This goes out to everyone on here maybe I am misunderstanding this but when I got in this forum i did not take a drug test to get in.Meaning there are alot of us on here that may be clean and may not and we could be just saying that we are just lying to our selves and to others but yet some of us bash each other but you know we all sit on here and some of us have good intentions by being clean and some want to be clean to be honest we don't know each other from adam but yet some of us tell you were clean and try to do our best to give advice and tell our story but yet some of you still don't get it whether your 1000 days clean or 1 day clean we all have a journey were addicts not animals...I am only 28 and I have read some other peoples ages and I am horrified that grown adults can't just be heartfelt and sympathetic to others but this has weighed on me for a couple of days and now its off...........
welcome to the site...this is pretty common, i hate to tell you honey....sick minds with twisted fingers...best to just ignore, but sometimes it gets into your craw
Yes it does it seems to always be the same ones that are doing the bashing o offense to those at all but it really angers me when a person try to keep an good attitude and you post things and people just ignore them because they would rather read abunch of addicts bash each other I just don't see how some do it I can only imagine not that I want to or ever do to imagine what there walk is like in life and thats not questioning someone elses walk but just concern for it..........
Dear new begining, I am sorry if you feel i am bashing other addicts, but you will find I have never had a problem with anyone, until Kalea came along who has started to weave her web of deception and utter bull crap all over this board and many people have left or stay away now thanks to her!! anyone who knows me on this board knows I would rather stay away than cause hassle but when you have someone contradicting herself nearly every step of the way and offering advice that she has no knowledge about, well it just makes me mad!!! one day shes saying, oh yeah tuff love is the best approach, then when she is given 'tuff love' (and I'm not necessarily talking about Kiwi cos yeah I think he is to harsh) because its something she doesnt want to hear she attacks!!!!!
I just felt the need to explain my reaction on kaleas thread, everyone knows i am not evil and i havent relapsed in nearly 3yrs (not that that is a big deal, well it is for me, but how dare she say i have relapsed when i havent in a long time)so I am insulted and upset by her comments!!!!
again, I apologise if you think i was bashing Kalea, but all I said was I thought she liked the tuff love aproach (as she had stated a bit ago) but when I mention it she attacks me????
and yep, you are so very right, this site is for addicts wanting to stop the cycle of addiction!! some are completely clean, some of us are not, but we all have one thing in comon the wish for a drug free life x
I just felt the need to explain my reaction on kaleas thread, everyone knows i am not evil and i havent relapsed in nearly 3yrs (not that that is a big deal, well it is for me, but how dare she say i have relapsed when i havent in a long time)so I am insulted and upset by her comments!!!!
again, I apologise if you think i was bashing Kalea, but all I said was I thought she liked the tuff love aproach (as she had stated a bit ago) but when I mention it she attacks me????
and yep, you are so very right, this site is for addicts wanting to stop the cycle of addiction!! some are completely clean, some of us are not, but we all have one thing in comon the wish for a drug free life x
Hi there just my 2 cents lol or pence where i come from we often reap what we sow simple so can i sugest you just sow yours and let others do what they need to do, its never goingto be perfect on here but for me it is why becaue i keep my own councel jackie xxxxxxxxxxxxxxx
I know Jax, you are so right x
But I am so upset right now!!!!! me evil???? as if x
Hope you are ok? (((((((hugs))))))) to ya,
I'm going now cos I am so upset with Kalea/mrsunderstood I dont wanna turn this board into a war zone.
again apologises everyone x
But I am so upset right now!!!!! me evil???? as if x
Hope you are ok? (((((((hugs))))))) to ya,
I'm going now cos I am so upset with Kalea/mrsunderstood I dont wanna turn this board into a war zone.
again apologises everyone x
new beginning,
I like your name, it sounds perfect. Way to go on 28 days, I hope you are feeling a little closer to "normal" by now. For me, that first month was pretty hard, I'm proud of you, you should be too.
As for all the other stuff on board, we are addicts and human ones at that. It happens. There are alot of good people here, but sometimes buttons are pushed and people push back.
Please don't let this stuff upset you. Read through things and ask or give support.
Redd
Gabbi,
everyone here knows how sweet you are, you are far from the mean girl. I know you are upset, but please don't let that crap get under your skin babe. You have earned every clean day you have....they are yours and yours alone. Don't let the ugliness win, you are sooooo much better than that.x
Gabbi,
I understand what you wrote. I also stay away from negative. I am in a negative place right now and am learning how to deal with problems in a safe environment. I am home now (discharded from detox on tuesday) I am on meds from my primary doctor to help me get rid of some of the dts. I find I am tired and soooooo moody, I am glad you feel the same way about people who lie, I feel they are not serious and mock those of us that are here for reasons, and that main reason is support.
