It's dj vu all over again - Yogi Berra
I thought I'd share a funny story, a bit of black humor if you will, about my situation.
A year ago, my wife disappeared to Arizona for two months. These two months were June and July.
I remembered, driving back on route 70 through the Rocky Mountains one day during these two months, I stopped at a rest stop to make a phone call. This rest stop is very distinctive, it is elevated and overlooks the town of Breckinridge and a large lake.
The call I made was to a buddy of mine, John. I talked with him for about 30 minutes, pacing restlessly back and forth through the rest stop, describing the difficulties I was having with my wifes bizarre behavior and her opiate use.
I don't recall the advice he gave me, and that is not important to the story.
Last Thursday I drove to Denver to drop a buddy of mine off at the airport. On Friday I was returning and stopped at the very same rest stop.
I called my friend John and reminded him that we had a similar conversation about my wife and her bizarre activities and opiate use from the same rest stop about the same time last year.
His only advice was, if you allow things to continue as they are, you'll be calling me again from this rest stop next year and the year after that and we will be having the same conversation.
The moral of this story, at least in my opinion, is that if you don't force a change or focus on saving yourself, things will never get better.
Michael
Yup--one of our mantras is:
If nothing changes--nothing changes!
Time for a change maybe????
Lori
If nothing changes--nothing changes!
Time for a change maybe????
Lori
Lori,
Thanks for the new mantra, it's one I haven't heard of! I will certainly keep in mind as I move forward. If you'd like to find out about as you say time for a change, read my posting she's halfway through rehab and wants a divorce
Thanks again
Michael
Thanks for the new mantra, it's one I haven't heard of! I will certainly keep in mind as I move forward. If you'd like to find out about as you say time for a change, read my posting she's halfway through rehab and wants a divorce
Thanks again
Michael
sharing about nothing changes. a story I told about a relative: went to therapy w wife in Dec a year1/2 ago. therapist suggested temp separation bc tempers were pretty hot. wife said OK, went to Calif to visit family for 3 weeks. did she work on marriage, nope. 3 week vacation. came back... a year later, december, nothing changed at all! he got his motivation and strength and moved out, filing for divorce.
as we all know... sadly... my son - two years away at 2 rehabs, sober living. always, gonna be better this time.... came back home. high hopes.... nope, exactly the same as before he left 2 yrs ago.... he is not living home, I was helping him manage finances... I see it going down the toilet.... just mind boggling.... do I walk away, give up.... that would be easier to do.... we just are no match for the drugs and the people who think they need it.... it is too sad to be on the roller coaster ... thinking its better this week, believing promises, and then its not...
PS Mikalle - your story is amusing - and so true.
as we all know... sadly... my son - two years away at 2 rehabs, sober living. always, gonna be better this time.... came back home. high hopes.... nope, exactly the same as before he left 2 yrs ago.... he is not living home, I was helping him manage finances... I see it going down the toilet.... just mind boggling.... do I walk away, give up.... that would be easier to do.... we just are no match for the drugs and the people who think they need it.... it is too sad to be on the roller coaster ... thinking its better this week, believing promises, and then its not...
PS Mikalle - your story is amusing - and so true.
