.i can,t believe wots just happened..im sitting here watching tv/reading some posts..i,ve just been called by the security officer from the local supermarket..my son,s just been caught shoplifting with his mates..hes meant to be in the club round the corner..im so pissed i don,t know wot to say..i can,t believe it..i,ve just asked my sister can she go and pick him up..i can,t go cos i,ll lose it with him..wots the point of it all..heres me trying to gain his trust by being honest and telling him the dangers in life..and hes sitting in an office being held for shoplifting..hes 12..wot does that say about me as a parent..im not blaming his friends..i,ve told him time and again not to steal of anyone..i,ve gotta go round my sisters..i just can,t believe hes done this to me..i,ve giving up everything to make a better life for us..and hes done this some.kids are so ungrateful these days..they take take take..and all they give back is grief...Robbie..
Awww Robbie, that is tough. Just know that at his age they are starting to push buttons and test limits. Hopefully this will scare him enough to not ever do anything like that again (at his age, I'm sure it will). It could be worse.
Prayers going out for your strength and keeping your cool.
PS...I posted on another thread that I had a dream that the Queen Mum was shoplifting...lol
Prayers going out for your strength and keeping your cool.
PS...I posted on another thread that I had a dream that the Queen Mum was shoplifting...lol
..Cheers Janet..he won,t be pushing any buttons for a while..especially on his playstation i tell ya...They tried to nick 97 worth of pens..he said they were gonna sell em at school my sister said..she just brought him home and hes gone straight to bed.i don,t wanna speak to him till tomorrow..the pens were only..2.99--3.99..so you can imagine how many they had in a bag..how the f*** did they think they were gonna walk out with that lot with all the cameras everywhere..i was fuming earlier..i,ve calmed down a bit now..he ain,t going anywhere for a while..they called the old bill and they gave him a warning..and hes been banned from there..thats the least of his worries..im gonna steal his tv and put it in my room with his ps2..see how he likes that..thanx for the reply mate. enjoy your evening..Robbie..
Alright Rob
I have just read your thread, i have 2 sons 17 and 19.
When they was in their early teens they was always in trouble.
Not so much the younger one.
The older one one though god.
I am not making excuses for what they did at all they were in the wrong.
Police station quiet a few times for popping car windows or mouthing the old bill.
This happened during my useing time so i use to blame my self.
My son would see this and i told him that i had felt i had failed them for not being there for them.We would both end up in tears.
Since being clean thank-god they have stayed out of trouble.
the older one is working, the younger waiting to start college.
You must be feeling really --cked off at the moment being clean and providing a stable loving home.
Kids do push their luck
I am thinking of you Robbie just try and stay calm and talk to him
Emily
I have just read your thread, i have 2 sons 17 and 19.
When they was in their early teens they was always in trouble.
Not so much the younger one.
The older one one though god.
I am not making excuses for what they did at all they were in the wrong.
Police station quiet a few times for popping car windows or mouthing the old bill.
This happened during my useing time so i use to blame my self.
My son would see this and i told him that i had felt i had failed them for not being there for them.We would both end up in tears.
Since being clean thank-god they have stayed out of trouble.
the older one is working, the younger waiting to start college.
You must be feeling really --cked off at the moment being clean and providing a stable loving home.
Kids do push their luck
I am thinking of you Robbie just try and stay calm and talk to him
Emily
taking away the big boy toys is a very good punishment...give him some good books to read
Robbie i'm sorry to hear about your son. I too was caught shoplifting at 12years old. I now realize what i used to do to my parents and now i know how they feal.
You cant blame yourself he's old enough to make his own decisions.
My biggest fear is failing w/ my son, so i know where your coming from.
All you can do is teach them the best you can, and try to help him make the right decions. dont blame your self talk to you later -Mia
You cant blame yourself he's old enough to make his own decisions.
My biggest fear is failing w/ my son, so i know where your coming from.
All you can do is teach them the best you can, and try to help him make the right decions. dont blame your self talk to you later -Mia
Robbie,
I am sorry to hear about your son.. However, it's not your fault. You as a parent didn't fail.. Sometimes kids just make bad choices and so do adults. My mom never made me think it was okay to steal but I did when I was about 14 yrs old. I stole a pack of cigarettes from the grocery store. I got sent to that office like your son. They slapped me on the wrist basically and told me not to come back in that store until I was 18 yrs old.
Anyway, taking his priveledges away and talking to him is about all you can do.
Kids do stupid things, I agree. Try not to beat yourself up or him to much:-0)
By the way I am on the phone with Terrianne and I read her this thread. She says she will be online sometimes tomorrow and can't wait to talk to you again. She misses you...
