Well what a night you have had here this site is fast becoming a psycological warfare playground and is not healthy why beacuse of mis-inturpretation please have a little common sense when posting. we are all here for the same reason recovery so some of us are smarter does not give us the right to play with people if we dont like individuals leave them alone do they not also deserve recovery? i have always defended the little guy on here and will continue to do so. jackie xxx
Yep. And the other thing that irks me is that people never refer who they are talking about. Innocent people get hurt in the crossfire..
Kerry
Kerry
Hi kerry the best we can do hun is learn from it and move on to recovery. jackie xxxx
Hey, Jackie...you are right.
I really have been tired of the games myself.
Good on you for your tolerance..
Kerry
I really have been tired of the games myself.
Good on you for your tolerance..
Kerry
Isn't there anyway to just recover?I come here to get support & I do and I've made some real nice friends.I admit sometimes its hard not to jump in the drama but its what I must do.My concern is will they(whoever the powers that be are)Will they end up closen the board for good?I really worry about that because I am comfortable here & don't know if I would be somewhere else....mj
MJ that is my concern also but you have to remeber in a forum such as this you will always get the odd nasty person if we can learn from it then that is good but if we feed it then that makes us as bad dont you think? jackie xxx
I so agree with that On a place such as this emotions are going to run high(like we use to run high)I know its life but it can be sad & as I said comming here was the first time ever I reached out.I felt welcomed from the start.I'm not so sure I can start that trust process again to another site...mj
Most people that come here connect with some and develop that friendship hun we would be foolish if we thought we could befriend everyone lol jackie xx
Sorry didn't mean to sound like I'd be the only one lost.Can they shut this site down????mj
Sure they can hun but i dont think that is likley i think the moderators see the true benifit this site has like we all do. STOP FRETTING lol i can here you from here worrying jackie xxx ((hugs))
Your sweet.What time do you have?Do you realize we are posting to each other in 2 different spots?Me I know I'm alittle spacey how are you I guess worryin is a habit to.But before I use to worry about others so I didn't want to deal with me.Now I worry because I feel something for these people.Sort of like a family...mj
yes i did relise we were posting on two threads lol sort of made me dizzy lol so im only going to post you on here ok.
Comingto a site like this one is a usefull tool hun but you do have to remember that thas all it is a tool not the be all and end all of recovery, the people we meet on here can be here one day and gone the next its so much harder then developing friendship in the real world at least there you ahve a conntact no or address or someone who knows someone, i think its best to try to stay focussed on your on recovery and do you best to be supportive but remain detatched thats about the best advice i could give anyone here. Saves a lot of heart ache jackie xxx
just read your other post lol
been an addict for 20 years and been on site sinse may 21st i think been clean for 6 months
Comingto a site like this one is a usefull tool hun but you do have to remember that thas all it is a tool not the be all and end all of recovery, the people we meet on here can be here one day and gone the next its so much harder then developing friendship in the real world at least there you ahve a conntact no or address or someone who knows someone, i think its best to try to stay focussed on your on recovery and do you best to be supportive but remain detatched thats about the best advice i could give anyone here. Saves a lot of heart ache jackie xxx
just read your other post lol
been an addict for 20 years and been on site sinse may 21st i think been clean for 6 months
jackie,
goodmorning sunshine, your so cute i like your spirit. i agree it is annoying. it reminds me of the days i used to work in the salon. so many personalities. so much competition. to expect everyone to come together and agree is not very realistic. its how we choose to handle the situation. personally i think everyone here is caught up in everyone elses beefs. i appreciate the loyalty on each sides. but i am scratching my head for what purpose. we are all adults. all are human. i personally think there is more constructive things to do. i get caught up in it too i am equally as guilty. but i certainly dont lose sleep over it. after all no one knows me enough on here to affect my life one way or the other. the way i choose to see it is online people are figments of my imagination. if someone writes something that strikes home in my heart and i am able to apply it to my life i am grateful. i am equally grateful if i can do the same for someone else. as far as the rest i have to laugh at it. thats how it works for me. i cant get upset over what a complete stranger thinks of me. i know that while struggling getting clean is an emotionally fragile time. i was there once myself. you have to seek self discovery and find out who you are with in. not seek out what other people tell you who you are and what you should be. do what makes you feel good for you. i geuss i just dont understand what purpose it serves to try and prove who's wrong ot who's right. there is no wrong or right. there is only human opinions. i don't have to agree or like someones thought or views and no one has to like mine. as long as i am happy and content doing and saying what is right for me. i only have to answer to me and god. if i feel strongly about an issue i will say my peace then move on. i say what i have to say and be done with it.it does me or anyone else no good to debate in hateful ways. i say what i mean, if it gets taken out of context or misunderstood then thats on the other person. i cant waste my energy trying to justify myself. i've learned when i have to do that i end up debating with someone who obviously doesnt want to hear what i have to say anyway.
