will i could not handle the withdruls yesterday, so i did somthing realy stuped, my husben gave me a beutful ring for our 25 widding anavesery, and yesterday i pond it for 100, now i have to get it out before he notes, it gone , i woke up this morning so a shamed of myself, and how fare iv aload my addiction to take me, i don,t no if i should till him our not, i will have to get the monny some how, i can not belive how low iv gone this time, eny help would be great, thanks rob.
Our addiction has made many of us do things we're not proud of.
Be honest w/ him.Thats the best way to go.Then ask him to help you
deal w/ this addiction.Does he know about it?
DJ
Be honest w/ him.Thats the best way to go.Then ask him to help you
deal w/ this addiction.Does he know about it?
DJ
I'm just going to answer your question. You are beating up on y'self enough. I hope you do know that we did so many of the same kind of things.
I wouldn't tell him. I believe in honesty and if he ask you , you won't have a choice but if you can get it back before he notices, why hurt him?
My opinion, I'm not factoring what he thinks about drugs - I don't know -- I'm just saying if it were me or if my husband did s'thing like that, I wouldn't want to know. I would ant to keep being hppy about the ring.
You will carry this baggage around enough so just try and get it back and on your finger.
Love, Jean
I wouldn't tell him. I believe in honesty and if he ask you , you won't have a choice but if you can get it back before he notices, why hurt him?
My opinion, I'm not factoring what he thinks about drugs - I don't know -- I'm just saying if it were me or if my husband did s'thing like that, I wouldn't want to know. I would ant to keep being hppy about the ring.
You will carry this baggage around enough so just try and get it back and on your finger.
Love, Jean
One of the hardest things I ever did was to confess to my wife about what I was doing. When I finally did, it was painful, BUT I asked her for help and she gave it.
She helped me out of my addiction. She still doesn't trust me fully, but that's ok. She's still with me.
Trust your instincts...Does your partner want to help lift you out? If you really want to get out, you've got to tell the truth. Don't be afraid of.
That ring is a special thing, don't let it slip away. Get it back, and hold to it tightly.
She helped me out of my addiction. She still doesn't trust me fully, but that's ok. She's still with me.
Trust your instincts...Does your partner want to help lift you out? If you really want to get out, you've got to tell the truth. Don't be afraid of.
That ring is a special thing, don't let it slip away. Get it back, and hold to it tightly.
yes he nows he is also in recovery, we have both been throu ,recovery, he has his own addiction to deal with he is addicted to perks but does not think he has a problem, i could write a book on our life and no one would belive it, this last 3 years have been hell on eathr for us, they say god never gives you moer then you can handle, will he must think we can handle a lot, of sh--, i will tell him i was just hoping to get it out befor he notes, it gone, but i still could not live with the guilt, thanks its karen just yousing the rob name its the only one that came to mine.
Perhaps he will be more understanding than you think if you just came out and told him? Work on this together. That is what he is there for to be with you for better or for worse.
I would go first thing this morning to see if the ring is still there, borrow the money if you must, get it back. If it is gone you will have to tell him anyway or can't get the money to buy it back..
May I ask what you bought with the money?
I would go first thing this morning to see if the ring is still there, borrow the money if you must, get it back. If it is gone you will have to tell him anyway or can't get the money to buy it back..
May I ask what you bought with the money?
I used to pawn my wedding ring set every other week to keep myself in coke...i know exactly how you feel...the guilt is enormous...
Karen,
Tell your husband and he will understand he is an addict too!! Then work together on getting the ring and your lives back to the way they once were.
If you guys want to be clean it is going to take work but it can be done.. Many of us here on this board have all been through a lot of sh*t with our addictions and in our lives.. I know I have and I have manged to stay clean now for over 8 months..You'll get sick and tired of being sick and tired eventually and you'll have no choice but to change.. It sounds like you need some good old face to face support. Find a good therapist for the both of you and then maybe try some one on one couseling or out-patient treatment.. I have never pawned a ring but I can imagine the gulit you have for doing it to get pills... Best of luck to both of you!! Take care! Rae
Tell your husband and he will understand he is an addict too!! Then work together on getting the ring and your lives back to the way they once were.
If you guys want to be clean it is going to take work but it can be done.. Many of us here on this board have all been through a lot of sh*t with our addictions and in our lives.. I know I have and I have manged to stay clean now for over 8 months..You'll get sick and tired of being sick and tired eventually and you'll have no choice but to change.. It sounds like you need some good old face to face support. Find a good therapist for the both of you and then maybe try some one on one couseling or out-patient treatment.. I have never pawned a ring but I can imagine the gulit you have for doing it to get pills... Best of luck to both of you!! Take care! Rae
I would think that the pawning of the ring is the tip of the iceberg here...
Your bigger problem is the pills and the fact that you're using abusing them.
Can we help you with that as well?
Cowgirl
Your bigger problem is the pills and the fact that you're using abusing them.
Can we help you with that as well?
Cowgirl
