Well hi everyone, what a mess life is right now, My b/f (common law H) got blasted out of his mind last night, and left the house and drove, I told him he drives I will call the police, well he didn't listen to me and I called, and he got an impaired charge..... This is not the first time that he has driven drunk it's a every weekend occurance.... and I'm just fed up with his all about me attitude, he could have killed somebody, but he doesn't see it that way at all, he just screamed and yelled at me today and said it was all my fault that he got this impaired..unreal he is pretty messed up..... I do feel abit guilty but I think it is my moral and civic duty to keep drunks off the road even if it is someone you care for... The next few days should be pretty hairy around here, he says he's moving out and not giving me any money for the rent..... wonderful, he drinks and drives and now I'm punished for it.......Oh Lord give me strength...
Lovedove
xoxox
Good for you! I should have done the same on Valentine's Day. My boyfriend showed up half drunk and I sent him home. He has been trying to get sober for a few months now and he knows my rules; I don't see him or talk to him if he's been drinking. Anyway, when he got home he called to apologize and he says he gunned his car for fun down the road from me, lost control in the snow and slammed into someone's garage. I live on a lake and the houses are close together. He wanted me to lie if anyone came around asking about it. I told him I wouldn't, but I didn't turn him in either. I know their insurance will take care of it, but where is the personal responsibility? I thought he was a stand-up sort of guy.
You might have saved a life, his or someone else's. I broke it off with him, haven't talked to him yet. It is hard but I can't be with someone who is so selfish.
Man, tough life is right. All we can do is act with integrity on our side of the line.
Lenore
You might have saved a life, his or someone else's. I broke it off with him, haven't talked to him yet. It is hard but I can't be with someone who is so selfish.
Man, tough life is right. All we can do is act with integrity on our side of the line.
Lenore
Hi there Lenore,
Thanks for your post, good for you for sticking to your guns, In the past I have drove drunk not proud of it, it really is such a selfish thing to do, and I have zero tolerance for it, and he knows it, so now he has to face the consequences..... I just couldn't have lived with myself if he had of killed himself or someone else..
Alcohol causes soo much misery and I'm proud to be out of the haze,,,
God bless
Lovedove
Thanks for your post, good for you for sticking to your guns, In the past I have drove drunk not proud of it, it really is such a selfish thing to do, and I have zero tolerance for it, and he knows it, so now he has to face the consequences..... I just couldn't have lived with myself if he had of killed himself or someone else..
Alcohol causes soo much misery and I'm proud to be out of the haze,,,
God bless
Lovedove
He deserved it I guess. As much trouble as he will get into, you may have saved someones life. I am sorry that you have to go through that stuff. I have gotten crazy, but not driving. I have 2 DUI's but I would never leave if someone told me not to. My ex has called the cops on me, for being wated and out of control. An example of how my life is unmanageable when I pick up. Thus I can never drink again.
LL
LL
Good for you Love-Dove, you took action and that is really good...you are not only taking care of yourself but looking out for the welfare of others....maybe yet another experience like this will be the jumpstart of sobriety and recovery for him.
Hi VWgirl,
Thanks for your reply, sometimes it's hard doing the right thing. I doubt this will jump start anything except his anger....I really gotta watch my back now, he will definetely be out to get me somehow, I just have this feeling....
lots of love,
ld
Thanks for your reply, sometimes it's hard doing the right thing. I doubt this will jump start anything except his anger....I really gotta watch my back now, he will definetely be out to get me somehow, I just have this feeling....
lots of love,
ld
Hey Lovedove
Those feelings we get are a pain in the a#s because when i get them, everything in the day becomes focussed on that one feeling, eg the ph rings its them, a car pulls up its them, the dogs bark its them and i dont sleep at night its them......when really its my mum on the ph, my wife pulls up in the car, the dogs are barking at the cat and i am why i dont sleep at night.
If you are worried change the locks and have a friend who you can ring or txt if you need to in a hurry
Light and love Zac
Those feelings we get are a pain in the a#s because when i get them, everything in the day becomes focussed on that one feeling, eg the ph rings its them, a car pulls up its them, the dogs bark its them and i dont sleep at night its them......when really its my mum on the ph, my wife pulls up in the car, the dogs are barking at the cat and i am why i dont sleep at night.
If you are worried change the locks and have a friend who you can ring or txt if you need to in a hurry
Light and love Zac
Hi Zac,
I had to laugh at your post, you hit the nail on the head, it's amazing the games we play with ourselves!! Feeling good today, I am not going to let this effect my sobriety.... He needs to walk this one on his own..
lots of love,
lovedove
I had to laugh at your post, you hit the nail on the head, it's amazing the games we play with ourselves!! Feeling good today, I am not going to let this effect my sobriety.... He needs to walk this one on his own..
lots of love,
lovedove
