Hi everyone,
This is my first post on here. My boyfriend who I've been with for almost a year now has just relapsed. He smoked heroin about a week and and a half ago after being sober for over 18 months. I always told him if he relapsed I couldn't be with him, but I am now struggling on what to do. I've never done heroin, or any other drugs, and he is my best friend and I love him. I really want him to be better and not downward spiral, and he assures me he will now be clean, but I don't know how to feel or what to do. He is meeting with a sponsor and is hanging out in sober houses. Any advice or words of wisdom/stories?
Thank you for your support
hey hun here goes im a heroin addict myself and i know how it is so my advice is if hes relapsed I understand you've been with him for a year and hes your best friend BUT FOR YOU PROTECT YOU thats how I started. I NEVER EVER THOUGHT IN A MILLION YEARS I would EVER do this junk. I started dating a guy and he was doing good started doing it and yup so on but I don't know girl its your life you can take my advice or not. I say leave BUT if he is going to meetings EVERYDAY AND HAS A SPONSER talking to them everyday then yeah you can stay with him and if he does it again then do what you want. thats my adivce thats the best I can give you :-)
I've been in the same boat. My bf relapsed a few times and I kept telling myself this is it, but I love him so much that I couldn't do it. Now were on a break and i'm debating about finally breaking up. It feels good to know that your not the only one going through this. Hopefully everything works out for you.
My boyfriend relapsed last year after 15 months sober. It was a progressive relapse that started with a prescription he should have denied and ended with heroin. When he initially told me he relapsed it was November and he said he would be able to do it himself. For some reason I believed it, but he was not able to follow through. Drugs are too strong to fight alone, he needs a program. If money is a problem, Salvation Army ARC is free. In January we had an intervention and he went straight to detox and then to a sober living 15 days later where he attended groups and classes all day. His family was supportive, but his biggest enablers. They had no ultimatums to give him, so I did. I said if you don't go, I go and I go forever. He has been clean since then. We now live together in an apartment and he is back to working at his job 5 days a week. Not every story is like ours, not everyone is as blessed. Stay strong and don't forget to pray. God listens and answers.
