Hello Everyone, I post over on the Crack/Cocaine site but thought I'd check in over here, now that I've found out my 14 year old daughter is out there conducting her own research & development (R & D) of alcohol & drugs...I guess mine and her Dad's experiences in that department were not enough for her to stay away from the stuff (my oldest daughter who is 18 seems to have got the message though). So, thankfully, I am clean and sober today and can handle this situation calmly and rationally. However, during my share at the meeting I attended yesterday I just broke down into sobs and explained to everyone that I just want to take away this little girl's pain and suffering and I don't want her to go down the same path of hopelessness and despair that I did. I was reminded that she is on her own journey and my job is to be a sober, dignified role model for her...but I also suspended all of her priviledges and social activities...I am feeling better today....and not so guilty for being that addict/alcoholic Mom for most of her life...I can't regret the past, but I can't close the door on it either...funny, how this and so much other stuff is being revealed as I trudge through my ninth step. Thanks, VWGirl
VW Girl, you are doing so well with your recovery, so much to be proud of. By remaining clean and sober, you are setting the example that even though for a time in your life, you were human, and made mistakes. But, by working a program and taking you life back, you are showing her how strong you are. And that we all make mistakes. Each and every one of us. Maybe some one on one counseling or Alateen would be of some comfort to her. I'm sure this has been hard on her, and maybe just talking to someone other than her family would help guide her on her journey. The past can't be forgotten, but it can be used as a learning experience- as a reminder of what you don't want to go back to. I wish you and your family strength, courage, and kindness.
Thanks Cynical One, for your reply...I so enjoy your posts on the other forum(s). I appreciate your suggestions...my daughter is currently in one on one counseling. She went to Alateen meetings at the AA roundup last year and we have both registered for the upcoming roundup in May. I can't help but feel remorse for choosing the alcoholic/addict way of life for 28 years. I started young too. I may need Alanon now. I am going to check with my Sponsor. I'm afraid K (my daughter) may be "one" of us. That scares me so much - I don't want that for my girls. But, I know there is a solution and a place for her to go. Right now, she blames her Dad (who got sober about 2.5 yrs ago thru the Program, but now is not practicing at all...dry drunk) and her "wicked" Step-Mom. K is the victim, oh, how I know that role so well...Today is a new day and I will be there for her and I totally will not give up on her, ever!
VWGirl
VWGirl