Boyfriend On Crank... Help!!!

Methamphetamines
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I need some help. My boyfriend of almost 5 years will not stop smoking crank or meth or whatever. I know he has had drug problems in the past (cocaine in high school). A (really bad) friend of his got him into it about 2 years ago. Finally after 6 months he admitted to me that he was using. I told him then and there that if he did it again that I would leave. He was good for awhile until about 10 months ago, I started finding pipes and baggies in the garage. Sometimes he hides them, sometimes he carelessly leaves them out. I've confronted him every time I find something. He usually gets very defensive and doesn't want to talk about it. I've tried approaching the situation both negatively and positively and neither ends up working. I've told him how much I care about him and that I don't want this to take control of him. I'm guessing that he's getting high at least twice a week. Sometimes he promises me that he won't do it again and sometimes he tells me that I'm overreacting and that it's not a big deal. He thinks it's fun. It is a big deal to me and I don't understand why he won't respect my opinion on the subject. We have a 2 year old son that stays home with him during the day while I work. I don't want him to be exposed to this. I know he has to want to quit, but doesn't he see that this could ruin our family? I've threaten to leave, but I think he sees them as empty threats. I don't think he believes that I will leave. To be honest, I'm scared that if I do leave that he'll get worse. He obviously already has a careless attitude towards it. If I do leave, I want him to be a part of our son's life, but I do not want him to be near my son if he's still using. How should I handle this situation? Should I leave to prove a point? I've tried to be supportive, but he really doesn't see this as a problem. It's not a big deal to him. I wish I could be more specific, but this is the outline of the story. I need help! I love him but I can't do this with him anymore! I can not tolerate this in my home or in my family.
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I can relate to your position , I was him . I raised my daughter while using , I kept thinking I could control it. In being honest with you .....it wasn't untill my daughter was 19 years old and became aware of my use did I put forth the effort to stop . That and the fact that years of use were taking their toll on me , and I want to be around for my daughter and her children /my grandkids.

I'll be brutally honest , leave him ......Now!! He will play this game forever , dragging you and your child down with him . Meth causes us who love it to lie to ourselves and everyone around us . If you think he is using just a couple times a week , I will bet you my last dollar he is using almost , if not, every day

If he is sincere about stopping his meth use and his concern for you and his child he will take the steps required . Sometimes it takes losing what is most important to us meth addicts before we wake up . Hopefully your leaving him will slap him upside the head and he will see what he is doing to his life.

I hope he see's what is best for you and his child .

AL
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al is right yet again!!!!!!!!!!! leave him.......sometimes in loving someone we become their biggest enabler until he can reach his bottem he will not quit i know it is hard for you to walk away but if you truely love him you will you are in a sense helping him to ill hisself like al says i bet he is not using twice a week.............that is not fesable.......my thoughts and prayers are with you and your son..........try going to alanon it will help you a great deal............
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i wish you luck. do whats best for the child, thats most important. my father was an addict and coke dealer while i was growing up. i didnt see that much of him, but when i did, i still have memories of rolled up dollar bills and mirrors and razor blades. this was like 2nd grade. i didnt understand, but i kept it to myself. im still forgiving him. but see, then i started into my addiction when i was 15. i never know how much seeing that played a role. not as much as you think, i believe, cuz i was born an addict, too. i believe genetic. my addiction, the compulsions and obbsesions started much earlier.

back to the point, its so heartbreaking when this happens to someone you love. but you have to think about damage control. i wish i knew the perfect thing to say. it takes a lot of tears sometimes.
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Girly...you seem like your having the same problem my ex had with me...and I think she did the right thing...cept I took it the wrong way. I also told my girlfriend that everything is fine...I dont do it often...it hasnt changed me...but it did...I lied to her, worried that I might lose her...but in the end she had broken up with me. I was just shocked when she said "You and your habits disgust me...and you know it...im sorry robbie but I cant be with you if your gonna be like this..." It didnt hit me until the next day cus we had been together for almost 4 1/2 years...it hurt. When he says "I like to do it...its fun" or however he says it...he isnt lying at all...thats the sad truth. About your family...you really need to confront him because it can put a family in ruins if they are not careful.

