Hi everyone. This is my first post. I am hurting inside (oh the pain). My son, 30 yrs old, left our home in a rage almost a week ago. Took all his things and said that if he was that much of a burden he would get out. Well we got into an argument because he is not working, breaks my sleep late at night, does nothing around the house but sleep because he's so exhausted from being out all night. He uses some type of drug(pills) not sure what kind. He lost his job about year ago and it did not appear that he was looking for another one. In fact, wherever I brought the subject up, he said nothing. Or if brought in a minimum wage job, he would say that not enough money to get back a forth to work on a weekly basis. I'm employed and work daily. He stays out every night but comes home in the morning to sleep (when I go to work), he makes sure that he gone before I get home. It all came to a head when I called during the day and he did not answer his phone. When he finally did late in the evening, I asked, "What are you doing"? You can't keep living like this, you need to find a job! He got very angry was in a rage!! He took all his things a left the house. I am so worried about him because he has no where to go. I'm sick inside but I don't want him to think that it's okay for him to just come to the house to sleep during the day (wash his clothes, bath, etc.) and leave in the evening to do whatever he's doing. Does anyone have a suggestion for me? I miss him but can't keep doing this.
Pray for him. Your just gonna have to wait for him to hit rock bottom. And maybe ask him to attend some NA meetings. Or what about the methadone clinic , take the air outfitted wen he's showering. What if you a male figure to come over and be there when you have a talk with him?
There is no good reason for a 30 year old adult to live with parents unless they are disabled. This is a classic case of enabling which only makes things worse for your son.
I kicked my 20 year old son out of the home last year. It was very difficult for me - I stressed for several weeks. Now, he is working and paying his bills. His cigarette and pot habit have disappeared because he could not afford it. We have a great relationship. For the first few months, he swore he would never speak to me again.
I have coworkers who have adult children living at home - 30 and 40 year old adults living with their parents who are nearing retirement age. These 30/40 year old "adults" are childlike. I believe this is a cruel thing to do to our children.
If I am mistaken about your situation and sound too brash, I apologize. I will gladly amend my answer if needed. I wish you the best of luck. -Flyboy
I kicked my 20 year old son out of the home last year. It was very difficult for me - I stressed for several weeks. Now, he is working and paying his bills. His cigarette and pot habit have disappeared because he could not afford it. We have a great relationship. For the first few months, he swore he would never speak to me again.
I have coworkers who have adult children living at home - 30 and 40 year old adults living with their parents who are nearing retirement age. These 30/40 year old "adults" are childlike. I believe this is a cruel thing to do to our children.
If I am mistaken about your situation and sound too brash, I apologize. I will gladly amend my answer if needed. I wish you the best of luck. -Flyboy
Flyboykuao . Do u mind me asking (which I'm pretty sure you are) you are a male correct ? My sincere apologies if I'm incorrect.
