I have been repeating my new topics in several areas of this website since i am searching to get help or help as many as possible. Is this acceptable or should I stick to one area like "Pain Pills?"
Are you being ignored wolf?
It might be kinda slow...Hoildays ya know.
I would stick to one forum..
I will be here for a while if you want to talk.
It might be kinda slow...Hoildays ya know.
I would stick to one forum..
I will be here for a while if you want to talk.
No I can not say I am being ignored. Coming to this site, for me, is like attending a meeting. I find the acceptence unquestioning and love the support.
As I said I just wanted to ensure I reached out to as many as possible to both give and recieve help.
God bless.
As I said I just wanted to ensure I reached out to as many as possible to both give and recieve help.
God bless.
Wolf, your a good person. I have always questioned the feelings of a man, my ex who lives 1 hour away and never took the time to see his son. It wasnt that I had anything against him, I dont. I talk to him more than he has EVER talked to my son. I have begged, pleaded and he won't do it. Your reaction is normal and I hope some day that distance will me a non-issue.
I read your other post, I feel for you huge, I have had that hole.
I read your other post, I feel for you huge, I have had that hole.
Thank you. Your words of encouragement mean a lot to me.
God Bless.
God Bless.
hey wolf,
where do you live in canada?? Im in th okanagan B.C.
Hugs,
Ali
where do you live in canada?? Im in th okanagan B.C.
Hugs,
Ali
I am living in Calgary right now but just moved here from Vancouver after a failed attempt to reconcile with my Wife. I plan to return to be there for my son as soon as possible.
God bless.
God bless.
Hey wolfe,
We moved from Vancouver 2 years ago, still miss Vancouver its a great city.lived there for 20 years....were you able to call your son?????( If you need me give me the high five and we'll set it up...) Hang in there fellow Canadian...things will get better!!!
Hugs,
Ali
We moved from Vancouver 2 years ago, still miss Vancouver its a great city.lived there for 20 years....were you able to call your son?????( If you need me give me the high five and we'll set it up...) Hang in there fellow Canadian...things will get better!!!
Hugs,
Ali
Thanks Alicap I appreciate the thought. I get to see him every three days on the webcam so i am grateful for that. I am still wrestling with the fact that although I am busting my a** to be clean my wife, who drinks, get's to keep our son and is doing everything she can to keep me away from him.
Since she also used with me it is hard to deal with the hypocricy. But God willing my time will come.
God bless.
Since she also used with me it is hard to deal with the hypocricy. But God willing my time will come.
God bless.
Wolfie,
Am responding toyour post that you did on the other thread for Maddog, since this is about you and not Maddog, thought it best to keep it on your thread..hope thats okay.
I think you have your head screwed on right! Great attitude.I can hardely beleive that her parents would say such a thing! How horrible for you, and for their grandson.
I hope that your son did not hear a comment such as that about his Dad, but I want to remind you that if the Grandparents are badmouthing you, and if you are maintaining a loving relationship when EVER you have contact with your son, then it is THEM ( the grandparents) that he will eventually turn from, and start to resent.
The past is the past, you can only worry about the future. Bonds between a son and his Father run deep. Regardless of how her parents ( or her) feel about you, try to rise above it and do not reciprocate the bad mouthing.Never bad mouth his mother or his grandparents in front of him; no matter how well deserving it might seem; children are the ones that are torn up and hurt the most in a crossfire of cruel words, the scars take long to heal.
When he is of age, he will respect you so much for stepping out of the blame game, and for concentrating solely on your love for him and his well being.
As a woman, this is the best advise I can give you when dealing with your son, I wish you continued success in conquering your addiction to the pills and a loving and healthy relationship with your beautiful son, time well spent.
Yours sincerely,
Ali
Am responding toyour post that you did on the other thread for Maddog, since this is about you and not Maddog, thought it best to keep it on your thread..hope thats okay.
I think you have your head screwed on right! Great attitude.I can hardely beleive that her parents would say such a thing! How horrible for you, and for their grandson.
I hope that your son did not hear a comment such as that about his Dad, but I want to remind you that if the Grandparents are badmouthing you, and if you are maintaining a loving relationship when EVER you have contact with your son, then it is THEM ( the grandparents) that he will eventually turn from, and start to resent.
The past is the past, you can only worry about the future. Bonds between a son and his Father run deep. Regardless of how her parents ( or her) feel about you, try to rise above it and do not reciprocate the bad mouthing.Never bad mouth his mother or his grandparents in front of him; no matter how well deserving it might seem; children are the ones that are torn up and hurt the most in a crossfire of cruel words, the scars take long to heal.
When he is of age, he will respect you so much for stepping out of the blame game, and for concentrating solely on your love for him and his well being.
As a woman, this is the best advise I can give you when dealing with your son, I wish you continued success in conquering your addiction to the pills and a loving and healthy relationship with your beautiful son, time well spent.
Yours sincerely,
Ali
Thanks Ali I appreciate the feedback.
I am trying to maintain civility and to remember my son does not need to see hostility. Regardless of how my wife acts I know that her relationship with my son is important and I do not want to jeoperdize that.
I am learning to trust that God will makes things right, in his own way and in his own time.
I am trying to maintain civility and to remember my son does not need to see hostility. Regardless of how my wife acts I know that her relationship with my son is important and I do not want to jeoperdize that.
I am learning to trust that God will makes things right, in his own way and in his own time.
