My spouse is an alcoholic. He doesnt think so. He works every day, is a good supporter. Thats his reasoning. Atleast twice a week he doesnt come home he sleeps over at a friends house(another drunk) his reasoning is 1.) I dont want him in the house drinking 2.) At least he's not driving. I guess not he's had two DUI charges wich he beat in court. We do not go and socialize any more that is my choice because hes always the loud obnoxious drunk of the crowd and its embarrassing.
He has a reputation for drinking although he is totally unaware of it. He has been kicked out of several bars ( never his fault). For as long as I can remember he has drank. Can you believe he says " Ive always been this way" what the heck does that mean! I love this man dearly, but i dont think i can continue in this marriage.There is no routine to our lives at all, I never know if he will show up at home or not. Even when our kids were small he would leave for days, he claimed it was buiness. Oh ya another excuse " he has to drink because his customers do and that is business.
Marcy your husband is an alcoholic in denial. His job is to look after himself.
Your job is to care for yourself and your family and to do nothing which makes it easier for him to drink.
I strongly urge you to start attending Al Anon meetings, there is also Alateen meeting for older children. These meetings teach how us to to separate our lives from that of our addicted loved ones. They will help you find th eclarity you need to make a decision on your marriage.
They will also show your husband that YOU are doing something about he impact that HIS drinking is having on your family. He will not like hat you go to meetings because you are going to learn all the manipulative tricks that alcoholics and addicts use to get their families support to continue drinking.
Go to the meetings as I did, in my case they saved my marriage. At the least they will save your sanity.
Your job is to care for yourself and your family and to do nothing which makes it easier for him to drink.
I strongly urge you to start attending Al Anon meetings, there is also Alateen meeting for older children. These meetings teach how us to to separate our lives from that of our addicted loved ones. They will help you find th eclarity you need to make a decision on your marriage.
They will also show your husband that YOU are doing something about he impact that HIS drinking is having on your family. He will not like hat you go to meetings because you are going to learn all the manipulative tricks that alcoholics and addicts use to get their families support to continue drinking.
Go to the meetings as I did, in my case they saved my marriage. At the least they will save your sanity.
