does any1 have advice on how to deal with someone after they get out of rehab for oxycontin...or even how long the adverage person stays in rehab for it i would love to know. my boyfriend just went into rehab not even telling me he was going and i just want to know what to expect.
Hey Rita, did he go to rehab or to detox, because there is a difference? I'll tell you what I know cause I went through what he is going through this time last year and it was BAD.....................
im pretty sure he is in rehab, but they put him thru detox...he broke up with me about 2 days before he went in and didnt tell me he was even going. i found out thru friends. i am going thru my own addictions and i think him getting help is making me stronger to stop. our relationship got bad, he was abusive...does that have anything to do with the addiction?
Well, Rehab usually lasts about thirty days....the first week they may have him in detox....so if he is truly in rehab then don't expect to see him for about thirty days, unless he just up and walks out of the program...When he gets out, he should have a few tools that will help him to get on the right path with his life...He will be advised to go to AA/NA and probably councelling afterwards too...
Sure, pills can make one abusive...Sounds to me like you needed to break up...Don't worry about him, it looks like you have enough problems of you own right now...Just deal with your problems and let him work out his problems for himself....
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Sure, pills can make one abusive...Sounds to me like you needed to break up...Don't worry about him, it looks like you have enough problems of you own right now...Just deal with your problems and let him work out his problems for himself....
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I also post under the name of Florida Girl.....
Thank you for the welcome. His mom was only in it for 2 weeks, ofcourse she is now taking things again. I know i have alot to deal with of my own, i do love him and want him to be okay. 30 days...hes going to miss valentines day and my birthday :( hopefully by the time he comes out i will be okay as well. if i go to a dr. will they give me something to help with the xanex withdrawls? it wasnt my perscription...and its so hard trying not to take anything.
Oh my gosh honey
I am posting you on the other thread, and just saw this one..i didnt realize he was abusive...that explains a bit more of the sliting of your wrists and car crash...
Just by your post honey, i think you are codependent, cus here you are worrying about him and how hes doing and you should be worrying about yourself...
Addiction aside, I would strongly recommend you read the book called "Men who hate women and the women who love them"
This book changes lives for women who are stuck in violent or abusive relationships....
i wish i could find the right words to tell you, or convince you that you need to step back far enoguh to see things clearly...
Him being away from you and inj a treatment program is a break that may be very good for you....use this time apart to getting help for yourself...have you seen anyone about your suicide attempt????
How old are you and how long ahave you been with this boyfriend??
Honey you are so worth a happy life, and love is not cruel and abusive, love does not make you sad and unhappy and want to die...what you have with him isnt real love...it sounds to nme like it is an addiction in itself..
can you get that book??Its been around for a long time now..
Where do you live and how is your relationship with your dr??
Theres so much I wish i could tell you, and do for you...your in a bad space right now honey, its tough enough to rid yourself from an addiction, never mind an abusive codependent relationshiop a t the same time..
keep posting...
hugs
Ali
I am posting you on the other thread, and just saw this one..i didnt realize he was abusive...that explains a bit more of the sliting of your wrists and car crash...
Just by your post honey, i think you are codependent, cus here you are worrying about him and how hes doing and you should be worrying about yourself...
Addiction aside, I would strongly recommend you read the book called "Men who hate women and the women who love them"
This book changes lives for women who are stuck in violent or abusive relationships....
i wish i could find the right words to tell you, or convince you that you need to step back far enoguh to see things clearly...
Him being away from you and inj a treatment program is a break that may be very good for you....use this time apart to getting help for yourself...have you seen anyone about your suicide attempt????
How old are you and how long ahave you been with this boyfriend??
Honey you are so worth a happy life, and love is not cruel and abusive, love does not make you sad and unhappy and want to die...what you have with him isnt real love...it sounds to nme like it is an addiction in itself..
can you get that book??Its been around for a long time now..
Where do you live and how is your relationship with your dr??
Theres so much I wish i could tell you, and do for you...your in a bad space right now honey, its tough enough to rid yourself from an addiction, never mind an abusive codependent relationshiop a t the same time..
keep posting...
hugs
Ali
20yrs old, in the relationship for a year, i dont have a doctor or insurance...yes i can get the book and about the co-dependant part, i was thrown in the garbage when i was born by my mother...its hard to deal with that, and i know alot of my problems lead back to trying to deal with being "not wanted" so when a guy claims to not want me for whatever reason i do whatever i can to make him want me again. that might also have to do with not having a father growing up. my adopted father died when i was 2 years old. i have had a male image in my life, but my mother raised me.