when i get home from work i like to kick back with a few beverages. i don;t feel the need to get totally smashed until i pass out but i definiteyl like a good buzz to end the day. last night i drank a bottle and a half of wine. i didn;t really get that messed up.i am 6' 4", 215, so my size and tolarnce do come into play.is this a problem? i don;t feel the need to drink during the day and i can completely function throughout the day. what do you all think.
thanks
that's a good question...i guess the idea that you drink in order to get a buzz should tell you something. so hard to give advice to someone about drinking when i condemned my parents for doing it...my dad was alcoholic and has been clean since i was 17, my mom drinks wine 1 glass a day now, but used to really have a thing for scotch
dones't everyone drink to get a buzz? i not talking smashed but honestly, what would be the point of a chemical being in something if it didn;t relax you a bit.
some people drink a glass of wine for their health, not to get a buzz, i wasn't trying to seem judgemental, personally, i have consumed plenty of alcohol exactly for a buzz, but have found that being an addict, any substance can trigger my addiction
to answer your question about the reason? i have no clue.
to answer your question about the reason? i have no clue.
it's all good, didn;t take what you said personally. it just seems like alot of people my age, 27, drink more than they should and it's acceptable. kinda wierd.
i just want to figure out where the line of alcoholism starts and signs that you are one other than the questionaire thing that is on this board. i know a ton of people who would say yes to alot of those questions and they all seem fine. thanks for the responses.
i just want to figure out where the line of alcoholism starts and signs that you are one other than the questionaire thing that is on this board. i know a ton of people who would say yes to alot of those questions and they all seem fine. thanks for the responses.
vaporicer@yahoo.comIf you are questioning yourself there is obviously something that you are
concerned about. One beer, two beer, three beer sorevaporicer@yahoo.com - if I am talking about
it, there has to be something more.....
concerned about. One beer, two beer, three beer sorevaporicer@yahoo.com - if I am talking about
it, there has to be something more.....
I am female, about 140 lbs and drink at least 1 bottle of wine at night too! I also question if I am an alcoholic!! I function fine in the day, but after dinner and putting the kids to bed, I will drink wine, sometimes w/ my husband and simetimes by myself! I also worry what effect it has onmy older kids, teenagers, that see this happen!
that's kinda where i get confused about it all. why should you stop having 4 glasses of wine or so a night. i think if you were all sloppy and being an a** around your kids it would be bad. but if that's what works for you and you can go without it if you are on a trip or away for some reason, what's the big deal.
i could be wrong but i'm interested to hear what people have to say.
i could be wrong but i'm interested to hear what people have to say.
If your questioning yourself and asking for advice, then there might be a problem. Not necessarily and alcoholic but be careful. That's how I use to do it until I was being late for work, then all my daily routines got out of wack. I knew I had a big problem when I couldn't remember what I did the night before and would wake up on the bathroom floor. It was fun and relaxing when I started back twenty years ago. Also grew up in an "alcoholic" home, so this is how I learned to have fun and socialize. But without it, I sucked. I stopped using when I started using drugs with it to get a better "high". I almost got kicked out of university because of a low GPA. I had to stop also because I was pregnant. This was 9 years ago. Yes, I didn't hit "rock bottom" but you don't have to as Dr. Phil says. Oh ya, "harm reduction" didn't work for me either. It's up to you to decide. "It's your call".
I feel like alcoholism really is progressive, so be careful. I wish I never discovered the stuff personally, because I did just fine withthout it but now it's just so tempting for me. I say that I'm not going to drink, but then I break down and do it. Reading the big book helps a little. I know that I use the excuse that a lot of people are the same as me. I dont drink a lot. I normally have about 10-12 drinks a week, and that's over about 2 nights a week. But apparently that's unhealthy to have that much, and thats the main reason I want to quit drinking. Also, I worry that I've made an a** of myself, as I am kind of a cheap drunk. But all my friends drink, I just seem to drink a little more than them a lot of the times. Not all the time, but somtimes. It's very hard when your boyfriend that you live with is saying that he also doesnt feel you have a problem. That makes another excuse for yourself to say "Ah, I probly am ok, i'm going to go buy a bottle of wine" I drink by myself somtimes after work. My boyfriend will be downstairs in the rumpas room, and I'll enjoy a couple glasses of wine while making dinner. When he has water, or juice with dinner, I'll have wine. (Somtimes, like a night or two a week) I know that my alcoholism isnt to the point where it's ruining my health, but It's bad enough for me to want to quit, and I feel like I cant! I feel like it's hopeless. I decide to quit, then I change my mind and say "It's ok to have 4 drinks per sitting" or "As long as I dont exceed 7 drinks per week" &%^$*$%^%&*&^ I dont know what to do anymore, or how I could ever possibly quit for good. For one, my lifestyle with my friends and family involves drinking a little, and for two, I am too weak to fight the cravings to have a few when I want to. Alcoholism is wierd, it messes with your brain. It can slowly but surly sneak up on you and become worse. I know that I do have a problem. I think I am probly an alcoholic but I'm not sure. The reason I am inclined to thinking I am, is because I dont have control over it somtimes. There are somtimes I can stop at 2 or 3, but other times I just keep going, even tho I told myself that I wouldnt. I never know when I have that first drink, what it'll be, controlled, or out of control, and it's left to chance. Hmm.
