not often i call u that honey,just been reading your diary,dont know if i should say anything on this page but im gonna anyway,con,when u 1st went to a meeting u posted on the board about a sponsor,my reply,if i remember correctly was "don,t u dare pick a sponsor just now ya nut"sorry for my way of words but i think u know how to take me.con,i still say the same,i really think u have been to quick to pick a sponsor.none of my bizness,i know,but i have to tell u ,u r one of my favourite people,on the board,in the world if u like.the 12steps r not for everyone either,it,s your personal choice.if i were u the next time i went for my script,to the dealers,don,t call me,i,ll call u,if u come near me again after this u will be talking out a hole in the side of your face coz i will cut it off u,so fcuk off,,,,i also wouldnt call that sponsor again,wait till u know them better and abit more about them,THIS is only my opinion con,sending u hugs accross the water....eck,,xxx
isnt eck a sweetie--hahaha
ok--so from what i gather (havent read the diary) youve had some issues with dealers approaching u at the clinic--thats gonna happen, but as soon as they realize thats not your thing, they will back off, the word moves very very quickly at a clinic whos using and whos not--just go into that whole doc matin black pullover mood when you see them, and as long as you keep eckis little chant there in ind, you wont have a problem, they may think u are crazed--but WHO CARES WHAT THEY THINK!!!!! if thats the worst of your issues, girl you are doing great, it helps to go through old posts once in awhile, really puts perspective on things...As far as the sponsor thing goes,it seems that youa re worried you are doing the "program" wrong or that if you dont do it exactly right you will fail, thats not true everyone is differentat therefore thier recoveries look different--others should only be making suggestions on how to execute the 12 steps, you have to decide whats right for you--feel it out, dont rush, you have the rest of your life to learn about yourself without drugs, so do what feels right--eckie may be right--it may be too soon, it took mea long time to find a sponsor, then she was all wrong, you know if its right or not...you are doing awesome!!
and hey ya never know you may inspire one of them to get better!!
ok--so from what i gather (havent read the diary) youve had some issues with dealers approaching u at the clinic--thats gonna happen, but as soon as they realize thats not your thing, they will back off, the word moves very very quickly at a clinic whos using and whos not--just go into that whole doc matin black pullover mood when you see them, and as long as you keep eckis little chant there in ind, you wont have a problem, they may think u are crazed--but WHO CARES WHAT THEY THINK!!!!! if thats the worst of your issues, girl you are doing great, it helps to go through old posts once in awhile, really puts perspective on things...As far as the sponsor thing goes,it seems that youa re worried you are doing the "program" wrong or that if you dont do it exactly right you will fail, thats not true everyone is differentat therefore thier recoveries look different--others should only be making suggestions on how to execute the 12 steps, you have to decide whats right for you--feel it out, dont rush, you have the rest of your life to learn about yourself without drugs, so do what feels right--eckie may be right--it may be too soon, it took mea long time to find a sponsor, then she was all wrong, you know if its right or not...you are doing awesome!!
and hey ya never know you may inspire one of them to get better!!
amity,i have a feelin of pure rage for the people who r approaching con,i hate their type,f***in predators.im no angel in the way i fed my habit at times but i really loathe people who prey on the vulnerable and that,s what con is at this moment in time.u will get stronger con,as u say it,s in our own hand,s.i just hope u have the strength to ignore them or tell them to f-off,btw,as u probably no,f-off is understood in any language,well i,ve told people of all nations and they,ve understood me,but then again they would probably understand me without a word been spoken,lol,i feel for u con,i,m in the same boat though meth or anything else is not an option for me,but as amity say,s get the doc martins on and kick a** girl coz we all luv u to bit,s,,,,luv and lot,s of it,,,eck,,xxxxx
So of course I had to go look at what y'all are talking about on Con's Recovery Diary............of which I must say I have mad respect for...........how Con puts into words what most of us think or have thought at one time, but never wrote about..........I just always came on here and beotched...........whinned and complained.............so I have respect for everyone that has shared mostly for themselves on the diaries.
WE CARE!
Con, we care.........and yeah we're just people on a message board, BUT we care and look at Eckie.........he's like your right hand man, Con.........your bosom buddy...............you guys kind of came together here..........two peas in a pod.............I'd pay a bajillion to have an Eckie on my side............and then the rest of us here............you have our respect, and concern, and our hearts.
