Due to a serious illness when my husband was a teenager he deals with pancrititis. He has had problems off and on the whole 15 years we have been together. I didnt get concerned until about 2 years ago. I think prior to that I just wasn't seeing it. He would have to be hospitalized off and on with this and would live on demerol for a week at the time for the pain. To begin with he would have episodes at least every 6mos. We finally got help and his attacks lessoned. I began to notice that he was taking pain medicine a good bit. Mostly for a headache. He would borrow pain med. from family members. His mother even began to get suspicious. I even found a bottle that he had took from her. I asked her if she knew he had it and she didn't. She got to where if she had any she would hide them so he could not find them. I confronted him with this but his parents have not. He told me that he did not have an addiction. This past year we have gotten heavily involved in church I thought that everything would be fine but I am afraid its not. I was sick a week ago with the flu and the Dr. gave me 45 pills of tylox. I knew before I even got them that he would end up taking them. Well I took 1 pill that day and the next day I counted them and there were 10 missing. In all I ended up taking 4 pills and put the rest up in the cabinet where he could not find them. The next week he called me from home and wanted to know where they were that he needed on because his head was hurting reluctantly I told him. Two days later I look for the bottle to see how many he had taken it was no where to be found so I asked him about it. He said he dropped them in the sink and had to throw them away I tried to look in the trash but he had already taken it out. I hate feeling that I cannot trust him and I hate feeling helpless if he want tell me how can I help. He is very moody on day he may be real happy and the next he is hatefull and yells at the kids. If there are not any pain pills around he will take things like benedryl, tylenol pm,nyquil,things that make you what I call in sleepy, relaxed feeling. I don't know what to do. Am I overreacting or should I be concerned? And can I do anything to get him to talk to me?
you should be concerned. It is difficult to know exactly where he is at but there is a definately problem. I think you need to tell him how you feel and tell how his behaviour is affecting you. Tell him what you *know*, not what you *think*. You know he is moody, takes unprescribed pills, borrows pain meds from others who now are suspicious and have to hide them, he is yelling at the kids etc etc. Tell him how this makes you feel and see how he responds. Don't take " im not addicted" for an answer, focus on behaviour.. he needs to address hsi behaviour.