Edited to say...Jesus sometimes I just can't learn from mistakes. I have sought counsel from the friends and family board and I just have to let it go.
Maybe had to do with more of lack of control of my own life, that I start obsessing about others. Shweew! Glad that is over....
at least for now.
My Sister's in active addiction too, Jane.
I still have moments where I want to step in and do something. I actually did call her doctor once years ago. What annoyed me more than anything was that she weighed all of seventy pounds. A doctor just gives her massive amounts of pain killers and doesn't notice this?
It did no good. Nothing changed at all. I'm lucky they didn't tell her I called. She wouldn't be speaking to me to this day.
We can't do anything but be an example but I truly understand. It's hard to watch and maybe even moreso because we were there.
xxxxooooo
I still have moments where I want to step in and do something. I actually did call her doctor once years ago. What annoyed me more than anything was that she weighed all of seventy pounds. A doctor just gives her massive amounts of pain killers and doesn't notice this?
It did no good. Nothing changed at all. I'm lucky they didn't tell her I called. She wouldn't be speaking to me to this day.
We can't do anything but be an example but I truly understand. It's hard to watch and maybe even moreso because we were there.
xxxxooooo
Thanks for understanding.
Jane,
I understand too, my son is an addict who's not in recovery at the moment. I got this in my email this morning & thought of you. I believe God wants me to share it with you. Smooches & hugs, Jane..............
Today's thought from Hazelden is:
Letting go is a decision.
The obsession to pressure other people to see things our way keeps us agitated. In contrast, the wisdom to understand that every person's view has validity, at least for that person, is a gift we receive from working the Twelve Steps. Our daily assignment, then, is to be patient and listen so that we may learn this lesson from women and men who have walked this path already, women and men who have come to understand that letting go of others and their addictions promises relief from the obsession that troubles each of us.
Look around. All of us have tried to force solutions that didn't fit. And we drove ourselves crazy trying to control the behavior of others, certain that "doing it our way" was not only reasonable, but right. Our past sometimes may appear to be a series of failures. But our present experience can be peaceful, hopeful, and successful. It's our decision to let go. A small decision that we can make many times today, every day.
"Let go" are tiny words with huge rewards. If I want to, I can give up my attempts to control someone today. Peace will be my reward.
I understand too, my son is an addict who's not in recovery at the moment. I got this in my email this morning & thought of you. I believe God wants me to share it with you. Smooches & hugs, Jane..............
Today's thought from Hazelden is:
Letting go is a decision.
The obsession to pressure other people to see things our way keeps us agitated. In contrast, the wisdom to understand that every person's view has validity, at least for that person, is a gift we receive from working the Twelve Steps. Our daily assignment, then, is to be patient and listen so that we may learn this lesson from women and men who have walked this path already, women and men who have come to understand that letting go of others and their addictions promises relief from the obsession that troubles each of us.
Look around. All of us have tried to force solutions that didn't fit. And we drove ourselves crazy trying to control the behavior of others, certain that "doing it our way" was not only reasonable, but right. Our past sometimes may appear to be a series of failures. But our present experience can be peaceful, hopeful, and successful. It's our decision to let go. A small decision that we can make many times today, every day.
"Let go" are tiny words with huge rewards. If I want to, I can give up my attempts to control someone today. Peace will be my reward.