good morning hillbilly's,i think gina said it best[i just want to be right with myself],it's not about who's right and who's wrong it's about what works for the indivauael involved,opions are nice and everyone has one and i personally like to hear everyone's,not just aa or na way of thinkin,but what ever path that person chooses that keeps them free from there addiction.............vinny.
Hey who you calling Hillbillies??? LOL
I always get called a redneck..funny a calif redneck who has her nails done......LMAO.
that is so true Vinny.......what works for one doesn't always work for others...that we have to keep in mind........
hope you have a great week end.and stay outta trouble....lol
you crack me up, its so fun to see others have a personality like mine.....pure kraziness.LOL
maybe one day I will grow up.but not yet
I always get called a redneck..funny a calif redneck who has her nails done......LMAO.
that is so true Vinny.......what works for one doesn't always work for others...that we have to keep in mind........
hope you have a great week end.and stay outta trouble....lol
you crack me up, its so fun to see others have a personality like mine.....pure kraziness.LOL
maybe one day I will grow up.but not yet
So good to see you post Shar. You are one of the reasons I'm clean. Like Rachel, I wish you would post more. Others could learn from you.
I would rather be happy. No argument there.
Love
Lisa
I would rather be happy. No argument there.
Love
Lisa
First, I am so happy for you. I love babies.
Waiting for a grandchild, just don't know when, that's their call. I know they are discussing it and that excites me so I am more than ready for some little feet to be running around - now only little paws.
I don't have to be right but I do want to do the right thing and I really want recovery for everyone. I can't do that so I have to concentrate on my own recovery.
Love, Jean
Waiting for a grandchild, just don't know when, that's their call. I know they are discussing it and that excites me so I am more than ready for some little feet to be running around - now only little paws.
I don't have to be right but I do want to do the right thing and I really want recovery for everyone. I can't do that so I have to concentrate on my own recovery.
Love, Jean
Sharon, Thanks for that thread! It cought my attention then your name. My name is Sharon also. This is a place I started to view to get me through some hard times. I read and read, looking for answers. Looking for soultions to my problems. Feeling alone and finding I was not.
It is like going to a meeting, calling a sponsor, calling someone from the 12 step program. Reading here helps me put things back into perspective too s
ometimes.
It gives me a chance to give back.
It gives me a chance to learn more about addiction.
Im truly greatful for the people here. Thank you all and God Bless you and yours.
It is like going to a meeting, calling a sponsor, calling someone from the 12 step program. Reading here helps me put things back into perspective too s
ometimes.
It gives me a chance to give back.
It gives me a chance to learn more about addiction.
Im truly greatful for the people here. Thank you all and God Bless you and yours.
Sharon.
I know what your saying but I do agree with everything Vinny said and that's not because he is a good friend of mine * wink! Seriously I tend to get carried away wanting to prove what works for me and others do the same..Especially the old timers here. You know how we are we go back and forth and then get it all out of our systems,LOL It's like a vicous cycle..Like a dysfunctional family.. People that are clean and have been through hard times are very passionate about their recovery and what it means to them. I try and respect everyone's views and yesturday it was nice to see that many people have different ways of recovery..It would be very boring here if everyone did the same exact thing! What works for one may not work for another.
Now Congratualtions on the upcoming baby.. I bet you are so excited... I had a scheduled c-section to on a thursday at 7:30am.. She wasn't born until 9:27am though because they get you in there and have to prep you...
Anyway I have thought of you often and I am happy to see you back on the board and posting. Take care Sharon and keep us posted on the arrival of the baby..Rae
I know what your saying but I do agree with everything Vinny said and that's not because he is a good friend of mine * wink! Seriously I tend to get carried away wanting to prove what works for me and others do the same..Especially the old timers here. You know how we are we go back and forth and then get it all out of our systems,LOL It's like a vicous cycle..Like a dysfunctional family.. People that are clean and have been through hard times are very passionate about their recovery and what it means to them. I try and respect everyone's views and yesturday it was nice to see that many people have different ways of recovery..It would be very boring here if everyone did the same exact thing! What works for one may not work for another.
Now Congratualtions on the upcoming baby.. I bet you are so excited... I had a scheduled c-section to on a thursday at 7:30am.. She wasn't born until 9:27am though because they get you in there and have to prep you...
Anyway I have thought of you often and I am happy to see you back on the board and posting. Take care Sharon and keep us posted on the arrival of the baby..Rae
Hi Sharon!!!! What you said was well said, as usual. Sorry I missed you last night. I was at the hospital with Sisis who has COPD. I'll tell you in an email. Our family has really been through the wringer. Sick kids and now Sisi in ICU. Watching somebody gasp for breath is a terrible thing.