Hang in there Robbie..
Rae
I am sorry to hear about your son.. However, it's not your fault. You as a parent didn't fail.. Sometimes kids just make bad choices and so do adults. My mom never made me think it was okay to steal but I did when I was about 14 yrs old. I stole a pack of cigarettes from the grocery store. I got sent to that office like your son. They slapped me on the wrist basically and told me not to come back in that store until I was 18 yrs old.
Anyway, taking his priveledges away and talking to him is about all you can do.
Kids do stupid things, I agree. Try not to beat yourself up or him to much:-0)
By the way I am on the phone with Terrianne and I read her this thread. She says she will be online sometimes tomorrow and can't wait to talk to you again. She misses you...
Hang in there Robbie..
Rae
Tell Terrianne I said hi...miss her alot on this board!
..Emily..Mia..Rae..
..Yeah..i know your all right..its just when it happens..a million things run thru ya head..but hes done wot hes done..can,t turn the clock back..i ain,t gonna crucify him for it..none of me and my friends were saints as kids..i just hope he learns from this..a week indoors and having his money stopped aswell as his games will hit him for six anyway..cheers you lot..ya,ll have a good evening.and thanx for your words...Robbie.
.ps.Rae..tell terrianne if you speak to her..she,s missed aswell..
..Yeah..i know your all right..its just when it happens..a million things run thru ya head..but hes done wot hes done..can,t turn the clock back..i ain,t gonna crucify him for it..none of me and my friends were saints as kids..i just hope he learns from this..a week indoors and having his money stopped aswell as his games will hit him for six anyway..cheers you lot..ya,ll have a good evening.and thanx for your words...Robbie.
.ps.Rae..tell terrianne if you speak to her..she,s missed aswell..
mate, dont feel bad about u as a parent. its not ur fault.
they are all doing it at his age. the way u can make a difference is by doing wat ur doing. take his telly an his ps 2 . ground him for week. let him see you carry through threats and punishments, if hes not allowed out and bored s***less he mite think twice next time. tell him thats wat its like in prison 24/7!!! and only give him cold porridge....
it is good he went to bed and u got time to formulate ur wicked punishment.
enjoy it!!! and you can have some serious man to man chats about the price of crime. you will make a smart boy of him .
xxx
they are all doing it at his age. the way u can make a difference is by doing wat ur doing. take his telly an his ps 2 . ground him for week. let him see you carry through threats and punishments, if hes not allowed out and bored s***less he mite think twice next time. tell him thats wat its like in prison 24/7!!! and only give him cold porridge....
it is good he went to bed and u got time to formulate ur wicked punishment.
enjoy it!!! and you can have some serious man to man chats about the price of crime. you will make a smart boy of him .
xxx
Dear Robbie,
If what you're saying is true..."what does this say about me as a parent"....then I guess I'm to blame for my son's addiction! We BOTH know that neither one of us is responsible! Our sons have to own their own bad choices and they must suffer the consequences otherwise they won't learn from them. We didn't cause them!
I'm glad to hear you took the play station away! That is one of the most painful punishments for a boy his age. I would also be concerned about what their need for money is. Alcohol? Drugs? It is a common problem for boys his age to dare another to steal a candy bar just for the heck of it (doesn't make it right of course, but they do it), but I don't like the scheming to get money. Keep a good eye on him. I remember being in a candy store once at the mall and some boys...I would guess around 10-12 knocked some candy on the floor and proceeded to kick it gently towards the entrance so they could pick it up without being noticed. One made eye contact with me and I just shook my head no. They walked away.
I'm so sorry this happened. Our kids certainly do let us down sometimes...and I guess if we're honest we let them down sometimes. We just have to give consequences, forgive, keep things in perspective, and move on.
Love,
Susan
If what you're saying is true..."what does this say about me as a parent"....then I guess I'm to blame for my son's addiction! We BOTH know that neither one of us is responsible! Our sons have to own their own bad choices and they must suffer the consequences otherwise they won't learn from them. We didn't cause them!
I'm glad to hear you took the play station away! That is one of the most painful punishments for a boy his age. I would also be concerned about what their need for money is. Alcohol? Drugs? It is a common problem for boys his age to dare another to steal a candy bar just for the heck of it (doesn't make it right of course, but they do it), but I don't like the scheming to get money. Keep a good eye on him. I remember being in a candy store once at the mall and some boys...I would guess around 10-12 knocked some candy on the floor and proceeded to kick it gently towards the entrance so they could pick it up without being noticed. One made eye contact with me and I just shook my head no. They walked away.
