My mother will be coming home in a week from rehabilitation. She is a opiate addict and alcoholic. I've been doing alot of research this last month, trying to obtain as much knowledge as possible for the recovery. I understand trigger and and make goals and I understand it will be a life time battle. I've made protecting her sobriety my number 1 priority. (my father is an alcoholic &pot smoker currently) reason of concern one. Will he or won't he respect and encourage and support her on this journey. I've fixed and eliminated all the financial rigamoroes she created and have everything to current. So that has take stress off me as far as be un- financially stable and stressed on that. I've created and financial calender and have broken down all numbers. That was a stresser well the whole reason I've joined this forum is I would like any advice anyone could give me as far as how would a daughter create a recovery plan and should there be a contract if so how would a daughter create one and what kind of consequences would I try to enforce. We have a great relationship and always have. I've always took in consideration of the reasons she is an addict. Starting with her childhood then her experiences then her unhappy marriage and being un- financially stable or responsible cause both have issues. And up to this current day. I just want to make it so this transition goes as smooth as possible (and if you know my family you know there's some bumps) thank for reading this and thank you for any advice
Dear Lindsay,
If you want to be the best possible support, then you need to be as healthy yourself as possible. Your goals and objectives sound noble, but I am wondering if a program like Al Anon or NAR Anon might be the exact thing you need. It is hard to learn how to be a supportive relative to the recovery addict by reading articles and books - in my opinion it takes some deaper work.
The temptation is to help a loved one. You can slip into enabling behavior very quickly and easily which will cause more harm than good. Remember, recovery is up to them - not you.
Al Anon and NAR Anon are free - and there should be a meeting near you. If you are a faith-based person, many churches offer recovery and family support programs.
In some cases, AA and Al Anon -- and NA and NAR Anon - are offered at the same time and place (one meetnig for the alcoholic or addict; another meeting in same location for the codependent). This would be a good way to support your loved one.
Message back if you'd like - I wish you the very best of luck
If you want to be the best possible support, then you need to be as healthy yourself as possible. Your goals and objectives sound noble, but I am wondering if a program like Al Anon or NAR Anon might be the exact thing you need. It is hard to learn how to be a supportive relative to the recovery addict by reading articles and books - in my opinion it takes some deaper work.
The temptation is to help a loved one. You can slip into enabling behavior very quickly and easily which will cause more harm than good. Remember, recovery is up to them - not you.
Al Anon and NAR Anon are free - and there should be a meeting near you. If you are a faith-based person, many churches offer recovery and family support programs.
In some cases, AA and Al Anon -- and NA and NAR Anon - are offered at the same time and place (one meetnig for the alcoholic or addict; another meeting in same location for the codependent). This would be a good way to support your loved one.
Message back if you'd like - I wish you the very best of luck