You are so right! This is about recovery.....not who does it or how. We need to respect all methods and learn from each other. Most importantly, we need to use tact in what we say so as not to alianate those who have different methods. In the end, our goal is all the same.
Love you so much, Kat
ps. To all of us smokers....we've just got to quit somehow. If you could only see what I saw last night. It was just awful. I'm going to get patches and try. That would be an awful way to die. Imagine a person just gasping and exhausted from lack of sleep. Had they not got her oxygen level up past 80, they were going to put her on a ventilator. You can't imagine what misery I saw. Let's all quit these evil things somehow!!!!!
Love, Kat
You are so right! This is about recovery.....not who does it or how. We need to respect all methods and learn from each other. Most importantly, we need to use tact in what we say so as not to alianate those who have different methods. In the end, our goal is all the same.
Love you so much, Kat
ps. To all of us smokers....we've just got to quit somehow. If you could only see what I saw last night. It was just awful. I'm going to get patches and try. That would be an awful way to die. Imagine a person just gasping and exhausted from lack of sleep. Had they not got her oxygen level up past 80, they were going to put her on a ventilator. You can't imagine what misery I saw. Let's all quit these evil things somehow!!!!!
Love, Kat
Hi Sharron!!
Kat, Im sending Gina an email and having her forward it to you. I dont have your address. Im pretty sure she has yours..let me know if she doesnt.
Kat, Im sending Gina an email and having her forward it to you. I dont have your address. Im pretty sure she has yours..let me know if she doesnt.
Hey Kat,
Your right and I need and want to quit so bad. I said I was going to in Sept and never did. I have the patches and still haven't put them on.. I really need to. My mom is on my a$$ , my kids, my boyfriend hates being around smokers. I know it is something I need to do..SO if you go get the patches and tell me a date you want to start I WILL do it with you.. I promise.. I will be honest if I fail BUT I will stop smoking whenever you want to do it. Just let me know you know where to find me.. Love Rae
Your right and I need and want to quit so bad. I said I was going to in Sept and never did. I have the patches and still haven't put them on.. I really need to. My mom is on my a$$ , my kids, my boyfriend hates being around smokers. I know it is something I need to do..SO if you go get the patches and tell me a date you want to start I WILL do it with you.. I promise.. I will be honest if I fail BUT I will stop smoking whenever you want to do it. Just let me know you know where to find me.. Love Rae
Im hardly ever right, and when i am no one is ever around to acknowledge it, so being happy is a much better alternative for me!
I recently had an argument with someone I care about. He had made all too publicly, a few remarks to me about my weight, and I was less than pleased. Later, when I told him that my feelings were hurt, he insisted he had done nothing wrong - that what he had said was true, so I shouldn't take offense.
How often have I justified my own unkindness or my interfering where I had no business, with that very argument? Too many times, especially during my alcoholic loved one's drinking days. After all, I claimed, I was right: Alcohol was ruining our lives, and it was my duty to say so - again, and again, and again.
I am learning to let go of my certainty abut what other people should do. In Al-Anon I heard someone put it this way; "I can be right or I can be happy." I don't have to make anyone over in my image. With help, I can live and let live.
Today's Reminder
I am not an insensitive person, but at times I have justified insensitive behaviour by claiming to be right. I can respect another's right to make his or her own choices, even when I strongly disagaree. My relationships will improve if I can love myself enough to let other people be themselves.
"Lord, when we are wrong, make us willing to change. And when we are right, make us easy to live with."
Peter Marshall
From Courage to Change October 29th
How often have I justified my own unkindness or my interfering where I had no business, with that very argument? Too many times, especially during my alcoholic loved one's drinking days. After all, I claimed, I was right: Alcohol was ruining our lives, and it was my duty to say so - again, and again, and again.
I am learning to let go of my certainty abut what other people should do. In Al-Anon I heard someone put it this way; "I can be right or I can be happy." I don't have to make anyone over in my image. With help, I can live and let live.
Today's Reminder
I am not an insensitive person, but at times I have justified insensitive behaviour by claiming to be right. I can respect another's right to make his or her own choices, even when I strongly disagaree. My relationships will improve if I can love myself enough to let other people be themselves.
"Lord, when we are wrong, make us willing to change. And when we are right, make us easy to live with."
Peter Marshall
From Courage to Change October 29th
Thanks to all that responded here.....old friends and new ones. Most all of you got the main point that I was trying to make.....that........the way that one carries a message is often as important as the message they carry........
I am passionate about my recovery and I welcome all views and ideals on how others keep their own. It gives me hope and inspiration to read posts from our diverse group (even an alien like Vinny.......a transplanted billhilly). And thank God for our diversity. Life would be so boring if we were all the same (that excludes us Kat, ha ha).
Happy Halloween !
