First time posting. Married, nearing 60, and my husband is ramping up his marijuana use in his old age. It's like he thinks retirement means he can return to his 20's. It is bringing on bipolar behavior that is unbearable. After 27 years together we are now planning to separate in the near future. He does not smoke everyday, and but when he does, he comes down and it turns to depression, which morphs into rage, which is directed towards only me. I feel like a fool! I believed it to be bipolar-ism for years and felt sorry for his pain (depression) and I danced, and ducked, and weaved to try and keep him level, always worried about what would set him off or what would hurt his feelings. I tried to get him to seek help, which he briefly did and he was put on medication, which he immediately stopped taking and lied about and said he was still taking it. I believed he was rarely smoking it, that's what he told me. and I knew he had a limited supply he had grown himself years ago. He has not done it in front of me for 20 years. I have no idea of where he keeps it. I guess that supply ran out and a while back I found money missing from our account and he told me he had bought some. $1,700 worth. Yeah, I flipped out when I found out! Fast forward to now, and he briefly agreed to stop using and we got along better than we ever had. We had had a mini-family intervention that got him to stop. He even bought test strips to prove it. So now I'm told he got rid of the test strips and he says he won't be tested by me. I now know all the anger and pain over the years is totally self-induced and he has drug me along for the ride all these years. How did I not see the connection? How did I think it was a mental illness? I would never have had the light bulb go off had I not seen him totally straight for an extended period of time and how wonderful he can be if he chooses. He says pot is more important than our marriage and I knew what I was getting into when I married him. I hate pot and I hate the lies. I feel I have wasted my life with someone who chooses a moment of pleasure in exchange for a life time of anger. Thanks for listening.
Narcotics Anonymous will help him with his addiction if he chooses to quit.
In his retirement he may come to really enjoy the meetings. I know I do.
Nar-Anon could help you as well if you wanted some help and direction.
Click on "Find a Meeting" http://www.nar-anon.org/
Good luck
Bob R
In his retirement he may come to really enjoy the meetings. I know I do.
Nar-Anon could help you as well if you wanted some help and direction.
Click on "Find a Meeting" http://www.nar-anon.org/
Good luck
Bob R