Wondering,
The fact that you are posting on this board says alot. People who don't have a problem with alcohol do not question whether or not they are alcoholic. I go to A.A. & I always like to say that people don't end up in A.A. by mistake. Just a thought. My drinking started out as fun & didn't seem to be a problem. That was many years ago. Alcoholism is a progressive disease. My disease progressed over the years from being fun into full blown alcoholism leading to drugs. There is a pamphlet that has 20 questions or so on whether or not you may have a drinking problem. This can be had at an A.A. meeting or on-line. If you answer YES to 4 or more of the questions you most likely have a drinking problem. Don't take my word for it. Go to a meeting and see for yourself. You have absolutely nothing to lose. All the best.
Johanne
The fact that you are posting on this board says alot. People who don't have a problem with alcohol do not question whether or not they are alcoholic. I go to A.A. & I always like to say that people don't end up in A.A. by mistake. Just a thought. My drinking started out as fun & didn't seem to be a problem. That was many years ago. Alcoholism is a progressive disease. My disease progressed over the years from being fun into full blown alcoholism leading to drugs. There is a pamphlet that has 20 questions or so on whether or not you may have a drinking problem. This can be had at an A.A. meeting or on-line. If you answer YES to 4 or more of the questions you most likely have a drinking problem. Don't take my word for it. Go to a meeting and see for yourself. You have absolutely nothing to lose. All the best.
Johanne
actually, the reason i even found this board was because a friend of mine was having problems with heroin. since iwas here i decided to check out the other sections and see what people thought. thank you all for your imput.
Wondering, Hi. Your posts are great, you have gotten me to rethink my situation, thanks. Thats what makes this site so cool.
I strongly believe if drinking causes a, "any" problem, in your social world, personal, family liffe or business world . . . you have a problem and you should probably look into your stopping or atleast reevaluate your situation.
A fairly simple way to see if you have a problem is to "plan ahead" and designate to yourself that you will only have 2 or 3 drinks, maybe 4 throughout the night - no more. Write the number on a piece of paper so denile don't get
you to change the numbers later. Than later, the next day, look at how you did.
If you were unable to keep to your goal, you probably have "a problem" and you should probably look at it in more detail.
In a group I was in, I think it was a bunch of friends singing in a barbershop group, during refreshments one night, the topic came up and at least 5 people and a couple friends or relatives to the group used the simple system and it worked pretty well. I recall at least one person claimed it kept them from driinking any more.
Another way to keep yourself in-cheeck is to read what other people say in these posts, share your own feelings and continue to keep TABBS on yourself.
Good Luck, keep up the good work.
GrandpaAllen
I strongly believe if drinking causes a, "any" problem, in your social world, personal, family liffe or business world . . . you have a problem and you should probably look into your stopping or atleast reevaluate your situation.
A fairly simple way to see if you have a problem is to "plan ahead" and designate to yourself that you will only have 2 or 3 drinks, maybe 4 throughout the night - no more. Write the number on a piece of paper so denile don't get
you to change the numbers later. Than later, the next day, look at how you did.
If you were unable to keep to your goal, you probably have "a problem" and you should probably look at it in more detail.
In a group I was in, I think it was a bunch of friends singing in a barbershop group, during refreshments one night, the topic came up and at least 5 people and a couple friends or relatives to the group used the simple system and it worked pretty well. I recall at least one person claimed it kept them from driinking any more.
Another way to keep yourself in-cheeck is to read what other people say in these posts, share your own feelings and continue to keep TABBS on yourself.
Good Luck, keep up the good work.
GrandpaAllen