Can't say myself I know anything about sponsors.............however, and this is JUST my friend.................my Tres...........her sponsor...........I'll tell ya what.........NOW Tres ought to be her sponsor................and I have witnessed and been present for and heard...............this chick be totally self absorbed..........totally, totally all about herself............and Tres help her.......which is fine, but she's dissed my friend...........she's promised her things.................and then bailed............happens often.........yet, thinks nothing of asking my friend for something.............or is listening to Tres and then blows her off and goes into her own stuff..............so I kind of have seen a different side................then again we're all human.............but I'd think the same like aren't they supposed to H-E-L-P, but maybe help to a sponsor is exactly what they are doing or not doing...........and that's how it is supposed to be.
Just my 2cents...............bottom line...........Con, we care.
WE CARE!
Con, we care.........and yeah we're just people on a message board, BUT we care and look at Eckie.........he's like your right hand man, Con.........your bosom buddy...............you guys kind of came together here..........two peas in a pod.............I'd pay a bajillion to have an Eckie on my side............and then the rest of us here............you have our respect, and concern, and our hearts.
Can't say myself I know anything about sponsors.............however, and this is JUST my friend.................my Tres...........her sponsor...........I'll tell ya what.........NOW Tres ought to be her sponsor................and I have witnessed and been present for and heard...............this chick be totally self absorbed..........totally, totally all about herself............and Tres help her.......which is fine, but she's dissed my friend...........she's promised her things.................and then bailed............happens often.........yet, thinks nothing of asking my friend for something.............or is listening to Tres and then blows her off and goes into her own stuff..............so I kind of have seen a different side................then again we're all human.............but I'd think the same like aren't they supposed to H-E-L-P, but maybe help to a sponsor is exactly what they are doing or not doing...........and that's how it is supposed to be.
Just my 2cents...............bottom line...........Con, we care.
Oh jeez.....blushing...hiding under my desk....damn....its always way humbling to see my name up there...dont think you all will know how much that mattered to me today..you all make me feel so much better sometimes...thanks...
Eck...damn if you probably wernt right...ya know, I wanted to get to work on somethng directly so I wouldnt be thinking about stuff I shouldnt be thinking of...and she asked me where my sponsor was and I said i hadnt one and she offered...so I said Ok...guess I thought it was a good thing...but...ya...well...she doesnt seem to give a rats butt sometimes..lol...and the dealers...s***...sad thing is I understand their need but and well, yup, theres always a good chance to make a bit there...suppose if i was in need and using I would go there too..but its so hard sometimes, especially when you know, your not sure about your own self...but, ya all are right, put on my s*** kickers and walk dangerous...think its just the knowing sometimes that they ARE there if I want it that can do the damage too...its sad, and sometimes It makes me really angry too when some of us are trying so hard...but, in the end, its always up to us...thanks for the support Eck...sugar for my Eck :)
Everyone...the support here astounds me...truly...some days its just unbelievable...wish sometimes you were my group and we all had a meeting place to show up in...i so seriously do not know at times what I would do without you all...still blushing...thanks for the outreach folks...
Eck...damn if you probably wernt right...ya know, I wanted to get to work on somethng directly so I wouldnt be thinking about stuff I shouldnt be thinking of...and she asked me where my sponsor was and I said i hadnt one and she offered...so I said Ok...guess I thought it was a good thing...but...ya...well...she doesnt seem to give a rats butt sometimes..lol...and the dealers...s***...sad thing is I understand their need but and well, yup, theres always a good chance to make a bit there...suppose if i was in need and using I would go there too..but its so hard sometimes, especially when you know, your not sure about your own self...but, ya all are right, put on my s*** kickers and walk dangerous...think its just the knowing sometimes that they ARE there if I want it that can do the damage too...its sad, and sometimes It makes me really angry too when some of us are trying so hard...but, in the end, its always up to us...thanks for the support Eck...sugar for my Eck :)
Everyone...the support here astounds me...truly...some days its just unbelievable...wish sometimes you were my group and we all had a meeting place to show up in...i so seriously do not know at times what I would do without you all...still blushing...thanks for the outreach folks...
Con, you are doing great...working and kicking and writing and living it. since I've been going to AlAnon meetings I find myself often saying things about my real support group...all of you here and on other parts of the board...you all know me as well as anyone...strange and wonderful isn't it?
Peace~MomNMore
Peace~MomNMore
Con- just to flag up what momnmore said. You really are doing good keep telling yourself that all the time. Try it as a buddist chant - I am doing good- i am doing good - i am doing...
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