Will you please 'splain the "fear," thing the way it was 'spained to you? My sponsor suggested that "Fear is based on one of two things: That I am not going to get something I WANT, or someone/thing is going to take away something I HAVE.
24Gordon learned it as, "There are really only two feelings: Fear and Love. Everything else is just an extension of the two..."
That's pretty much what I was taught too. I was filled with fear when I got sober. My biggest fear was living without getting high. That kept me from getting sober for a long time. I was afraid of people and what they would think of me. I was afraid of being homeless. I was just one big bag of fear with no self esteem or self confidence. My sponsor helped me walk thru all of them. Now my biggest fear is flying. I'm not quite sure what that would be losing except for my life but that's my fear of the year.
I was taught that if I have faith I shouldn't have fear but I still have a problem understanding that. I wholeheartedly believe my HP is looking out for me but I am still human and I still have fear. I believe God gave us fear for a reason. It's when we let it get out of hand and it paralyzes us that it becomes a problem just like all our other instincts that we let get out of hand (sex, security, etc).
I'm not quite sure if this answers your question but its all I've got. Stacey, what do you think?
I was taught that if I have faith I shouldn't have fear but I still have a problem understanding that. I wholeheartedly believe my HP is looking out for me but I am still human and I still have fear. I believe God gave us fear for a reason. It's when we let it get out of hand and it paralyzes us that it becomes a problem just like all our other instincts that we let get out of hand (sex, security, etc).
I'm not quite sure if this answers your question but its all I've got. Stacey, what do you think?
Hi SKG,
I let Miss Katbird know we were requesting her wisdom over here...LOL. She's probably in a meeting but I'm sure she'll be around soon....
I want to clarify on this one...I've been journaling lately about feelings and instead of using that word, I think what I was trying to express is the word, emotions (which is a baffling word for me)...
There are really only two emotions; fear and love and everything else is an extension of those...
And what your sponsor shared with you, I've heard and agree with too...The Big Book talks on Pg 559, "we are taught to differentiate between our wants (which are never satisfied) and our needs (which are always provided for). We cast off the burdens of the past and the anxieties of the future, as we begin to live in the present, one day at a time. We are granted "the serenity to accept the things we cannot change".
We find peace, with ourselves and with others. And with God.
Smooches,
Stacey
I let Miss Katbird know we were requesting her wisdom over here...LOL. She's probably in a meeting but I'm sure she'll be around soon....
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| "There are really only two feelings |
I want to clarify on this one...I've been journaling lately about feelings and instead of using that word, I think what I was trying to express is the word, emotions (which is a baffling word for me)...
There are really only two emotions; fear and love and everything else is an extension of those...
And what your sponsor shared with you, I've heard and agree with too...The Big Book talks on Pg 559, "we are taught to differentiate between our wants (which are never satisfied) and our needs (which are always provided for). We cast off the burdens of the past and the anxieties of the future, as we begin to live in the present, one day at a time. We are granted "the serenity to accept the things we cannot change".
We find peace, with ourselves and with others. And with God.
Smooches,
Stacey
LOL, Kathi, we were posting at the same time....
I was taught that when I am in faith, I am with God. When I am in fear, I am in myself. I know for me, I can go back and forth on some days like a freakin yo-yo but when I truly let it go, or walk through the fear, I can feel the fear leave.
That fear of flying I can relate too....remember last year when you "held" my hand when I had to fly to Los Angeles...got turbulance (which never happens on the local flights) and the plane dropped, I'm clutching my Big Book, praying like you wouldn't believe, can't text you to whine, trying not to scream and the 6 yr old little boy next to me laughs and says "Mommy, that was fun, just like a rollercoaster, do it again" LOL...God does have a sense of humor....
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| I was taught that if I have faith I shouldn't have fear but I still have a problem understanding that. |
I was taught that when I am in faith, I am with God. When I am in fear, I am in myself. I know for me, I can go back and forth on some days like a freakin yo-yo but when I truly let it go, or walk through the fear, I can feel the fear leave.
That fear of flying I can relate too....remember last year when you "held" my hand when I had to fly to Los Angeles...got turbulance (which never happens on the local flights) and the plane dropped, I'm clutching my Big Book, praying like you wouldn't believe, can't text you to whine, trying not to scream and the 6 yr old little boy next to me laughs and says "Mommy, that was fun, just like a rollercoaster, do it again" LOL...God does have a sense of humor....
Hmmm. Going to have to ponder this one for a while. I use FAITH (3) as a one of the principles to mitigate my fear in prayer, and I understand LOVE (8) to be another principle of my spirituality. One I ask for, and one I give.
Gotta muddle this a bit, I think.
I'm just trying to get mine to match up with Stacey's!
Thanks, 12Stepper, BTW. Is this like knocking 3 times on the ceiling?
Gotta muddle this a bit, I think.
I'm just trying to get mine to match up with Stacey's!
Thanks, 12Stepper, BTW. Is this like knocking 3 times on the ceiling?
