I am beyond confused and livid. My boyfriend has been on Subutex for a few weeks now and has been clean from heroin since the day before he started. HOWEVER i just found out that last week he picked up Meth with his MOTHER. Now this is no unheard of for him, his mother is a fully blown addict and enabler. She used drugs his entire childhood, and used with him his first time as well. Their relationship is disgustingly unhealthy. I truly feel if he would have grown up elsewhere he would not be an addict today, but that besides the point. He was in prison about 7-8 months ago, got completely clean and i got us an apartment so that when he was released he had a safe, drug free environment. (i felt if he went back to his mom's house she would just take him right back down the rabbit hole) Now I have sat and had MANY conversations with his mom and i do like her, but i CANNOT STAND HOW SHE IS HELPING MY BOYFRIEND RUIN HIS LIFE. I understand it all boils down to his choice, but one would think that they wouldn't have to worry around their mom or be tempted/triggered around her, let alone knowing she will just hand you whatever you want..an she does! she enables the hell out of him!!! She is so FAKE;; One second she is crying and saying how much she worries about her son and him possibly overdosing and "All she wants in this life is to see him get clean and happy" but then the next second she is handing over her stash to get high WITH him. I don't know what to do!! i told him their relationship is unhealthy, so have others. He knows it himself! I've asked that distance be put there but it seems living somewhere else is just not enough. Part of me wants to call and get her in trouble so she will leave my boyfriend alone!!!! I dont understand what kind of mother can do those things and still call herself a mother. I just don't know what to do....
You said you were unsure as in what to do. And possibly call in and get her in trouble (the mother). but in a what way would you be getting her in trouble? Who would you call or tell ? I think if you did that (like if you got her arrested or something) then he would be very upset at you. I would be if someone did that to my mom. Good luck to you.
Sammi if I was you I would run!! You see how this guy is and you still want to be with him? Why? You love him! I know!! But what if 15 yrs from now he is sitting smoking meth with his son/daughter that you and him had together? If his mother does it with him, what's to stop him from thinking its normal and he does the same with his kid. You should do some serious thinking of how you see yourself in 2 years from now and how long have you already put up with his lifestyle so far. Good luck! M.