I'm so sorry this happened. Our kids certainly do let us down sometimes...and I guess if we're honest we let them down sometimes. We just have to give consequences, forgive, keep things in perspective, and move on.
Love,
Susan
..Guest..thanx..i might try the cold porridge..then let him walk round the front room for 15mins..before i bang him up in his bedroom for the rest of the day.and do that daily..lol..see if he enjoys it..?..i think not.!!
..Susan..i know we have to let them live their life and let them find their own feet..but when this happens you do blame yourself...i can see it from both ways..i put my mum thru hell when i was young..and carried on doing it well into my 20s..hes a good kid who just made a wrong choice..as i said..i ain,t gonna be to hard on him verbally..cos i see some of myself in him when i was his age..but parents aswell as kids have to take responsibility for the kids actions.!!!...i hope everything is ok with you and your son also...no one said life was gonna be easy thou...take care..see ya soon..Robbie..
ps..Susan..i hope you read that right..when i said parents have to take responsibility for the kids actions aswell..i meant when the kid is young..10,11,12 sort of age..if they,re going out stealing.bunkin off school..etc..there must be a part that the parents have to take responsibility for...Robbie..
..Susan..i know we have to let them live their life and let them find their own feet..but when this happens you do blame yourself...i can see it from both ways..i put my mum thru hell when i was young..and carried on doing it well into my 20s..hes a good kid who just made a wrong choice..as i said..i ain,t gonna be to hard on him verbally..cos i see some of myself in him when i was his age..but parents aswell as kids have to take responsibility for the kids actions.!!!...i hope everything is ok with you and your son also...no one said life was gonna be easy thou...take care..see ya soon..Robbie..
ps..Susan..i hope you read that right..when i said parents have to take responsibility for the kids actions aswell..i meant when the kid is young..10,11,12 sort of age..if they,re going out stealing.bunkin off school..etc..there must be a part that the parents have to take responsibility for...Robbie..
We do the best we can----------.
For a million years kids have been doing stupid ,senseless s***.
When I was his age I stole a pack of gum. My dad saw me open the pack in the car & asked where I got it. I lied.(of course)
He had watched me take it in the store. I was caught!
He turned the car around ,went back to the store ,marched me back inside to pay for it and apoligize.Then he lectured me on honesty and right and wrong etc... All things a 14 year old thinks he knows
When the drug addiction kicked in later -& stealing got worse and worse.
Their would be no apolgy to the store or judges that could help me .
But I always remembered the day my dad tried to teach me a lesson.
We do the best we can---------
much respect
jack
For a million years kids have been doing stupid ,senseless s***.
When I was his age I stole a pack of gum. My dad saw me open the pack in the car & asked where I got it. I lied.(of course)
He had watched me take it in the store. I was caught!
He turned the car around ,went back to the store ,marched me back inside to pay for it and apoligize.Then he lectured me on honesty and right and wrong etc... All things a 14 year old thinks he knows
When the drug addiction kicked in later -& stealing got worse and worse.
Their would be no apolgy to the store or judges that could help me .
But I always remembered the day my dad tried to teach me a lesson.
We do the best we can---------
much respect
jack
Hi, Robbie. OUCH. It hurts when our kids make their mistakes. No way around that. You're handling it great. No screaming and carrying on. Just huge disappointment in your tone and take away his stuff. That's one lesson down for Charlie. He won't make that mistake again if you stick to your punishment...don't give in. Hope you have a better day tomorrow. Might cheer you up to know it was raining in California for a change. You're an awesome dad, Robbie. He's lucky. So many young boys have dads who aren't around. luv corrinne
He is lucky indeed!
Robbie,
Hats off to you for stepping up to the plate and being an awesome dad! The "wet seal" above was "spot on" with her post...stick to your guns...you are doing whats right! All the best to you!
Darin
Robbie,
Hats off to you for stepping up to the plate and being an awesome dad! The "wet seal" above was "spot on" with her post...stick to your guns...you are doing whats right! All the best to you!
Darin
Who's that stranger calling me a "wet seal"? Nice to see you, Darin....GIT.
Robbie,
This by far isn't your fault, and I know you know that.
Consequenses, for them actions. that is the biggest thing, like Corrine said make sure you stick what you said.....
Emails is coming.
You take care,
Love,
Tina
This by far isn't your fault, and I know you know that.
Consequenses, for them actions. that is the biggest thing, like Corrine said make sure you stick what you said.....
Emails is coming.
You take care,
Love,
Tina
Corrinne,
In~-~ing deed!
In~-~ing deed!
Dit~~~~~ingO
2FF!
