I have been battleing with the question if i am still the one for my wife after we are both clean? We started using together about 6 months into our relationship and were clean for the 2 weeks when we got married.
I just dont want our relationship to be bassed on drugs and I love her so much. It just seems like without drugs we fight a lot more and i know that we remind eachother so much of oxy's.
We have both been clean for 3 weeks and she wants to move out of the city to her fathers farm land and i just dont know. Is there anyone out there who is in the same situation or who has gone thruough this, your advice would be appreciated!
Hello, I'm new to the board, and I happen to come across your post. My story is a little similar. My husband and I were both addicted to Lortab. He was addicted for a year and I was addicted for three years. I feel an enormous amout of responsibility for his addiction. He went cold turkey six months ago and hasnt touched one since. However, after seeing the Hell on earth he went through with withdrawal, I decided to go the tapering route. I'm almost done, as I have three pills left, and I will be done with this process in a couple of days. The withdrawals have not been pleasant, but nowhere near the suffering he went through. I was a pharmacist and I quit my job in order to get better, because I knew I would never be able to get clean being around that temptation daily. Every kind of narcotic you could imagine, I was handling on a daily basis. I questioned myself just as you did. Am I really the right kind of wife he needs. Because I continued to use six months after he went cold turkey. I felt like I was just tempting him everyday, because I wasn't ready to give them up. I did a lot of soul searching, and I realized that my love for him and our children far outweighed the "high" I was getting from Lortab. And yes, we had many welterweight fights over this. He was the clean one and I was the junkie who was unconsciously pushing him back into that lifestyle of drugs. So, after we talked about divorce, I realized that nothing was more important than trying to keep our family together. I love him with all my heart and he is my inspiration, whether he knows that or not. In fact, I shoud tell him that. I hope you and your wife can work through this. There are times when my husband and I say things like, "Wouldn't it be great if we could just get high one more time", and then we immediately take it back. Its like mourning the loss of something you onced loved and lived for. If you love your wife and she loves you and you two want it to work, then it will. I think you just have to each compromise on things. Just remember, its not just her recovery, its yours too. I wish you the best of luck and I will keep you and your wife in my thoughts and prayers. Best of luck and God Bless Us ALL.
~Jen
~Jen
I'm also in a similar situation. My boyfriend and I have been together for 2years.he's been using oxy's on and off for 3-4yrs.I started using them about a year ago.I understand how you feel you wonder if that is what your relationship was based on.Just remember why you fell in love with her,i'm sure it's not drugs that attracted you to her. I've only been clean for a week(suboxone) so has he. We were living together and had a dr apt for last thursday to get off and 2 days before we went his mother stopped by our apt(that she owned) and confronted us and asked if we were using any drugs.We were honest and she said in order for her to help us she was going to kick us out and have me move back in to my moms and him move back home. I thought it was the end of the world for me to be separated while we were going through this(she wont let us see eachother or speak on the phone for 2months)I feel very alone but i look forward to the future with my new self and my new man.I have read a few success stories so there is hope.Just remember why you fell in love in the first place.Love conquers all it really does.if i can do it anyone can,trust me KC
