Since my son (now 29) left home, alcohol has been an issue. Like most teen-agers, he experimented, partied etc. He is now married and has 2 children. He has struggled with finances. He keeps his surrounding in deplorable condition.
He is managing to keep a job. I just feel something is very wrong.
I know that nothing is going to change until he's ready.
I guess I am looking for words of encouragement and help for when/if he's ready.
Have you been to Al-Anon? I found it to be very helpful; even just being there with other people who love a user was comforting to me. I am continuing to learn a lot about proper boundaries and how to support an addict/alcoholic without getting taken down by my fear and concerns.
Yes! like the above comment suggests, find a local Al-Anon meeting. You will feel SO much better and not alone. It can give you SO much insight that we don't understand, because we ourselves are not addicts. I wish you and him the best.
