I have been visiting this board for about 2 months and just started posting today. All of the supportive posts and helpful information that most of you give to one another is very helpful just to read. For some reason today I felt like joining in. Anyway, I posted earlier about methadone and how i've been off of it since Sept. I have been doing fairly well. I have good days and bad ones like erveryone else. My husband is extremely helpful and supportive. He is not an addict but is very sensitive to me. I feel guilty today because our daughter had her first basketball game today and I didn't go. My husband did, but I am just in a mood that I don't feel like talking to anyone today. And then I worry that if I am quiet towards the other parents that they'll think i'm a snob. So I just stayed home. I feel bad about it but at least my husband is there. And like he told me, there will be plenty more basketball games to go to. Thanks for listening (or reading!).
Michelle32
Hi Michelle32, Welcome to the Board! I'm glad to see that you have summoned up the courage to post. I understand how you feel about being around other people, but just want to remind you that Addiction is a disease of Isolation. We have to be careful about doing it too much. But, I am not one to talk, because I still isolate. Though since I've been clean it's not from my family anymore. I also have a supportive non-addict husband who is not an enabler. Any use I did was on my own. Btw, I am an IV cocaine addict, but I post on this board because addiction is addiction and I've made some wonderful friends and gotten some great support from the pain pills section.
Anyway, I just wanted to say hello and welcome!
Anyway, I just wanted to say hello and welcome!
I wouldn't sweat it Michelle. Getting clean and sober is the greatest gift you can give to yourself and in turn to your family and friends. If you still don't quite feel up to doing certain things, don't. Take care of yourself first. Everything else will fall into place.
As your husband said there will be other games. Sure it hurts in the short term, but the long term beauty of recovery is you will be there for so many other activities and important events.
Stay strong;
Jim
As your husband said there will be other games. Sure it hurts in the short term, but the long term beauty of recovery is you will be there for so many other activities and important events.
Stay strong;
Jim
Hello Michelle,
I just wanted to welcome you to the Board. Congradulations on your sobriety. I know as parents, we feel "guilty" alot, but it's not necessary. Like it was said earlier, your sobriety is the best gift ever. I am glad you are posting. I hope you have a great day. Take care, Best Wishes
P.S. Don't be too hard on yourself
I just wanted to welcome you to the Board. Congradulations on your sobriety. I know as parents, we feel "guilty" alot, but it's not necessary. Like it was said earlier, your sobriety is the best gift ever. I am glad you are posting. I hope you have a great day. Take care, Best Wishes
P.S. Don't be too hard on yourself
Michelle: I have a 12 year old daughter, and a few other kids. We have an agreement at home that when I can't attend some function or whatever, that I take that child out for a special dinner all by themselves and they give me the details of what I missed. It becomes so enjoyable that once she trying to fix it so I couldn't go just so we could go out together. You can't do everything always, so find a different way to tell her how proud you are and how much you love her.
elsiejean
elsiejean
Welcome. I think at times recovery is a selfish program and needs to be so. We need to focus on ourselves so that in the long run we can be there for others
I believe that the disease of addiction is like a cancer, only this cancer feeds of of guilt and shame. Perhaps try turning it over to your higher power, as I have said a thousand times, he has big shoulders you can lean on, also use your support group.
You are not alone in these feelings. I think that each of us brings a new peice to the puzzle when we meet on-line like this or in a meeting, together we can put the puzzle together and find solutions for addiction and how to recover.
I appreciate your sharing and your honesty it helped me by making me aware of the fact that I need to confront these negative emotions, work my way through them, turn them over and move on.
God bless.
I believe that the disease of addiction is like a cancer, only this cancer feeds of of guilt and shame. Perhaps try turning it over to your higher power, as I have said a thousand times, he has big shoulders you can lean on, also use your support group.
You are not alone in these feelings. I think that each of us brings a new peice to the puzzle when we meet on-line like this or in a meeting, together we can put the puzzle together and find solutions for addiction and how to recover.
I appreciate your sharing and your honesty it helped me by making me aware of the fact that I need to confront these negative emotions, work my way through them, turn them over and move on.
God bless.
Hi Michelle..it takes a lot of courage to put your story out there on a public forum...says alot about you and your willingness to reach out.
I don't have much more to add only that I'm glad you're here and look forward to hearing more from you.
I don't have much more to add only that I'm glad you're here and look forward to hearing more from you.
