I have been dating my current boyfriend for about 6 months now and he is alcoholic who also uses other drugs (you might have seen my post on the coke message board). he has gotten over coke but is now getting more into alcohol then before. every time he gets drunk, he calls me and verbally abuses by accusing me of outrageous things like sleeping with he best friend and things of the sort. I have been nothing but a faithful girlfriend to him, but his calling is a problem since Im only 18 and live at home (which he does too). I told him that it was alcohol or me, and for a while he cut down, then went back to his old ways.
when he went back, things got worse. he and I got into a very big fight where he ended up pushing me to the ground and threatened to hit me if I didn't get out of his face. I left it at that and since then, he has threatened to hit me again, but has not yet.
Im not sure what to do so if anyone can help, please give me some advice. I never realized how hard it is to be in love with someone like this but I am (that's the reason I have not walked away from him a long time ago). he is like Jeckel and Hyde, and Im not sure how much more I can put up with. thanks for listening.
Hi Molly
You aren't alone in your search for answers and help. Check out this website: http://www.al-anon.alateen.org
Help is only a click away :)
Kristen
You aren't alone in your search for answers and help. Check out this website: http://www.al-anon.alateen.org
Help is only a click away :)
Kristen
I also suggest going to al anon. god bless
thank you for your help but i have become more worried about his drinking. the other night, i drove 45min. out of my way to pick him up b/c his car ran out of gas and he was very drunk. we began to get into an argument and he pushed me quite a few times. i was scared that he was going to hit me but he never did.
this has happened before but i feel like i can't leave him b/c of the good side of us when he is not drunk. i talked to him about it and said if he did it again, that i would not come back.
i'm not sure what to do since his alcohol addiction has been taken to the next step. if any men or women have been in this situation, please help....
this has happened before but i feel like i can't leave him b/c of the good side of us when he is not drunk. i talked to him about it and said if he did it again, that i would not come back.
i'm not sure what to do since his alcohol addiction has been taken to the next step. if any men or women have been in this situation, please help....
the best thing you could do for you (and in the end help him) is leave him be a friend but not a lover - never ever ever allow someone to hit you or make you feel bad about yourself - you are way too young and too human to be involved in this. love is hard, if this was happening to one of your friends what advice would you give them - would you like this guy very much - good luck
you cannot change him - you can only change yourself . hope you find happiness
crystal
you cannot change him - you can only change yourself . hope you find happiness
crystal
Well I think you should pray to the man upstairs, and ask him what should you do. It might hurt but you should give him an option...If he wants to continue to drink then you should leave him. It may be a hard thing to do but do you deserve to see him like that? You are too young to be going thru something like this, and your undefined even married yet!! You should ask him if he wants counseling....Remember you can only help people that wants to be helped as well......... Keep ya head up and make the right decisions in life.. :-)
Hi
Your boyfriend has gone from one addition to another. When physical or mental violenece has entered a relationshipthe best thing that you can do is look after yourself and let him fall. After he has fell then he will realize what is more important to him inlife. It may take some time, but you need to stop enabling him and let him take responsibility for his actions. As long as you enable his actions, he will take every opprotunity to walk all over you. He needs to ask himself what is more important to him his sobriety and a happy life with you or the life he will be living alone.
Only those who want some help will start by helping himself. Once we have healed a bit then everything else will fall into place with further work.
Sober for 5 years and enjoying life. The best thing my wife did was leave me.
Your boyfriend has gone from one addition to another. When physical or mental violenece has entered a relationshipthe best thing that you can do is look after yourself and let him fall. After he has fell then he will realize what is more important to him inlife. It may take some time, but you need to stop enabling him and let him take responsibility for his actions. As long as you enable his actions, he will take every opprotunity to walk all over you. He needs to ask himself what is more important to him his sobriety and a happy life with you or the life he will be living alone.
Only those who want some help will start by helping himself. Once we have healed a bit then everything else will fall into place with further work.
Sober for 5 years and enjoying life. The best thing my wife did was leave me.