I have been married to my husband for 10 years we have two kids together 10 and 5 years old, we met about 14 years ago when we were both doing meth went to prison go out had our son and he went back to prison for 5 years. I stuck by his side he promised me a different life and that he was done with meth, he came home and did good for about 2 years then his mother passed away and it has been an ongoing battle for almost 6 years now.He keeps telling get me it won't always be like this and that he wants to quit but he doesnt. I am totally consumed by his addiction and trying to make him stop although I know he has to want too. We are currently about to lose out business and everything we have and I'm really to a point with it all that I don't care, he says I can't get past this one little thing and that I don't care about the business the kids or anything except his addiction, partly this is true. I love my kids but I am just so stuck in a rut where all I can think about is that he didn't come home who is he talking to what is he doing, it has been this way for 5 years now you would think it would get easier but I have no control over it at all to the point I feel like I am losing my mind. Please help me I don't know what to do!!
Crystal, I feel and understand what your going through. the only part i am not familiar with is going to prison or being an addict myself. I grew up in an alcoholic home and my mother has about 20 years sober. so i know first hand what addiction can do. I always told myself when i was growing up that i would never let this happen to me, that i wouldnt ever become addicted to something or let addiction ruin my family or hurt me anymore. Although, now my boyfriend of 7 years, we have two children today, is addicted to meth, he has been doing it for about 5 years now or maybe even longer, maybe since we got together. I dont know cuz its all a bunch of lies. Im sooo mad at him for lying to me so much. I wish there was something i could do to make it stop. I have tried so much, changing his phone number, not letting him go anywhere on his own, tracking his every movement, but he is smart and he knows how to lie and get what he wants. I just found out he even has a secret phone he uses to get drugs. its awful!!!! I just want out so bad but feel so bad to break up my family. I wish i knew what to do or somewhere to go to tell me some answers or advice. im so sorry i cant help you but i understand you. and i feel you.
Hi, I'm not going through what your going through. But I am the mother of an addict going on 18 yrs now. It's sad what your going through and sad for the children too. But there comes a time in your life when you have been battered mentally to the point where you have to tell yourselves enoughs enough! You have given this guy long enough to straighten up. How long are you going to wait? His life doesn't run on minutes it runs on when he gets his meth and while he is on this stuff time doesn't exist for him. Your life however is just ticking away the years and you and your kids are getting older. Life is hard enough without putting yourself through this misery when you don't have to. I'd rather have no dad than one that's a meth addict. I truly feel for you both, it's heartbreaking what your going through! My heart is broken with my daughters addiction so I know a bit of how you feel. Now it's time to start thinking with your head and not your heart. I wish you both all the luck in the world. Remember, when one door closes another one opens and this is so true. God bless. Mary.
He enjoying it and that you're consumed by his problem. You can't go back in time to change ur descion to wait for him ad u can't do anything about what actually chose to do either. It's been five yrs time to stop thinking about why and accept it. You can't control him and it's not ur place or ur job to either. Take care of yourself and your kids otherwise your kids will end up in similar situations when they grow up.
