Thank you for your thoughts. Hope you have a great time moving into your new home! I met my "friend" through his uncle, who is a wonderful man. We dated 1 year and 4 months until I found him snorting cocaine in my kitchen one evening, and then the next morning I found 2 bracelets missing. He was very sweet to me and would do anything for me, literally! He is younger than me by 6 years. I visited him and his mom in the south this past August, and I had a load of fun. My "friend" and I always had fun together. He just sent me a birthday card and a "healing" card. Said he'd always be here for me. I don't want this type of stuff in my life, lieing and stealing, he has no respect for me, plus all he wants is what I have.. He has absolutely NOTHING. He even had to have his mother write checks for him and to get his cat out of the "hotel" where she had been boarded for 2 weeks. He's a salaried employee, I know that much, but he's a loser!!!
Hey hun:)
Just found this thread:)
A lot of the times I think that it is not the length of time that a person dates another one for, BUT more importantly the events that carried that friendship/relationship out, that dictate how much love/affection there is.
I dated a 46 year old lady, one that is a real keeper. She is MUCH older than me (as you know my age already), and in that 3-4 months I was there for her through real hard times. She was undergoing tremendous personal stress and conveyed in me....the friendship was ended by me because she was too demanding and bossie..makes me laugh when I look back though, and this is only within the last year.
She was/is in love with me, because of how I treated her and the "quality" time we spend (no drugs whatsoever involved from either party). The friendship never consumed it self, because she and I wanted to be sure (dated for 3-4 months, but knew eachother closely for JUST over 12 months).
So as with your "friend", although completely different situation than mine and MY friend, I can see that you had deep feelings for him.
I believe that those feelings, made you want to save him from his horrifying living life, but the abuse that he inculcated into YOUR life really do not add up. The stealing was not so much that made you feel belittled, but I think the liying was what did it for you. Of course the drug abuse had to do with your decision as well. You add up all of those 3--deceiving, stealing, drugs--and those make the perfect equation for a disaster at the end.
You stay safe and away from that person and eventually he will move on.
All4Luv1707
Just found this thread:)
A lot of the times I think that it is not the length of time that a person dates another one for, BUT more importantly the events that carried that friendship/relationship out, that dictate how much love/affection there is.
I dated a 46 year old lady, one that is a real keeper. She is MUCH older than me (as you know my age already), and in that 3-4 months I was there for her through real hard times. She was undergoing tremendous personal stress and conveyed in me....the friendship was ended by me because she was too demanding and bossie..makes me laugh when I look back though, and this is only within the last year.
She was/is in love with me, because of how I treated her and the "quality" time we spend (no drugs whatsoever involved from either party). The friendship never consumed it self, because she and I wanted to be sure (dated for 3-4 months, but knew eachother closely for JUST over 12 months).
So as with your "friend", although completely different situation than mine and MY friend, I can see that you had deep feelings for him.
I believe that those feelings, made you want to save him from his horrifying living life, but the abuse that he inculcated into YOUR life really do not add up. The stealing was not so much that made you feel belittled, but I think the liying was what did it for you. Of course the drug abuse had to do with your decision as well. You add up all of those 3--deceiving, stealing, drugs--and those make the perfect equation for a disaster at the end.
You stay safe and away from that person and eventually he will move on.
All4Luv1707
Thank you for this. I have been away from this site for a few days....my mom's health issues have been a little overwhelming for the family of late.
I have not heard from my "friend" in a few weeks which tells me that he's doing his thing, and that's just fine with me. Sure, there is a piece of my heart missing, but I do know one thing, I'm healing.
Hope your new home is coming along!
I have not heard from my "friend" in a few weeks which tells me that he's doing his thing, and that's just fine with me. Sure, there is a piece of my heart missing, but I do know one thing, I'm healing.
Hope your new home is coming along!
