I have been with my boyfriend for close to a year now. He was a heroin addict for 14 years of his life and has been clean or about 2 1/2 years. This is his longest stint with sobriety and the first relationship he hasn't used in. I trust him and believe him when he says he does not use anymore, even though he stills thinks about it a lot. Yesterday, I found a used needle next to his car .I confronted him about it and he said it was old. He claims it was in the pocket of a shirt, he hasn't worn in years. I flat out do not believe him and asked him to take a test. He refused and said I should be able to trust him. I am having some issues with what to do. I have never been with an addict before and don't want to be naive about the situation. Any advice would be very helpful!
I don't have Mich experience as I am going through a similar situation at the moment.. I am the same as you and have never dated and addict.. But from the months that I have been dealing with the lying and missing stuff I have found that if you suspect something go with your gut.. I have found needles and pipes and from his past I think he using meth.. I have confront my boyfriend a handful of times about using.because I don't know.if I would notice the signs be cause he is also a diagnosed schizophrenic and bipolar and from what I have read the use of meth has the same signs as those without proper medicine.. Sucks.. Stick to your gut.. Protect yourself and your belongings because from what I have seen once they start using again nothing of value is safe....
He also battles with OCD, anxiety and depression which he is prescribed medication for. There are a lot of little signs which lead me to believe he is using. I am just having a hard time with the thought because he says he isn't and has never lied to me. I feel embarrassed and foolish, for allowing myself to be in this situation to begin with.
I felt and still feel the same way.. I question how I could do this.. But all the little things and the big things add up to him using.. He tries to give me a million excuses but the lies catch up to him most of the time.. I believe he is using....but there are other factor that I can't kick him out.. The apartment is in only.his name and there is nothing where I live to rent that I can afford.. And a line I read on here yesterday stuck with me...he is the addict and he is my addiction.. Sucks because I love him and I feel his love for me is real but.because he is an addict the high is the most important thing to him... Nothing will get in his way when it comes to the high.. Things that used to be important fall to the way side.. Stealing happened quickly but I was to busy to notice the things missing... He would be gone for hours at first then days with no contact.. I have been hurt more emotionally with this than anything else in my life.. I'm thinking of you and hope you find the strength to do what is best for you.. Protect yourself..
Thank you for the advice and kind words. It truly helped me a lot!
