Hi
This isn't too serious of a relationship right now. It's kind of the dating part of things where we'll go to the movies, bowling, double dates and I'm just worried I'm being a little naive. Granted I need to talk to him more about it but I'm trying to not make his past a huge focus in our conversations.
Thus far I know he's been "clean" since April. He was in rehab for the 90 days. I'm not sure if this is the second time he went into rehab. Basically what this all boils down to is, what do I do? Do I keep a distance between us since he hasn't really been clean a year?
Basically I genuinely care for this guy, I believe he has a good heart. I'm also not trying to bring the cliche in but things happen for a reason I guess. I don't know I'm just trying to realistic here and would like some advice as to what steps I should take. I apologize for scatter brain I did just find out, I read for a few articles and have been freaking out since. I just want some support or advice.
Thank you for your time.
My advice to you would be to not only take it slow but maybe rethink the relationship. Do you know if he's attending meetings? You need to be aware that he will always either be somewhere in the recovery stage or he will be using. If you really like this guy, take it very slow and maybe just do things together as friends for a time before you take the relationship to a more serious place.
Michelle
Michelle
BYM,
Things do happen for a reason, your personality probably fits like a glove with his. It doesn't mean that's a good thing.
You have no idea the world of hurt and confusion addiction can dump on you and make you really sick too.
There is no cure for addiction - staying sober one day at a time is extremely difficult for them. They can relaps even after many many years in recovery.
Read a bit about codependency and that will hopefully tell you a little bit about yourself and why you even considering a relationship that can lead to so much pain.
Arm yourself with knowledge and be honest with yourself, maybe the reasons for pressuring this relationship are not the right ones.
Good luck!
Things do happen for a reason, your personality probably fits like a glove with his. It doesn't mean that's a good thing.
You have no idea the world of hurt and confusion addiction can dump on you and make you really sick too.
There is no cure for addiction - staying sober one day at a time is extremely difficult for them. They can relaps even after many many years in recovery.
Read a bit about codependency and that will hopefully tell you a little bit about yourself and why you even considering a relationship that can lead to so much pain.
Arm yourself with knowledge and be honest with yourself, maybe the reasons for pressuring this relationship are not the right ones.
Good luck!