You cant support him...it only makes it worse. Leaving him to prove a point...only makes him worse. It took me till just last month to get over my exgirlfriend Amber...I started to massive amounts of pain killers and smoking bud...not to mention smoking crys...It seemed like I was so shattered by losing the love of my life; that my addiction pretty much took over...and I quickly found myself quitting trying to get her back...in about a month of drug abusive bingeing and sad to say; suicide attempts. She broke up with me January 3rd,2005...Her birthday is April 17th...I was going to propose to her then...heh...even writing this now makes me cry and i'm not afraid to admit it.

I know she did the right thing though...im not saying you should do the same but this is what happened with me...ive been smoking crys since I was 12 because of a stoner friend I had that had introduced me to a pyrex and a teener...i've been struggling every day since I was 14 to quit...the longest ive lasted was a year...because of two things...2 months of rehab and the love of my girlfriend. She gave me hope, faith in god, respect, and the love I never thought I could ever get...I loved her...and im sure your boyfriend loves you...but meth can mess with your head so bad that you cant think straight most the time......sadly I still smoke...not because i want to...because i feel as if i have to. Ive become dependent and ive went to rehab only to be sent home a failure...please sit down and have a very long...serious talk....about his addiction. If you need any help with anything or have any questions pls feel free to ask me...
RobSavage420@hotmail.com robsavage420@yahoo.com
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Welcome Rob.....Just thought I'd say you can to quit when you finally decide you need to ....I also started using meth at a young age ....15 for me ......35 years later on my 50th b-day ...I decided it was now or never .....I am coming up on 6 months clean the 19th of this month .........

I was also using when I first came to this site .....a lot of the strength came from sharing our stories here , and helping each other .....

AL
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Al...you are a great person and my prayers are with you, I give you my thanks as a person, not as a tweaker. Even on this s*** I can keep my values...and I wonder if i'll turn out like people who have only been using cryssy for a couple months to a year...some of these people seem so "cracked out" to me that its just sick...I dont even wanna say it lol...im honestly not sure whether to laugh, throw up, or sock them in the jaw when I see one or more of them just looking all fuc*ed up. I've only been smoking since my 12th birthday(was a "gift") and struggling to quit since 14...with little success I lasted a couple months(8)...but being gacked out of my mind for every day for those past two years kinda screwed me...I started again with alot of nothing to gain from it...and alot of everything to lose. Every time I smoke with my friends I talk about quitting...yet i'll end up either saying that holding a pipe and looking down in disgust...or with it in my mouth with a bic lit to the bowl and twirling the mobe...but I'd still like to quit :)...not just for my exgirlfriend to see how well I will be...but for my family, and myself. I can say no...but I dont mean it...and its obvious...cus i'm just a s***ty liar lol...and then i'll admit that im lying to myself and whoever is there(usually friends) that im lying...and they would already know. I'd like to beat this damn habit and get back with the girl I love with all my heart, soul, and whats left of my body and mind...and give her that ring I spent so much time looking for that will show her that I am for real and will overcome whatever it takes to be with her. I hope the woman that posted this about her boyfriend understands that addiction to crystalmeth...can really, really, complicate a relationship and possibly drag it into ruins and kill any chance of his quitting, or her wanting him back...theres no easy way for anyone to quit smoking, or snorting, or however sick way they want to do it...and theres no way to tell the woman you love that "you'll try", or "i'll quit" cus its just not easy at all.


THIS IS SOMETHING I THOUGHT UP ONE DAY AND I TELL IT TO PEOPLE I THINK SHOULD QUIT,AND TO PEOPLE JUST TO GET THEM THINKING...

-The pipe attracts you, and the dope grabs you and pulls you in...and once you bring the fire out of your pocket...your in hell.