Have a better day
Meg
I understand what you wrote. I also stay away from negative. I am in a negative place right now and am learning how to deal with problems in a safe environment. I am home now (discharded from detox on tuesday) I am on meds from my primary doctor to help me get rid of some of the dts. I find I am tired and soooooo moody, I am glad you feel the same way about people who lie, I feel they are not serious and mock those of us that are here for reasons, and that main reason is support.
Have a better day
Meg
Gabbi, please don't think I'm taking anyone side. I'm trying to be very neutral but the one person that gets me is this Kiwi person. I can't help myself with him and I'm sure he loves it. I think you've done great (3 years) and I have one month, which I'm proud of, but wish I had that 3 years. I know you're upset and can understand, but go for a walk, take some deep breaths, or a nice bubble bath. Stress and anger can do one number on you, just ask me!
Hey redd know I am only 13 days the comment was towards the age difference and obvious maturity levels my age is 28 not 28 days clean but thank you for your positive post you seem like a very nice person my only meaning behind my post on this in the begginning was that we all say we know each other but do we really on here i mean so we don't all know each ones walk we can explain it with words but know one really knows on here we just like to get through the day and vent a little on here shouldn't be any harm in that right....and Jax I have planted my own garden and i am watering it everyday and the blooms are coming out so beautiful I hope you have a beautiful garden too......
DEAR GABBI.Sweetheart my best friend.The people on here who have gotten nothing but pure joy of just knowing you,realize just how hard you worked to get where you are.You know how proud I am of you.As are the people who really know who you are.PLEASE stay the way you are you always give alot better insight on addiction than K who just barely touched the meaning of the word,
You my dear have stayed off aVERY powerful drug.
You have done it for 3 straight years & you are doing so great in your life.
DO NOT ALLOW ANYONE TO TAKE THAT FROM YOU.
Love Mollyjean
You my dear have stayed off aVERY powerful drug.
You have done it for 3 straight years & you are doing so great in your life.
DO NOT ALLOW ANYONE TO TAKE THAT FROM YOU.
Love Mollyjean
new beginning
sorry about the error, 13 days is still good, it will be 28 soon. All we really have is today anyhow.
You know whats wierd? I was out watering my garden when you posted back to me......I'm glad your garden is growing, how fitting its growing just as you are.
I also know what you mean now about really not knowing each other, I could be a 88 year old fat smelly man for all we know. Anyone one of us could be lying about who we are and what we are, which is exactly why Gabbi gets so upset about one particular poster. The facts just never add up, the story changes weekly. And today the line was really crossed by her being called a relapser, its just not true.I think if you read any of Gabbis posts elsewhere you will find her to be an extraordinary woman, I know I have.
This board should be honest. How can we grow without it?
Anyways, I have to get to work soon, have a great day and I look forward to talking to you soon.
Redd
sorry about the error, 13 days is still good, it will be 28 soon. All we really have is today anyhow.
You know whats wierd? I was out watering my garden when you posted back to me......I'm glad your garden is growing, how fitting its growing just as you are.
I also know what you mean now about really not knowing each other, I could be a 88 year old fat smelly man for all we know. Anyone one of us could be lying about who we are and what we are, which is exactly why Gabbi gets so upset about one particular poster. The facts just never add up, the story changes weekly. And today the line was really crossed by her being called a relapser, its just not true.I think if you read any of Gabbis posts elsewhere you will find her to be an extraordinary woman, I know I have.
This board should be honest. How can we grow without it?
Anyways, I have to get to work soon, have a great day and I look forward to talking to you soon.
Redd
Gabbs take it easy on yoruself and let the real people who know you give you this ((((((((((((((((((hugs)))))))))))))))))))))))) jackie xxxxxxxxxx
(((((((((((((((((((hugs))))))))))))))))))) too from me Gabbi.
((((((((((((((((((hugs))))))))))))))))))))))) to Jacky too.
Redd
Red not so hard hun im fragile (as if lol) thx hugs to you too jackie xxxxxxx
Dear newbeginning,
I'm sure you realize that calendar age has nothing to do with emotional age. In some situations, I react adolescently and rebel. In other situations, I can be completely infantile. More and more frequently now, as I get cleaner and with therapy, I can behave like an emotionally mature 45 year-old wife and mother.
