I have now been clean from heroin just over a year however my boyfriend of nearly three years is clearly not wanting to stop I have given him now what will be his forth chance and this is despite getting so low and depressed with it all myself that I wanted to die the only reason I took him back is guilt as he has nowhere else to live and if I put him out he would make my life a living hell by trying to get me evicted among other things the other thing is none of his family know the truth as they live quite a bit away and I can't tell my family as I don't want to stress them with my problems I am forty years old he is thirty eight but I just feel trapped like I will never get out of this nightmare of a relationship and the other thing is I am the one having to see psycoligists ect while he does absouloutely nothing to help himself or the situation I just need some advice as this is now the second relationship of this kind I have been in the first one was six years long and that's when I got into using heroin myself and lost my kids through it as my ex husband rightfully so didn't want my kids around it so they went to live with him.Has anyone else been in this situation and if so how did you get out.I just want to continue living a clean heroin free life as I have done as I mentioned just over a year now but am scared he will pull me back into that as well.Sorry for such a long post .
Dear Hazel, You are a recovering herion addict you should not be around or involved with someone who is a active user.It is detrimental to your recovery to place yourself in that situation, have you discussed it with your counselors ,for they would say the same thing I am....You cannot be responsible for another adult it is impossible. ..You can be responsible for yourself.He is 38 years old. ..Stop making excuses his family is not near by etc...he's a grown man he is a junkie..he is no good for you. ..do you want to place yourself in harms way or place yourself where you might be tempted to use again....does a recovering alcoholic live in a bar ? Tell him he cannot stay he has to leave ...one big step in recovery is changing old friends and changing old habits. ..You cannot have him there if you want to continue your recovery...and you are aware of it also because you yourself state I am afraid he will pull me back and I have been clean for a year....send him packing now...hell find somewhere he's a grown man....don't allow the pity party...addicts are very resourceful. ..
