today was a prelim day so Bub and I gave my son a ride to court so I could get bond money back, we waited at the park and after a long while we went inside so my grandson could go potty, we hear yelling, see cops on my son and bottom line, he had crack on him, going to court, I shoveled Bub as far down the hall as I could but we both saw it while J was yelling for me...my god, what a shock, I sat in a chair for a few while they cleared the hall and there was a decent cop that occupied bub for a second while I tried to recover my breath. My God, he needed jail, I was in to recall bail but this one has cut me off at the knees, I could hardly breathe,i am in shock that he would be so stupid, so brazen, so addicted, I am just sick, just sick
Aww, momg, I'm so sorry you had to see it... that Bub had to see it =(
It is so much easier not to know most of the time...just go along and live our own lives as best we can and just not know every detail.
J is in so deep he is almost not present anymore and my heart aches for your family. Keep loving that little boy and let us know how he is...what his questions and comments are...I see this stuff every day at school and the love of a couple of good people like you and your husband and his uncle can heal a lot of the pain for little people.
You know where to find me...
(((Hugs))) M&M
It is so much easier not to know most of the time...just go along and live our own lives as best we can and just not know every detail.
J is in so deep he is almost not present anymore and my heart aches for your family. Keep loving that little boy and let us know how he is...what his questions and comments are...I see this stuff every day at school and the love of a couple of good people like you and your husband and his uncle can heal a lot of the pain for little people.
You know where to find me...
(((Hugs))) M&M
Momg, sorry this happened to you and your dear Bub. What a sad thing for both of you to witness. Your words have brought many people here strength and comfort, thank you for that.
Sending love and prayers your way
Rosemary
Sending love and prayers your way
Rosemary
Take good care of yourself, MomG.
I can relate to your pain and to the amazement. It is sickening to watch so most times, for my own sanity, I choose not to watch anymore.
Thanks for sharing with us. Sometimes I find for me, just putting it in writing and sharing helps me to start healing.
Prayers for your family......
xoxo
Stacey
I can relate to your pain and to the amazement. It is sickening to watch so most times, for my own sanity, I choose not to watch anymore.
Thanks for sharing with us. Sometimes I find for me, just putting it in writing and sharing helps me to start healing.
Prayers for your family......
xoxo
Stacey
my God, he went to arraignment, they dropped all charges, then another city came and got him for 3rd degree retail fraud....crazy, crazy poop 3rd degree is a misdemeanor so obviously our city called.... something is just crazy his case worker called and told me, I did not go
he is out, walked up the driveway, we turned him away..i feel like a stinkin yoyo, he is going to get high and the jail turned him loose..i am having a total lapse of faith, total
Hey momg,
I havent been around much lately, these 2 kids keep me hoppin' but I often wonder how you are doing. Sorry you had the most recent experience.
I have had guardianship of my granddaughter for almost 2 years...Oct 14th this year will be 2 yrs, where the time went I dont know, and my GS almost 2 yrs,Feb 18th 2014.
As I have said, all parties on both sides involved have been behind us and thank God for that.
Over the years, beginning when my son first laid eyes on the twins mother I have done nothing but put my heart, my home and my hand out to her. She has a history of making bad choices.
She took the kids out of my home in May of 2010 because my son went to prison in 2009. I didnt tell her or ask her to leave. It was all her idea. I wanted the kids here. Well we see how that worked for her, they are both here. I got stabbed in the back at every turn when all I wanted was what was best for the twins. She did what was best for her first and drug the kids along for the ride.
She called me the other night, "just to say hello" but my spidey senses told me there was more to it and I was right. She had been drinking and was loney, and she "wanted her family back and to come home". She proceeded to tell me she was "probably going to lose her apt soon and would wind up on the street and die in the desert".A major ploy to make me feel bad for her. I DO feel bad for her,I really do but I have been stung too many times by her to ever think of inviting her back into my home to live again. And.. it would be so bad for the kids. My GD knows this, my GS? Not so much. She is toxic to him but he still stands by her as he doesnt see it.Even her own father knows it and supports us.
So Take care of Bub,you and your family are wonderful to be there for him. Know that for sure.
granny
I havent been around much lately, these 2 kids keep me hoppin' but I often wonder how you are doing. Sorry you had the most recent experience.
I have had guardianship of my granddaughter for almost 2 years...Oct 14th this year will be 2 yrs, where the time went I dont know, and my GS almost 2 yrs,Feb 18th 2014.
As I have said, all parties on both sides involved have been behind us and thank God for that.
Over the years, beginning when my son first laid eyes on the twins mother I have done nothing but put my heart, my home and my hand out to her. She has a history of making bad choices.
She took the kids out of my home in May of 2010 because my son went to prison in 2009. I didnt tell her or ask her to leave. It was all her idea. I wanted the kids here. Well we see how that worked for her, they are both here. I got stabbed in the back at every turn when all I wanted was what was best for the twins. She did what was best for her first and drug the kids along for the ride.
She called me the other night, "just to say hello" but my spidey senses told me there was more to it and I was right. She had been drinking and was loney, and she "wanted her family back and to come home". She proceeded to tell me she was "probably going to lose her apt soon and would wind up on the street and die in the desert".A major ploy to make me feel bad for her. I DO feel bad for her,I really do but I have been stung too many times by her to ever think of inviting her back into my home to live again. And.. it would be so bad for the kids. My GD knows this, my GS? Not so much. She is toxic to him but he still stands by her as he doesnt see it.Even her own father knows it and supports us.
So Take care of Bub,you and your family are wonderful to be there for him. Know that for sure.
granny
HEY GRANNY...FOLLOW YOUR SENSES, THEY ARE USUALLY RIGHT there is a reason you and I have their kids, we are responsible and always there, hang in there! glad you checked in\
How are you doing, momg? Feeling any better? A little less numb? How's the little man doing? Hug him for me...
xo M&M
xo M&M
they let him out on a pr bond, we celebrated his sons birthday and was a good guest for the party, he id thin and still using and most likely still stealing, now about me, ill be 60 in another hour taking the family ( some of it) to a house on lake Michigan for 3 days, so looking forward to it. I got a call from J a few minutes ago asked if I would take him to court in the morning, I told him no, for 30 years he has come first, this weekend is about me, I may have turned a corner, lets hope. my little Bub lost his first tooth, he was sad for a moment, but then the promise of the tooth fairy came up..thanks for asking about me
Happy Birthday, MomG.
You deserve to have your birthday celebration be all about you. J is very resourceful and I'm sure he can figure out how to get to court by himself.
Enjoy your weekend with your loved ones.
Take care,
Stacey
You deserve to have your birthday celebration be all about you. J is very resourceful and I'm sure he can figure out how to get to court by himself.
Enjoy your weekend with your loved ones.
Take care,
Stacey
weekend away was good other than J stealing our work truck and running from the law...I don't expect him to show up to court and my bond will be gone, I think the lessons are mine to learn, don't ever post bond, ever, ever, ever, lesson finally learned
Thanks for all your posts momg, I'm reading thru them all. You are inspiring. I have a 24 yo son who is about to face charges for assaulting me (after 2 years of me threatening, manipulating and cajoling to try to get him to stop hitting me). He's not allowed to live with me for 2 years and with only 1 friend left I'm scared he will end up on the street with AIDS (besides being an injecting user of ice and heroin he's gay (at least no gfriend who is pregnant!) or worse dead (I've already resuscitated him for a respiratory arrest and he's ODed 2 other times) I reached breaking point .... maybe turning 60 is a good time for us to start putting ourselves 1st so we can be there for everyone in our family not just the addicted one. Thank you again, you are in my prayers
