 and he is that way. He is on paxil and it helps some but really not enough to get him out of his bedroom. One of my great grandma's had a phobia of being around people for years and years before she died.
I have always been out-going and love to be around lots of people, crowds, concerts whatever, so I can't say I can help you much. I hope you know that your not alone there are many people that suffer with the same problem... What does your doctor say about it? Keep us posted.. Take care! Rae
Thankyou gabbie, mj, mistyeyes, and rae.....i do feel bette that im not alone in this, i was beginning to wonder if there was something seriouly wrong with me...but i got to get out and moving again sometime, however im going to do that! but i cant stay at home on the dole forever :(......thanx so much for all ur support!!! luv u all xxxx
p.s off for the night now but pls keep coming with the advice if u still got some cuz its just got to the ridiculous stage with me! thanx again! xxxxxxxxxx
p.s off for the night now but pls keep coming with the advice if u still got some cuz its just got to the ridiculous stage with me! thanx again! xxxxxxxxxx
Hey E I love how you & I post.You have my E so Im never that far away.I enjoy talking with you & I think you are a nice person who is having a real hard time right now.Im around if ya need me kiddo.Take Care....mj
Hey E, I think there are antidepressants that are specifically for social disorders like yours. Gabbi (I think) mentioned paxil. Are you taking anything like that to help? I'm sure your doc would have given it to you by now. Anyway, I don't like crowds of people, I don't go to festivals, disney world, etc. Just don't like to be around that many people at once. I also hate to stand in line!! Not that I'm special or anything like that, maybe I'm just too impatient. I take effexor, but that is for something else that's wrong with my brain. Wish you luck and we know you are trying, so keep up the good work. Get out and get some sunshine! Take care.
my wife has a social phobia, panic, attics, etc, etc. it is a tough thing, but u are definitely no alone. Life is tough, and we all have these different things that we contend with, even though it always looks to me like the rest of the people in the world are just find.
My biggest thing is fighting depression, and there are times when , well, it depresses me, no seriously, there are times when it almost makes my life, well, bearly livable.
So you certainly are not alone, and sometimes we just endure, with the belief and hope that things will get better. ( i think they always can)
My biggest thing is fighting depression, and there are times when , well, it depresses me, no seriously, there are times when it almost makes my life, well, bearly livable.
So you certainly are not alone, and sometimes we just endure, with the belief and hope that things will get better. ( i think they always can)
Elvis, I know you are tapering off of Benzo's. Did you feel thisway beforethe benzo? I didn't, but when I quit Xanax, it hit me big time. Its ok now but for the first 2-3 months it was bad..it might be because you are reducing your dose..
Thanx mj, natasha, browndog and danny, i am on effexor too so i am on an anti-depressant but u say there are ones specifically for this kind of thing?! perhaps im on the wrong one...i dont talk about it to my doctor much, he will just say, are u looking for work yet? and i will say kinda, meaning no cuz i dont want to sound like a lazy so and so cuz thats what he thinks of people who dont work, once he said to me "u dont want to be a lazy dole bludger forever do u?" that hurt....i think i need to go back to my psyc and talk to him about this and perhaps be put on the right medication, not that that psyc ever beleived in medication....hmmm. Danny im not sure if its got anything to do with the tapering and lowering my doses of xanax, cuz when i was working a few years back i wasnt even on xanax and i was working and going out and fine. i think ive been at home too long, gotten into a rouitine, put on some weight, and now i dont want to bump into anyone i used to know out of embarrasment for the two reasons questions about my life and how i look....god i mean im not the elephant woman and im not even huge huge but to me, well if u knew me before ud know what i mean, once again i dont mean to sound vain, just even my family are always in my ear about it too which doesnt help. anyone know that elvis song "make the world go away" thats a bit how im feeling. even people i dont know i get embarrased and always try to wear sunglasses and a cap?!?! if i ever take my dog for a walk i go at night when its dark. ive even had my curtains in my room pinned closed for the last 2yrs which makes my mum mad cuz its a big lovely double window, and she says how lovely it used to look and even my room is constantly dark, she tells me to dust behind there lol. she calls it the squallar of the house?!? anyway thanx all for writing i really appreciate ur support, u dont know how much it means to me!!! luv u all xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx
Hey Elvis,
In answer to your question, Paxil is use for social phobias, with much success. I have no idea if effexor does the same thing. My sister has used Paxil for many years and it has greatly changed her life for the better.....
Love,
Tina
In answer to your question, Paxil is use for social phobias, with much success. I have no idea if effexor does the same thing. My sister has used Paxil for many years and it has greatly changed her life for the better.....
Love,
Tina
Hey mistyeyes thanx for the information, so paxil is used for social phobias hey, i might ask if i can go off the effexor and go onto paxil then!! and see what he says, if he questions me i will just have to tell him what ive told u guys! thanx so much for all ur help! take care xxxxxxxxxxxxx
p.s does anyone know of any major side effects of paxil, does it put weight on? anything else, cuz my doc doesnt tell me much thanx xxx
p.s does anyone know of any major side effects of paxil, does it put weight on? anything else, cuz my doc doesnt tell me much thanx xxx
