Hi, Bob
My son is doing ok, I think. He's on the sub and I made sure he takes it. His urine tests have been going well he says. They are through the pretrial services and I was told if they didn't go well he would be back in jail so I would say they are. He hasn't gotten a job yet, but I feel he is ready for it and it would do him good to have some "safe" social life. He needs to get out of the house more!
The other day he received a certified letter. He had told us that when he was being processed at the prison with about 7 others, a needle was found on the floor, and since no one would admit it was theirs, every one of them had to go "in the hole". He told us that his worthless case manager in there recommended that he plead guilty at prison court, because they usually only give 30 days and then it would be over. Well, my son got 60 days, but only served 16 since he got out on unsecured bail. Now, he got papers to appear for a preliminary hearing for possession of drug paraphenalia (sp?). Just what we need...more charges, more fines, and more tension! My son claims to be innocent of having drug paraphenalia in the prison. He had had some empty packets on him at the time of arrest and was charged for that, but he said he had been searched 6 times before going to the prison and had nothing on him there. He plans to plead not guilty to the charge, but I'm not sure how that will be received since he pleaded guilty in prison court. What do you think? Also, where in the heck do they think he got it when he was in jail from the time of arrest to the time of processing and the only thing they had found on him when arrested were the empty bags? I'm confused and so very weary of dealing with all this mess! Any help you can give...or anyone else on here...would be appreciated!
Love,
Susan
i'm no expert, but sure sounds like a case of double jeopardy to me to be charged and subjected to punishment twice for the same offense arising from the same facts.
i do have a question -- if he's going to get a job, is there any way to get him situated in a halfway house or sober house ? he would then be responsible for his own condition and you and your family would get some relief.
the truck incident was basically the same sort of thing that was the straw that broke the proverbial camel's back for us. sonny-boy not only stole the car in the middle of the night, but wrecked it and could have killed somebody. hiding keys and valueables, etc, and waiting for the next catastrophe is just no way to live. a drug counsellor strongly recommended that we press criminal charges against him for it -- i suppose as a way of letting him suffer the full and complete brunt and natural consequences of his using. we didn't do it and only time will tell if the counsellor was making the right call on that one -- he wasn't convinced that my son had hit bottom, even with the charges against him for dwi, etc.
just a thought, as a way of helping your son and giving you and yours some desperately needed relief.
i do have a question -- if he's going to get a job, is there any way to get him situated in a halfway house or sober house ? he would then be responsible for his own condition and you and your family would get some relief.
the truck incident was basically the same sort of thing that was the straw that broke the proverbial camel's back for us. sonny-boy not only stole the car in the middle of the night, but wrecked it and could have killed somebody. hiding keys and valueables, etc, and waiting for the next catastrophe is just no way to live. a drug counsellor strongly recommended that we press criminal charges against him for it -- i suppose as a way of letting him suffer the full and complete brunt and natural consequences of his using. we didn't do it and only time will tell if the counsellor was making the right call on that one -- he wasn't convinced that my son had hit bottom, even with the charges against him for dwi, etc.
just a thought, as a way of helping your son and giving you and yours some desperately needed relief.
Susan:
I am not trying to be a killjoy here, but your son's story about the needle not being his could be a lie. He's lied before, hasn't he? They cannot charge someone without clear proof and they certainly cannot charge 7 people with the same crime when it is clear only one person could have done it.
I think he's trying to cover his a$$ with you. It may be that he denied it so much when it first happened and he was in his denial of everything stage and now, since he has been so adamant in denying it, he can't go back on his story and admit the truth.
It just seems a little conflicting on what he is saying and what is being charged, etc.
And how can 7 people be searched in the same room and a needle drop and roll to the point where they can't figure out where it dropped from? Were they all huddled together while they were being searched. It just doesn't make a lot of sense.
I hope he continues on his path to recovery and continues to get the help that he needs.
Bob is also right - you do deserve a break and some peace.
I hope it works out for you and take care of yourself and your family,
Mickey
I am not trying to be a killjoy here, but your son's story about the needle not being his could be a lie. He's lied before, hasn't he? They cannot charge someone without clear proof and they certainly cannot charge 7 people with the same crime when it is clear only one person could have done it.
I think he's trying to cover his a$$ with you. It may be that he denied it so much when it first happened and he was in his denial of everything stage and now, since he has been so adamant in denying it, he can't go back on his story and admit the truth.
It just seems a little conflicting on what he is saying and what is being charged, etc.
And how can 7 people be searched in the same room and a needle drop and roll to the point where they can't figure out where it dropped from? Were they all huddled together while they were being searched. It just doesn't make a lot of sense.
I hope he continues on his path to recovery and continues to get the help that he needs.
Bob is also right - you do deserve a break and some peace.
I hope it works out for you and take care of yourself and your family,
Mickey