Love you guys,
Sharon
I am passionate about my recovery and I welcome all views and ideals on how others keep their own. It gives me hope and inspiration to read posts from our diverse group (even an alien like Vinny.......a transplanted billhilly). And thank God for our diversity. Life would be so boring if we were all the same (that excludes us Kat, ha ha).
Happy Halloween !
Love you guys,
Sharon
you don't have to go looking for love when it's where you come from. my heart thanks you sharon for loving me and this entire community with your message of love - from where you come from. you are love.
namaste' dear one -
sammy
namaste' dear one -
sammy
Sammy,
Your posts fill me up. I'm so happy that you are doing well also. Sorry we have not talked in awhile.......I've kinda been in a funk and have not been online past couple of weeks. My post here was not as eloquent as yours are but I believe that we carried the same message today.
Love and best wishes to you, My friend.
God bless,
Sharon
Your posts fill me up. I'm so happy that you are doing well also. Sorry we have not talked in awhile.......I've kinda been in a funk and have not been online past couple of weeks. My post here was not as eloquent as yours are but I believe that we carried the same message today.
Love and best wishes to you, My friend.
God bless,
Sharon
helo,Sharon
Let me know if the patches work for you.I have proised my mom i would quit smokeing before she passed.She died of cancer as well,it didnt start as lung but,ended up thier in the end belive me i know what you have seen.I seen mom gasping for air without anything helping her to breath for about 2 weeks it was so horiable.and when it someone so close to you .She was under hospice and i moved her in my home and she passed april of 2004 .Ive also seen two of my close friends parents die of lung cancer as well.I want to quit smokeing so bad .I have the smoke away system and have used it a few years back when it was only on tv.Now walmart sells it and i paid i think $40.00 for it.Years back it was over $100.00 and it worked and like a dummy i started again.I have asthas really bad .Im a much heavier smoker now then when i quit before.It really is terriable the suffering oh i dont even want to think about it.Is this someone close to you?I will be praying for you.Let me know how the patch works out.I have tried the patch and the craveings was still there and i started smokeing with it on.Someone at work said take that thing off your going to kill yourself.So i didnt really give it but,2 days and that was it.Let me know if and which patch you are going to use.Take care,crystal
Let me know if the patches work for you.I have proised my mom i would quit smokeing before she passed.She died of cancer as well,it didnt start as lung but,ended up thier in the end belive me i know what you have seen.I seen mom gasping for air without anything helping her to breath for about 2 weeks it was so horiable.and when it someone so close to you .She was under hospice and i moved her in my home and she passed april of 2004 .Ive also seen two of my close friends parents die of lung cancer as well.I want to quit smokeing so bad .I have the smoke away system and have used it a few years back when it was only on tv.Now walmart sells it and i paid i think $40.00 for it.Years back it was over $100.00 and it worked and like a dummy i started again.I have asthas really bad .Im a much heavier smoker now then when i quit before.It really is terriable the suffering oh i dont even want to think about it.Is this someone close to you?I will be praying for you.Let me know how the patch works out.I have tried the patch and the craveings was still there and i started smokeing with it on.Someone at work said take that thing off your going to kill yourself.So i didnt really give it but,2 days and that was it.Let me know if and which patch you are going to use.Take care,crystal
Crystal,
Was your post to the other Sharon? If not, I'm very confused.
Thanks,
Sharon
Was your post to the other Sharon? If not, I'm very confused.
Thanks,
Sharon
Hello,sharon
sorry that post was to be address to KAT .I need to go to bed and im tried and i dont want to so excuse me for the mistake.crystal
sorry that post was to be address to KAT .I need to go to bed and im tried and i dont want to so excuse me for the mistake.crystal
We had only girls, and my girls had only girls, so I've never tried to put a tie on a boy, except myself, and that was bad enough, LOL.
Staying clean, being a recovering addict... it's a new battle every day. Every single day. As we begin to master the dragon, we find help and support and encouraging words, especially from within, although sometimes the most timely inspiration comes from outside ourselves.
But it appears to me to be a never-ending battle that will be with me the rest of my life. The temptations and cravings of the past may not be right up in our face all the time like in the old days of using/abusing/early recovery, but that doesn't mean that the viscious fighting between your clean mind and the addiction gets any less bloody.
Staying clean, being a recovering addict... it's a new battle every day. Every single day. As we begin to master the dragon, we find help and support and encouraging words, especially from within, although sometimes the most timely inspiration comes from outside ourselves.
But it appears to me to be a never-ending battle that will be with me the rest of my life. The temptations and cravings of the past may not be right up in our face all the time like in the old days of using/abusing/early recovery, but that doesn't mean that the viscious fighting between your clean mind and the addiction gets any less bloody.