i do enjoy your shining spirit jackie, you are a breath of fresh air. i hope your day will be a beautimus one
~T
goodmorning sunshine, your so cute i like your spirit. i agree it is annoying. it reminds me of the days i used to work in the salon. so many personalities. so much competition. to expect everyone to come together and agree is not very realistic. its how we choose to handle the situation. personally i think everyone here is caught up in everyone elses beefs. i appreciate the loyalty on each sides. but i am scratching my head for what purpose. we are all adults. all are human. i personally think there is more constructive things to do. i get caught up in it too i am equally as guilty. but i certainly dont lose sleep over it. after all no one knows me enough on here to affect my life one way or the other. the way i choose to see it is online people are figments of my imagination. if someone writes something that strikes home in my heart and i am able to apply it to my life i am grateful. i am equally grateful if i can do the same for someone else. as far as the rest i have to laugh at it. thats how it works for me. i cant get upset over what a complete stranger thinks of me. i know that while struggling getting clean is an emotionally fragile time. i was there once myself. you have to seek self discovery and find out who you are with in. not seek out what other people tell you who you are and what you should be. do what makes you feel good for you. i geuss i just dont understand what purpose it serves to try and prove who's wrong ot who's right. there is no wrong or right. there is only human opinions. i don't have to agree or like someones thought or views and no one has to like mine. as long as i am happy and content doing and saying what is right for me. i only have to answer to me and god. if i feel strongly about an issue i will say my peace then move on. i say what i have to say and be done with it.it does me or anyone else no good to debate in hateful ways. i say what i mean, if it gets taken out of context or misunderstood then thats on the other person. i cant waste my energy trying to justify myself. i've learned when i have to do that i end up debating with someone who obviously doesnt want to hear what i have to say anyway.
i do enjoy your shining spirit jackie, you are a breath of fresh air. i hope your day will be a beautimus one
~T
Morning Jackie,
Just want to send you out some love and tell you that you more than deserve a great big hug!
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Take care,
Tina
Just want to send you out some love and tell you that you more than deserve a great big hug!
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Take care,
Tina
Ya know my grandfather who passed away 3mths ago.He taught me froma very early age how to have a constructive debates.I mean we would go to thier home for Sunday dinner & he & my mom would argue but not in a mean meant to hurt each other way.They would debate current issues & I remember growing up to think that that was a great gift to pass down.Not fighting but sharing different views & stuff.It goes to show there are good ways to argue without mean words or out of control feelings.Just sticking in my 2 cewnts
Hi there mrs T well thx for your opinion which is a valued one i might add staying detatched is the name of the game here and im blessed that i can at least do that and concentrate on me but not without some thought for others. I think we have so much to learn from other if only we not only listened we heard jackie xxxx
MJ,
i most certainly agree with you. we have the same constructive debates here at home, my 14 year old daughter is the master, it's mind blowing how intelligently she can debate. but unfortunately there are many people in this world who dont have the same understanding and concept of that. so again i can choose to feel sad for those people and let them find thier way through life and pray that one day they will come to a better understanding. life is to short. i also learned that i can not save the world i can only save myself.
i hope your morning is treating you well.
terrianne
i most certainly agree with you. we have the same constructive debates here at home, my 14 year old daughter is the master, it's mind blowing how intelligently she can debate. but unfortunately there are many people in this world who dont have the same understanding and concept of that. so again i can choose to feel sad for those people and let them find thier way through life and pray that one day they will come to a better understanding. life is to short. i also learned that i can not save the world i can only save myself.
i hope your morning is treating you well.
terrianne
Good morning sunshine.I wanted to ask for your email.If you don't want to but please let me know that your OK as well as your kid(s).I didn't see what happen last night but I heard it wasn't nice,I also wanted to know how her dance went?????mj
I was not going to jump into any of this--I usally just read past it--as I am here to recovery and not play games---but dont you think that if you just let it go--dont answer the post you dont want--who cares that someone writes about you--just move on--you are here for YOU---what I see is this--someone post something, someone doesnt like--then there is like a thing were everyone has got to post--just let it go--WHO CARES.....if anything there are times that I feel like not coming to the site--the same people that are preaching about being SOBER--usally are the ones in the middle of s***----
And I will say this once--dont slam me for my comments--they are just my thoughts--and to be honest--I am here to recover--not listen to someone else's sick mind--
If I offended you--sorry--but thats how I feel
And I will say this once--dont slam me for my comments--they are just my thoughts--and to be honest--I am here to recover--not listen to someone else's sick mind--
If I offended you--sorry--but thats how I feel
booo thank you.Someone on here once said "take what you need from here and leave the rest.Good words to live by.....how are you today???mj
