Maybe someone has got an idea here. Im over on the heroin board all the time . Im on methadone & have my own issues.
However,my g/f of 12 years has this drinking thing where every nite she drinks 3 beers. Not a six pk a nite,but 1/2 a 6 pk. I can see the change in her personality after this .even though she tells me Im crazy.She tells me 3 beers gives her the energy to get dinner ready,do the dishes ..etc. I say she gets more arguementive with each one. Now,she does work 8 hard hours every day in an assembly shop,& she does come home tired,but every single nite to need 3 beers to get things done?. She doesnt stray from 3 until the week-end when she has a few more. Again,she doesnt drive, or get voilent,she just likes to get a little buzz on& argue with me about stupid sh**.. Shes a rather small, lite-weight woman so these few drinks affect her pretty easy.
Is this something I need to worry about? This routine has been going on for years,without escalating. Both of her brothers are alcoholics,her faher even died of complications from alcoholism. It has me baffeled.
What do you think? Nothing really to worry about.? Keep an eye on it?She really thinks that Im making something over nothing , Am I??
I dont drink at all,(anymore) she says just because I dont drink,is no reason that I should be pissed at her for a lousy 3 beers a night to help her unwind and relax after work.
I dont want to cause any problems if thier isnt one
just wondering,
jack
Hey Jack it is obviously bothering you.
Is it because she becomes argumentitive.?
Why is it bothering you now and it never did before?
Karen
Is it because she becomes argumentitive.?
Why is it bothering you now and it never did before?
Karen
Hi Jack... I would definitely keep an eye on it... it's just like me starting out with only 2-3 pills a day just to have the energy to make it thru nursing school, come home clean, take care of my son, cook and then stay up to do homework. I justified it by saying i only took them for energy and since i was only taking a few that i wasn't an addict. The thing is i noticed when i didn't have them i couldn't do all the chores and homework and stuff. See how your GF does on the days she doesn't have the beers as opposed to the days she does have them. If she seems like she can't do as much as she does when she is drinking- i would say there is a potential problem bc she is using the beers to cope with everyday stresses. And you and i both know how 3 turns into more and more. My dad, his dad, and his brother were all alcoholics and i cannot stop at just one beer, so i stay away from it. Since your gf has alcoholism in her family she should be very careful. But, you also know you can't stop her if she doesn't want to stop. So far it sounds like she doesn't see it as a problem. Just be there for her, but don't let it interfere with your sobriety. Hang in there- i will keep you both in my prayers and thoughts.
Love and God Bless,
Briana :)
Love and God Bless,
Briana :)
Karen
I guess I never mentioned it before,because it really didnt bother me. However,now I notice that when my son (19 years old) asks for one,after his hard day at work- she finds that just giving him 1 is no big deal.
She is not his mother,and I know that shouldnt play a role in it. She is the only Mom my kid has had since he,s been 6or7 and he respects her a lot.
The drinkin age in NJ is 21 so really its against the law. I dont want to start a huge issue out of this,so Im going to tell them both -that its got to stop.
I think she is starting to act like his buddy instead of his mother.
I guess thats why I never mentioned it- I felt a little shame that as a parent I let it go on.
thanks for caring enough to drag it out
love
jack
I guess I never mentioned it before,because it really didnt bother me. However,now I notice that when my son (19 years old) asks for one,after his hard day at work- she finds that just giving him 1 is no big deal.
She is not his mother,and I know that shouldnt play a role in it. She is the only Mom my kid has had since he,s been 6or7 and he respects her a lot.
The drinkin age in NJ is 21 so really its against the law. I dont want to start a huge issue out of this,so Im going to tell them both -that its got to stop.
I think she is starting to act like his buddy instead of his mother.
I guess thats why I never mentioned it- I felt a little shame that as a parent I let it go on.
thanks for caring enough to drag it out
love
jack
Jack, I completley agree with you, the last thing you need is your son getting into the same pattern.
I can't have drinking in the house (save for social occasions) if my husband were to start coming home and having a drink it would press all of my panic buttons.
maybe you let it go for so long because of the guilt of your own recovery?
I don't know, just a thought.
Karen
I can't have drinking in the house (save for social occasions) if my husband were to start coming home and having a drink it would press all of my panic buttons.
maybe you let it go for so long because of the guilt of your own recovery?
I don't know, just a thought.
Karen
For health reasons, 3 beer a day is not the greatest. They say that any more than 7 drinks a week for a woman is not healthy.
