Long and ventish
How hard does the addict or alcoholic work on covering up their bad habits or do they simply get away with it ie people simply ignoring or not noticing.
Here the alkie minus well have a PR firm because he's constantly telling or implying how people should act, who to or not talk to, what topics are off limits as far as he is concerned. He seems to be using a crafted public relations narrative. Anytime you speak to someone we have in common he wants to know what you said in detail.
He's gotten violently upset after finding out I had a brief casual conversation with certain people. But all this fit's into his constantly hanging out with a new batch of friends. Apparently he not only burnt bridges but relationship issues with a common friends caused strife among his peers. But again his close circle of friends keeps on changing. By his own admission he has 'acquaintances' which maintains a relationship for future favors. He talks about them like there his buds but they don't hang out or talk daily.
He's hiding something wether it was a fight/abuse or they have some nasty dirt on him. By his own admission frequently from a drunken rants he tries to maintain a different image among peers. He got violently upset when his family and regular friends got him a basic no contract cell phone, not smart phone when he went through some financial issues. Not being able to email by phone apparently bad for image. He went out his way to his own financial and physical detriment to maintain appearances with his rich friends. He also continued expensive activities with others so they wouldn't realize he was bankrupt ie high fashion, concerts, sporting events, restaurants etc.
The massive effort in hiding or covering up his drinking/drugging is just another extension of the amount of time and money he spends on grooming/products. He's also used those products and steroids to get out of recommended counseling/rehab after a dui. Like a grifter he seems to have been able to read people or craft an image for his plan.
Hi Samegame,
I am not sure of your exact situation and I don't need to know. However, if you are able to get away from this man, I would go. Try to come up with a plan and work towards it. His behavior is not respectful and he needs a lot of help. I hope you are able to get some distance from him.
I am not sure of your exact situation and I don't need to know. However, if you are able to get away from this man, I would go. Try to come up with a plan and work towards it. His behavior is not respectful and he needs a lot of help. I hope you are able to get some distance from him.
I agree with P2. He gets violent that's a deal breaker along with all his other unhealthy disordered personality issues.
Apparently he wants others to lie or misrepresent too. To buy/keep a car the alkie had someone else put it on their insurance policy(crazy because we warned the person of the alkies duis). He didn't want to tell the insurance company they don't have that car anymore. Should add he said he would even pay that cost of the ghost car for a few month until he found an insurance/car alternative. I think that's called fraud in some circles.
Long story short they were furious when they found out that person turned in a leased car of their own which will raise the rates a little on the other cars on the policy. Now the insurance company wants a policy in the alkies name, uh-oh the middle aged gray haired alcoholic will have to do business like a responsible adult.
Long story short they were furious when they found out that person turned in a leased car of their own which will raise the rates a little on the other cars on the policy. Now the insurance company wants a policy in the alkies name, uh-oh the middle aged gray haired alcoholic will have to do business like a responsible adult.
Gosh samegame he's a hot mess and if it was me I wouldn't spend any of my time or energy trying to figure him out. He's not well.......He wears a social mask and when it falls off he gets violent...as Ann Landers used to say RUN don't walk...
