yeah...............the Lord is so wonderful................
MERRY CHRISTMAS..............
thumper
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yeah...............the Lord is so wonderful................
MERRY CHRISTMAS..............
thumper
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And here's one for the guys...
Merry Christmas....
Merry Christmas....
lol................doug............
i am just rying to maintain a sence of humor this christmas..........
i have been busy posting lil glitter pics that make me happy and maybe it might brighten someone else's day also...........
i am not having the greatest christmas , but i have lowered my expectations...
i went home to moms house and my father would not eat christmas dinner because i was there.........i wrote him a card and told him that i loved him..
that i was sorry for being a disapointment to him........
mj has been helping me with this and for the first time in many years i wrote him and told him that i loved him and that i forgive him...
but this is not being returned.........
so i had to leave so that way my dad would eat dinner........
so i am very hurt right now......life can be so challenging....ya know
it can be so hard to stay positive and thankful........
but i really do try hard to do that.
i know that there are many people out there that are hurting right now and some are hungry and poor...........
so i really do try and count the blessings that i have.............
i hope that your having a wonderful christmas doug........
thanks for being kind to me.............
thumper
i am just rying to maintain a sence of humor this christmas..........
i have been busy posting lil glitter pics that make me happy and maybe it might brighten someone else's day also...........
i am not having the greatest christmas , but i have lowered my expectations...
i went home to moms house and my father would not eat christmas dinner because i was there.........i wrote him a card and told him that i loved him..
that i was sorry for being a disapointment to him........
mj has been helping me with this and for the first time in many years i wrote him and told him that i loved him and that i forgive him...
but this is not being returned.........
so i had to leave so that way my dad would eat dinner........
so i am very hurt right now......life can be so challenging....ya know
it can be so hard to stay positive and thankful........
but i really do try hard to do that.
i know that there are many people out there that are hurting right now and some are hungry and poor...........
so i really do try and count the blessings that i have.............
i hope that your having a wonderful christmas doug........
thanks for being kind to me.............
thumper
Thumper, Was just sitting here finishing up my Christmas dinner now that everyone is gone and I almost spit my food on the computer screen when I looked at the pics on your thread (LOL). Shantel
Thump- Sorry about your Dad..that is just wrong..WRONG..
Dearest Thumper,
thanks for the Christmas eye candy...
Sorry to hear that your Christmas dinner wasn't of the Norman Rockwell type gettogethers...but what the hell...who's is..
What you did by writing your Father that card, was a Christmas gift for YOURSELF!! Good for you...remember that by writing that card to him, by apologizing and forgiving HIM, ( as in the act of writing that card...)you really are freeing yourself...
Dont worry about his reaction or lack thereof....you had to do that for YOU...and in doing so you free yourself up to move on with your life...
You did not get the reaction you thought you might, or you wished would have happened, but thats something you have absolutely no control over..you did what you DID have control over, and that was making peace with him, letting him know how you felt, apologizing if you were a 'disappointment" to him, and forgiving him for his deeds to you...
Please try to feel good about this!! you should feel good about this and find a certain sense of peace that enables you to move on with your life...with or without his blessing or his permission, you have released the power he had over you and have decided to move on....
That is why the true gift of apologizing is to oneself...leaving the past behind and going forward.....
It sounds like your father is terribly afraid of his emotions, and is unable or unequipped to deal with your forthright gesture....you may never know how your card affected him...and it may have affected him more then you know...but either way, you did what you needed to do for YOU!!! im so happy for you honey..
Hope this coming year brings you an abundance of peace and joy...youve put yourself in the drivers seat tonight...so remember that our rear view mirror ( our past ) is smaller than our front window ( and what lies ahead of us,) for a reason....Your future is un foretold and as big as you can dream it can be..
Hugs
Ali
thanks for the Christmas eye candy...
Sorry to hear that your Christmas dinner wasn't of the Norman Rockwell type gettogethers...but what the hell...who's is..
What you did by writing your Father that card, was a Christmas gift for YOURSELF!! Good for you...remember that by writing that card to him, by apologizing and forgiving HIM, ( as in the act of writing that card...)you really are freeing yourself...
Dont worry about his reaction or lack thereof....you had to do that for YOU...and in doing so you free yourself up to move on with your life...
You did not get the reaction you thought you might, or you wished would have happened, but thats something you have absolutely no control over..you did what you DID have control over, and that was making peace with him, letting him know how you felt, apologizing if you were a 'disappointment" to him, and forgiving him for his deeds to you...
