question for the sober people- ever since i came clean to my husband he is blameing any problem i bring to his attention on the drugs. example he has been really putting work before us a lot lately, i didn't see him for almost 3 weeks and by see him i mean hang out etc. and finally last night we plan on meeting at a local resturant after work. so i meet up with him and not 5 minutes goes by and his work cell phone rings and i say turn it off your off the clock. he answers it anyway and its his boss asking him if he will take the on call shift for the rest of the weekend and he says yes. wouldn't be a big deal except he is on call this monday to next monday and on call means you go no where cause you can be called in anytime day or night. I bring this up over breakfast this morning (first time we went out to breakfast together in @a month) and his only response-your just cranky cause of the drugs????everything and i mean everything i bring up that is bothering me thats his answer. keep in mind people he had noooo idea about the drugs till i spilled the beans last week. what do you think?is it his easy way out? or am i in denial???
He probably has a resentment towards you for putting the drugs before him. In his eyes you chose drugs over everything. Your clean and sober actions will be a living amends towards him and I am sure he will begin to settle down. Our actions speak louder than our words.
Rachel
Rachel
I didnt even finish reading that post but YUP YOUR NUTS lol.No honest my BF is one of the best supports I have but even he tends to blame the drugs for anything.From the house being a mess to stinky farts LOL.I think its just easier sometimes to blame the open problem than the ones that hide just beneith the surface.Hope that made sense & made you smile a bit too...mj
sounds like you will have some extra time, angela.
do you go to meetings?
hugs -
sammy
do you go to meetings?
hugs -
sammy
Well,
You have to understand that you held a BIG lie behind his back for a very long time. Im sure he feels some resentment towards it. Im sure he doesnt even know if he can trust you at all and at the present time, Im sure he doesnt trust you.
But thats what you get for being a drug addict and then lying behind his back. I know cause I did the samething to my parents. Even now Im 8 months clean its still an issue sometimes.
So dont expect any miracles in the near future. In all honesty this is 100% completely your fault for being a drug addict in the first place. But it wouldnt hurt ot educate him abit on the subject too.
You have to understand that you held a BIG lie behind his back for a very long time. Im sure he feels some resentment towards it. Im sure he doesnt even know if he can trust you at all and at the present time, Im sure he doesnt trust you.
But thats what you get for being a drug addict and then lying behind his back. I know cause I did the samething to my parents. Even now Im 8 months clean its still an issue sometimes.
So dont expect any miracles in the near future. In all honesty this is 100% completely your fault for being a drug addict in the first place. But it wouldnt hurt ot educate him abit on the subject too.
