Hi Davey,
I was just now thinking about you and wondering how you and your little girl were doing?
I hope that you have the time and the whatever it takes to be able to deal with both of your grieving both individually and together.
I don't really know you, but can tell you're a good man. I can tell that you were very close to your mom (or mum?) and that I'm sure she was so proud of you. You are a good son.
I know what you feel, I lost mine as well.
I hope it helps to know that people, even people like me who don't know you too well, are thinking of you and that you and Sian have a special place in my heart, and I pray that this pain eases up on the both of you. Sian is actually lucky that she had her grandma as long as she did, she'll remember her with love.
Please friend, remember to take the time for just you and mom. Take the time to let yourself cry, reminise, and just generally grieve.
When my mom passed, I remember first, there were so many people, we're irish/catholic, so we had the traditional 2 day wake, one day funeral, then people gradually leaving that had come in for the funeral. I remember after everyone was gone, that it hit hard. It was just back to life. Only for me and the rest of my family it wasn't. That was the loneliest saddest part. I'm not trying to make you sad, but I'm just trying to share what it was like with me so that if thats how it goes for you, you'll know. When people are there, it can distract you from the pain, when they go, its just the pain that remains.
I am fortunate that I had my mom for fifteen years. I am fortunate to have had the honor to be her daughter. I am fortunate that I had a love that is like no other.
Remember the shamrock idea I had for you? Do you think you'd like to have one as a necklace, a three leaf shamrock representing the three of you? That is something that could be passed on from generation to generation.
Your mom is alive in your heart and I beleive she is an angel, and that she is and always will be looking down at her two angels.
Please take care Davey, alot of people care about you, even ones like me, who don't know you and don't talk that much to you.
With deep affection and understanding,
Briar/Roe
Give Sian a big hug for me and all the others who care. That, my friend, will be one big long hug. One more thing, Sian is lucky to have you for her daddy. And you are lucky to have her for your little girl. There is nothing more special than a daddy's girl. When I see my husband and our daughter together, my heart fills with love, as I can see how the love they have for each other will forever enrich both of their lives.
How are you mate?
Thanks Roe i wouldnt really mind the lack of a connection we have had,coz .Roe you have been a good pal of late now weve started one and long may it continue.The idea of the shamrock necklace is a great one,as ya said passed down from generation,its sumthin to treasure and hold onto with all the good memories involved.Sians slowley getting back to her old self,most of the time,im sure we will have many tearful nights to come,thats natural and i will stand with her forever.Sian is on her skool trip today going to the planetariam and exhibition about the Titanic....im jealous coz im a history nut,im sure she will have some good stories to tell as shes a real chatterbox.So today its just me in the house,which is very lonley but i gotta get used to it.Anyhow Roe&Kev thanks for yer replies...........Davey
Have a good day Davey. Sian's lucky to have you for a dad. I admire you because looking back at my own mom's passing, I didn't have kids then, and as much as I wish they could have known her, I don't think I could have dealt with their grief as well as my own at the same time. Your doing great, keep it up.