Please try to feel good about this!! you should feel good about this and find a certain sense of peace that enables you to move on with your life...with or without his blessing or his permission, you have released the power he had over you and have decided to move on....
That is why the true gift of apologizing is to oneself...leaving the past behind and going forward.....
It sounds like your father is terribly afraid of his emotions, and is unable or unequipped to deal with your forthright gesture....you may never know how your card affected him...and it may have affected him more then you know...but either way, you did what you needed to do for YOU!!! im so happy for you honey..
Hope this coming year brings you an abundance of peace and joy...youve put yourself in the drivers seat tonight...so remember that our rear view mirror ( our past ) is smaller than our front window ( and what lies ahead of us,) for a reason....Your future is un foretold and as big as you can dream it can be..
Hugs
Ali
Thumper...I am really sorry your father is being such a hard core jerk..
You did the right thing though by writing to him...I truly believe
that he will come around sooner or later and realize what a wonderful
and loving daughter he has..
Doug
You did the right thing though by writing to him...I truly believe
that he will come around sooner or later and realize what a wonderful
and loving daughter he has..
Doug
Merry Christmas Thumper, Call me I need to talk to you.
Nice pics by the way.
Nice pics by the way.
thumper honey,
i can so relate to how you are feeling tonite cuz it has happened to me. after confronting my father on the daily abuse i had to put up with him in my teen age hood(sexual molestation and a forced abortion, 2 beatings i'll never forget) he became so filled with guilt and embarrassment that he wrote me an email telling me i was no longer his daughter, i had been written out of his will and my brothers and sister all get holiday and birthday gifts from him except me.
now you tell me what i did wrong to deserve that? he has caused so many problems for me in my adult life, and after much counseling i have been advised to detach from him and to set boundaries for which i have, i had to set boundaries for my mother as well, i did not see or say one word to my parents this Christmas. that is awful that it has to be that way, life is too short and my goodness these are your children!
i wrote a letter to my dad once and he said he refused to read that garbage! but it was therapeutic for me to get all that pain out.'thumper , do you want to email me and tell me why you and your dad are estranged? we could help one another.
i had a very blessed Christmas. love julie
i can so relate to how you are feeling tonite cuz it has happened to me. after confronting my father on the daily abuse i had to put up with him in my teen age hood(sexual molestation and a forced abortion, 2 beatings i'll never forget) he became so filled with guilt and embarrassment that he wrote me an email telling me i was no longer his daughter, i had been written out of his will and my brothers and sister all get holiday and birthday gifts from him except me.
now you tell me what i did wrong to deserve that? he has caused so many problems for me in my adult life, and after much counseling i have been advised to detach from him and to set boundaries for which i have, i had to set boundaries for my mother as well, i did not see or say one word to my parents this Christmas. that is awful that it has to be that way, life is too short and my goodness these are your children!
i wrote a letter to my dad once and he said he refused to read that garbage! but it was therapeutic for me to get all that pain out.'thumper , do you want to email me and tell me why you and your dad are estranged? we could help one another.
i had a very blessed Christmas. love julie
(((((((((((((((((shantel, Doug and Danny, ALI..., stephy , and jewles))))))))))))))))))
you are some of the dearest people to me............
thank you for taking time to post to me................
Danny i wish i had the love you have for your daughters........from my dad........
he use to love me like that, but i made alot of bad decisions in my life...
like smoking weed and cigarettes, and mainily BOYS....
thats really it in a nutshell....so here i am 34 a RN, married and still a loser in his eyes............
your right ALI...............your post , i read it over and over.......
i beleive that God uses people to talk to you.............
i really like th rear view and front view analogy.........very true
jewels.............i will email you and give you some more details...
i would love to work through this together...MJ is also working on this so it will be MJ, you and I.............YOUR SUCH A bring light .....i love u
i am considering couseling......i am in a terrible place right now...
i feel depressed and i am wanting to sleep alot..............
its the weather, the SEASON, and you should of seen my MOMS face when my dad said he would not eat.........
i thinknis time for me to go..........I HAVE NEVER EVER GONE to counseling
she was so hurt..........i jumped up and said mom its ok....i am gonna go home anyways........
i told her i would take her to toronto, china town on thursday.....
and that will be our christmas celebration.........then i kissed her a million times to make her laugh and forget about what my dad just said......
i am beginning to think i need an AD for this time of the year......
i told you guys.........remember?.......well its only gonna get worse...
there is NO sun here..........
hey ! maybe tanning.......the only think is i like my skin color the way it is....
light tan...........i am gettin older now and i have began to like myslef the way i am..........i dont ned a tan to feel better about myself.......
my brain just might need it...........WTH am i sayin....auh !
thank you for listening to me..........
i wish i had a happy post..........but it would not be the truth..........
stephy..........i never knew that you and i would become so close.....
i just want you to know that i am greatful for you.......
your my long lost sis that i never had..........
you have filled a a big void , just by having you to talk to........
i know the Lord brings certain people together........
especially the nerds..........
because life can be painful and HE KNOWS THAT....so he brings us together to talk about the Lord and things......
