Does A User Even Care?

Hello everyone! I was wondering if anyone could help me I am trying to get inside the mind of a herion addict.I know it sounds stupid but when your on the other side it is very important to know as much as possible.Do you think of your family your kids,wife ?Do you think they will always be there? What makes you want to get help?Please give me as much information as possible .Is there any advise about how I should be when I talk to him should I be supportive and nice or non supportive and the cold shoulder?????IF YOU CAN HELP THANK YOU SO VERY MUCH IT IS IMPORTANT TO ME THANKS AGAIN!!!!!!!!!!
I DONT EVEN KNOW WHERE TO START AT RESPONDING TO THIS TOPIC, BUT IM GONNA TRY- THE BEST THING MY FAMILY DID WAS CUT ME OFF,KICK ME OUT OF THE HOUSE AND JUST LET ME LEARN-UNFORTUNATELY I ENDED UP IN MANY TREATMENT CENTERS AND COUNTY JAIL-BUT IF I FAMILY WOULD HAVE CONTINUED TO ENABLE ME, I WOULD HAVE ROBBED THEM BLIND AND MOST LIKELY ENDED UP DEAD-YOU CAN ONLY TRY SO HARD TO HELP SOMEONE GET CLEAN, SOMETIMES LOVE IS JUST NOT ENOUGH, MY EX, THE LOVE OF MY LIFE CHOSE DRUGS OVER ME AND NOW HE IS IN PRISON REGRETTING ALL OF THE PAIN HE PUT ME THROUGH-I HAVE BEEN CLEAN FOR 8 MONTHS AND I HAVE HAD CLOSE FRIENDS OF MINE THAT RELAPSED AND I COULD NOT DO MUCH, SO I HAD TO CUT THEM OFF-I DONT ANSWER THERE PHONE CALLS CAUSE IM SICK OF HEARING ALL OF THE SAME LIES THAT I HAVE TOLD-IN MY OPINION AN ADDICT WILL NOT STOP UNTIL THEY HAVE HIT ROCK BOTTOM AND LOST IT ALL-THANK GOD MY FAMILY TOOK ME BACK WITH OPEN ARMS-IM 22 AND IM GRATEFUL TO HAVE FINALLY FOUND THE TOOLS TO UNDERSTAND ADDICTION-BEING A CO-DEPENDENT CAN BE AS SICK AS BEING AN ADDICT- I MEAN I HATE TO SOUND SO UN-COMPASSIONATE BUT YOU CANT TRUST AND ADDICT,DONT BELIEVE THE LIES, THEY WILL TRY AND SNOWBALL YOU UNTIL THEY CANT ANYMORE-THATS ABOUT IT- I DONT MEAN TO SOUND SO HARSH,BUT IM JUST TELLING IT HOW IT IS-
angel, hey well being where you are once and being out of the relationship for a year now. I too tried to understand the addict and I have come to realize that while they are using nothing else truely matters only the next hi. Oh yes they love and care for the family and they even hate themselves for what they are doing to the family. But never the less HEROIN is first and foremost. I do believe that the comprehension of time is also lost, they while hi may not realize that they have not spent time with the family in two or three days.
They spend every moment thinking of the next hi. It is a sad situation for the addict but it is a choice only they can make.
I see the frustration, hurt, anger, justification, despair, but there is no bandaid that we as co dependents can put on the wound.
I don't know if I answered your question but HEROIN IS THEIR FIRST LOVE,
thank you soo very much!i dont think that you were harsh at all just honest and thats what i wanted.thank you again and god bless,angel