I'm new here, just looking for some support and help. My 18 year old son just started rehab for meth and prescription drug addiction. Hes been in inpatient rehab for 2 weeks today (in a different city) and called me Wednesday blaming me for abandoning him there, angry and cursing at me. I just dont understand his behavior. We've done absolutely everything we can do to support him, yet he's mad at us?? We are angry at him but are afraid to voice it because it makes him depressed.
He's been doing meth for a few months, pot daily and street drugs for a few years. He's put us and his brother and sister through hell.
I've read everything i can find on addiction but haven't seen anything about the addict blaming family while in rehab. What's happening???
Hi, I would say he doesnt like being in rehab. Hes probably used to doing what he wants,when he wants and how he wants and now he has to follow rules. If he hadnt done drugs then he wouldnt be in this predicament today. How did you manage to get him to except going into rehab when he has this attitude about being there? Did he not want to go? I think its great hes in there and only good can come of it, I hope! So hang tight and hope for the best.I wish you and him well. Take care. Mary.
You need to just ignore this. I have no idea why they do it. Craziness.
Also, he has no right to be verbally abusive. You can say something like, "If you can't be civil, I can't talk to you". If he continues, 'click'.
Also, he has no right to be verbally abusive. You can say something like, "If you can't be civil, I can't talk to you". If he continues, 'click'.
HI Dallen. Withdrawal is miserable and it's not uncommon for an addict to be extremely moody at the beginning of rehab. It's going to take at least 30 days for your son to not be physically addicted and even longer to move beyond psychological addiction. Give him some time and see if things improve. One of the things my son's counselor at his rehab told me is you can be sensitive, but you don't have to tiptoe. An addict who wants to use will find any excuse to use. It's never because we said the wrong thing at the wrong time. Good luck. It's fortunate your son is able to be in a rehab in another state, away from using friends. I wish you all the best.
my son was in a car accident, was thrown from the car, car totaled, luckily no one else was involved. fractured a vertebrae in his neck. clearly was bc of abusing pain meds and benzos. fell asleep while driving. he was in hospital a few days - iv morphine. then sent home with rx for oxy. within a week we got him to a detox center for 7 days. then, within the next week he and us decided he could not stay home and be sober. he choose a rehab in FL was there 3 months then sober living and then relapsed. he still blames us and says we "banished" him to florida for two years. and it was the worst experience, and has scarred him for life. this was beginning of 2015. he relapsed for the rest of the year. then a different rehab and sober living at beginning of 2016. 5 months clean, followed by relapse.... then 4 months clean followed by relapse.....
Rehab was not the worst experience... everything he did while homeless and relapsing was.
Rehab was not the worst experience... everything he did while homeless and relapsing was.
Hi NY. Trying to put together your son's timeline. When your son said he was "banished" to Florida for two years, are you saying he was sober two years and then relapsed? Or was the two years something different? What an emotional roller coaster you've been on. I've followed your posts and your recovery journey. You mentioned in one post how hard it's been to stay strong, but you should be proud of yourself. It sounds like you're learning a lot and this isn't an easy journey. I don't mean to sound condescending when I say that because I'm on my road to recovery, but I just think you should hear that it sounds like you're making great strides in taking care of yourself. Hugs.
2008-20011 - college and summer internships lived away from home. 2012 worked lived in CA. 2013 back home. we thought something was wrong, didn't know what. begin of 2014 we found pain meds. told him to leave. he got job in FL and said he would do better, he would turn this around. whole year was worse, still in addiction. begin 2015 came back home. got new job, lasted 2 months, car accident, he went to local detox, then FL to rehab, sober living, relapsed and worked from juneish to end of year. we were still new at this addiction game. lots of urgent phone calls. begin of 2016 still in FL - 2nd rehab, sober living, working, relapsed mid year, (2015 & 2016 2 yrs in FL I referred to) then oct 2016-mar 2017 living w sister across the country, no meds/drugs, did drink alcohol. came home mar 2017. full time job until October. then 2 temp jobs. now in full time job.
I do think there has been progress. he is seeing dr and therapist, but they have had him on so many meds, partially his doing. I do keep talking to him about seeing different drs at a recovery center. he is calm and passive, depressed. he is not a behavior problem. I guess that is why I keep up hope. but also why I keep getting played....
I finally saw that not enough is changing and I don't want to just sit here and keep doing it. So - thanks to all of you, I have begun seeing a therapist and going to meetings at the recovery center. change will happen. thanks for posting your messages of recovery for US!
I do think there has been progress. he is seeing dr and therapist, but they have had him on so many meds, partially his doing. I do keep talking to him about seeing different drs at a recovery center. he is calm and passive, depressed. he is not a behavior problem. I guess that is why I keep up hope. but also why I keep getting played....
I finally saw that not enough is changing and I don't want to just sit here and keep doing it. So - thanks to all of you, I have begun seeing a therapist and going to meetings at the recovery center. change will happen. thanks for posting your messages of recovery for US!