Danny your a wonderful father, a a very kind man........
thank you for the christmas web page....i love it....your smart.
Doug..........tick turd...........ha ha ha ha ha ha ha....
i know thats what mj calls you.........thats so funny...........
thank you doug for always reaching out to me.......
i remember when i use to post, when i was kinda new.....
sometimes you were the only one that would acknowlegde me........
thanks buddy........Bless you dear heart...........
i hope were friends for a long time.........
thumper
you are some of the dearest people to me............
thank you for taking time to post to me................
Danny i wish i had the love you have for your daughters........from my dad........
he use to love me like that, but i made alot of bad decisions in my life...
like smoking weed and cigarettes, and mainily BOYS....
thats really it in a nutshell....so here i am 34 a RN, married and still a loser in his eyes............
your right ALI...............your post , i read it over and over.......
i beleive that God uses people to talk to you.............
i really like th rear view and front view analogy.........very true
jewels.............i will email you and give you some more details...
i would love to work through this together...MJ is also working on this so it will be MJ, you and I.............YOUR SUCH A bring light .....i love u
i am considering couseling......i am in a terrible place right now...
i feel depressed and i am wanting to sleep alot..............
its the weather, the SEASON, and you should of seen my MOMS face when my dad said he would not eat.........
i thinknis time for me to go..........I HAVE NEVER EVER GONE to counseling
she was so hurt..........i jumped up and said mom its ok....i am gonna go home anyways........
i told her i would take her to toronto, china town on thursday.....
and that will be our christmas celebration.........then i kissed her a million times to make her laugh and forget about what my dad just said......
i am beginning to think i need an AD for this time of the year......
i told you guys.........remember?.......well its only gonna get worse...
there is NO sun here..........
hey ! maybe tanning.......the only think is i like my skin color the way it is....
light tan...........i am gettin older now and i have began to like myslef the way i am..........i dont ned a tan to feel better about myself.......
my brain just might need it...........WTH am i sayin....auh !
thank you for listening to me..........
i wish i had a happy post..........but it would not be the truth..........
stephy..........i never knew that you and i would become so close.....
i just want you to know that i am greatful for you.......
your my long lost sis that i never had..........
you have filled a a big void , just by having you to talk to........
i know the Lord brings certain people together........
especially the nerds..........
because life can be painful and HE KNOWS THAT....so he brings us together to talk about the Lord and things......
Danny your a wonderful father, a a very kind man........
thank you for the christmas web page....i love it....your smart.
Doug..........tick turd...........ha ha ha ha ha ha ha....
i know thats what mj calls you.........thats so funny...........
thank you doug for always reaching out to me.......
i remember when i use to post, when i was kinda new.....
sometimes you were the only one that would acknowlegde me........
thanks buddy........Bless you dear heart...........
i hope were friends for a long time.........
thumper
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We all make decisions in life that aren't the best. No one is perfect. You know darn well there is stuff in his life he is not proud of and you probably don't even know about it. Don't let it get you down. Some day, he'll come around. Hopefully, bby that time, it will still be important to you. If not, his mistake.
Hi Danny!!! Merry Christmas(a day late)
Thumper huny your right I will catch you just like youve done with me.What we are going through is so personal so deep that it will take time to work through these feelings
BUT I truley believe that God will help us & heal us on this & many other things,
If your thinking about therapy....huny I say that it can(if you find the right person)open up so many doors & help you deal with alot of the pain I know your in
Know I love you Thumper & I could NEVER EVER thank you enough for the close friend you are to me.All I can say is I am blessed to have you in my life!!!!!
molly
Thumper huny your right I will catch you just like youve done with me.What we are going through is so personal so deep that it will take time to work through these feelings
BUT I truley believe that God will help us & heal us on this & many other things,
If your thinking about therapy....huny I say that it can(if you find the right person)open up so many doors & help you deal with alot of the pain I know your in
Know I love you Thumper & I could NEVER EVER thank you enough for the close friend you are to me.All I can say is I am blessed to have you in my life!!!!!
molly