Part of the reason I come to this board is to learn how to grow up -- growth that drug use made unnecessary and indeed, impossible. And I know that if someone pushes the right buttons, I can be as big a baby as the next person. So I work on that.
We're all different ages here, physically and developmentally, sometimes in the same body and often many ages in the same day.
That said, 28 was an awfully fun age to be. I'm glad you're getting your act together now. Without descending into fruitless "I wish I had"s, you've got many more clean years ahead of you than I do. I trust you'll use them more wisely than I did.
BTW, it's absolutely true what they say. After 40, gravity takes over and all the appendages start to droop.
Cheers,
Gina
I'm sure you realize that calendar age has nothing to do with emotional age. In some situations, I react adolescently and rebel. In other situations, I can be completely infantile. More and more frequently now, as I get cleaner and with therapy, I can behave like an emotionally mature 45 year-old wife and mother.
Part of the reason I come to this board is to learn how to grow up -- growth that drug use made unnecessary and indeed, impossible. And I know that if someone pushes the right buttons, I can be as big a baby as the next person. So I work on that.
We're all different ages here, physically and developmentally, sometimes in the same body and often many ages in the same day.
That said, 28 was an awfully fun age to be. I'm glad you're getting your act together now. Without descending into fruitless "I wish I had"s, you've got many more clean years ahead of you than I do. I trust you'll use them more wisely than I did.
BTW, it's absolutely true what they say. After 40, gravity takes over and all the appendages start to droop.
Cheers,
Gina
Thank you gina for pulling my head out of my butt.Gravity is my worst enemy lolo OMG I could flop um over my shoulders for a pocketbook at this point .LOL.
OH GOD thank you.I let myself be baited in again by someone who has shown what she truley is.I hope NZ is grat today.You my dear I owe very much too cause I needed the laugh.You made me realize something I said that Im going back to sticking with
Mind over Matter
I dont MIND CAUSE MS CREAM CHEESE DONT MATTER LO<LOLO
Thank sweety
OH GOD thank you.I let myself be baited in again by someone who has shown what she truley is.I hope NZ is grat today.You my dear I owe very much too cause I needed the laugh.You made me realize something I said that Im going back to sticking with
Mind over Matter
I dont MIND CAUSE MS CREAM CHEESE DONT MATTER LO<LOLO
Thank sweety
mj, I love you.
I'm not surprised that you blew. I'm just surprised it didn't happen sooner. We're both addicts. I don't know about you, but I'm not good at attributing what I feel to the right source. You've just had surgery. You've been worried about cancer. You've handled yourself through all of that without your d.o.c. It's Saturday night (in the US) which is a huge trigger, for me anyway. And on top of all of that, it's coming on to the full moon.
If all of that weren't enough, you can't talk. That would drive me NUTS. If I couldn't talk, I'd be typing in CAPITAL LETTERS too, just to compensate for the frustration. I say, yell all you like in all caps if it keeps you off drugs.
I'm sure someone's already told you this today, but I'll say it again. YOU'RE VERY SPECIAL TO ME.
Love,
Gina
I'm not surprised that you blew. I'm just surprised it didn't happen sooner. We're both addicts. I don't know about you, but I'm not good at attributing what I feel to the right source. You've just had surgery. You've been worried about cancer. You've handled yourself through all of that without your d.o.c. It's Saturday night (in the US) which is a huge trigger, for me anyway. And on top of all of that, it's coming on to the full moon.
If all of that weren't enough, you can't talk. That would drive me NUTS. If I couldn't talk, I'd be typing in CAPITAL LETTERS too, just to compensate for the frustration. I say, yell all you like in all caps if it keeps you off drugs.
I'm sure someone's already told you this today, but I'll say it again. YOU'RE VERY SPECIAL TO ME.
Love,
Gina
i myself have thought of this..how do we know who is telling the truth?we could be standing next to someone at the store who post on this site. or worst case, someone could be "buying"pills from someone else on this site..
i guess i choose to look at it like this..honesty is the best policy..even though for myself it took me a while to learn this..but i can say that w/ every post i've made,it's been true,honest..the good, the bad and the ugly..i hope that this is a place that i can be truly accepted..faults and all...much love to all....dj
i guess i choose to look at it like this..honesty is the best policy..even though for myself it took me a while to learn this..but i can say that w/ every post i've made,it's been true,honest..the good, the bad and the ugly..i hope that this is a place that i can be truly accepted..faults and all...much love to all....dj
all i know is i didn't even partake in that thread that got locked out but look who had the final say,it was me KING VINNY[LMAO].
