Just thought i'd share, i'm pretty excited that i decided to go back and try AA again. I found another meeting in a different town than last time, so we will see what happens! Thanks VWGirl for the gentle kick in the butt that i needed! lol....you may not have even known you were doing it!
Have a great day everyone!
Jayde,
Good luck tonight, have a great meeting. I just got off the phone with my sponsor, he's picking me up tonight for our meeting. I hope you'll stop back in tonight and let us know how it went. If I may suggest, when your listening to people share, wether it's a speaker sharing his/her story, or someone just sharing in general, try not to focus on what you can't relate to, but rather the simularities. My first time around I was always tuning out, someone would share a situation I couldn't relate to, but instead of hearing them talk about how they felt or delt with it, I focused on what I couldn't relate to and missed the message. Just a quick example, a guy spoke at my homegroup about two weeks ago. he shared up front he was gay. The old me would have tuned right out, and most likely left at the break. Instead, now those things don't matter to me, and although the circumstances in our lives were different, I related to almost everything he said. The same goes when I hear a woman share or speak, I don't see her as a woman, rather just another alcoholic that I can relate to. Although the break I might take a peek at her azz, lmao just kiddin'. I really hope you have a good meeting......
Take care.........
Bob
Good luck tonight, have a great meeting. I just got off the phone with my sponsor, he's picking me up tonight for our meeting. I hope you'll stop back in tonight and let us know how it went. If I may suggest, when your listening to people share, wether it's a speaker sharing his/her story, or someone just sharing in general, try not to focus on what you can't relate to, but rather the simularities. My first time around I was always tuning out, someone would share a situation I couldn't relate to, but instead of hearing them talk about how they felt or delt with it, I focused on what I couldn't relate to and missed the message. Just a quick example, a guy spoke at my homegroup about two weeks ago. he shared up front he was gay. The old me would have tuned right out, and most likely left at the break. Instead, now those things don't matter to me, and although the circumstances in our lives were different, I related to almost everything he said. The same goes when I hear a woman share or speak, I don't see her as a woman, rather just another alcoholic that I can relate to. Although the break I might take a peek at her azz, lmao just kiddin'. I really hope you have a good meeting......
Take care.........
Bob
LOL.......Bob, thanks for the advice (and the laugh), i'm looking forward to it. I'm going to go in there with an open mind about everything.The thoughts and beliefs i already have about others, and about alcoholism and sobriety, are all going to stay behind tonight.
I'm just going to listen;) I'll let ya know how it went.
Have a nice day!
I'm just going to listen;) I'll let ya know how it went.
Have a nice day!
Great stuff jayde have a great night.
Hey Bob old habits die hard, nothing wrong with looking i'm an eyes man myself
Light and love Zac
Hey Bob old habits die hard, nothing wrong with looking i'm an eyes man myself
Light and love Zac
Jayde
good for you!!! I'm so glad you're going to give it another try. After all you've nothing to lose and everything to gain.
Post and let us know how it went. Going back to my meeting tonight too. I know I should probably go to more than just the one a week, but gotta start somewhere. I'm actually kinda looking forward to it.
take care
Idgie
good for you!!! I'm so glad you're going to give it another try. After all you've nothing to lose and everything to gain.
Post and let us know how it went. Going back to my meeting tonight too. I know I should probably go to more than just the one a week, but gotta start somewhere. I'm actually kinda looking forward to it.
take care
Idgie
Jayde and Idgie, oooooh you Gals are doing soooooo good! Try to go to meetings with H.O.W. (honesty, open-mindedness and willingness). Good job on taking an active part in your recovery.
Hi guys hope your all good!
Well i went to my meeting last night. It was pretty good, i'm glad i went. Lots of Experience, Strength, and Hope! There were so many stories that were so similar to mine, and i knew i was in the right place.The only thing, lol...out of about 25 people, i was the only woman! I was wondering if it was a men's meeting, (that would've been embarrassing! He he) it wasn't, they all assured me i was in the right place and made me feel comfortable;) Hey and guess what the meeting was about!?! Aahhuh! Step one;)
Well i went to my meeting last night. It was pretty good, i'm glad i went. Lots of Experience, Strength, and Hope! There were so many stories that were so similar to mine, and i knew i was in the right place.The only thing, lol...out of about 25 people, i was the only woman! I was wondering if it was a men's meeting, (that would've been embarrassing! He he) it wasn't, they all assured me i was in the right place and made me feel comfortable;) Hey and guess what the meeting was about!?! Aahhuh! Step one;)
Thats awesome!!
I'm so glad. Actually I signed in last night to see if you had posted, and thats why I'm here now. Gotta get my youngest off to school in a minute. I'm glad you liked it. That seems to happen alot here too. My wife will go to a meeting and she'll end up being the only woman or one of a few. But it's all good, we're all in the same boat, we all have the same emotions, fears, and we all have today.
I gotta run, but wanted to let ya' know I was thinkin' about ya', and praying for you. Have a great day, chat with you later.........*wink*
Bob
I'm so glad. Actually I signed in last night to see if you had posted, and thats why I'm here now. Gotta get my youngest off to school in a minute. I'm glad you liked it. That seems to happen alot here too. My wife will go to a meeting and she'll end up being the only woman or one of a few. But it's all good, we're all in the same boat, we all have the same emotions, fears, and we all have today.
I gotta run, but wanted to let ya' know I was thinkin' about ya', and praying for you. Have a great day, chat with you later.........*wink*
Bob
Jayde, Usually at my Home group there are only about 3 women (me, my Sponsor and her other Sponsee) and the rest guys....now you know why I chose it as my Home group, j/k...lol! Lots of long term sobriety, some crotchety old-timer men, and just like Bob has said it before, I look at them as just recovering alcoholics...just like me...I take what I what I want from everyone's shares and leave the rest behind. So glad they made you feel welcome, but most importantly you got to a meeting. Have a wonderful day. I couldn't wait to get on here either and see how it went.
Thanks you guys for thinking of me;) It feels so good to know there are people who care! I probably wouldn't be where i am right at this very moment if i didn't have your support.
LOL....yeah, VWGirl, there were a couple nice looking boys there too, and my favorite kind too! "Bikers!" (not that i was looking or anything;) lol... OOOps...darnit...there goes my alcoholic brain again;) Hehe!! just kidding, i'm actually comfortable sharing with men for some reason, maybe even more so than women at a f2f, i don't know why, but maybe because i grew up around guys (only have one brother) and i was a tomboy when i was a kid. I mean, i hung out with girls and everything, but i grew up on a dairy farm and i rode dirt bikes and deer hunted and all that "guy" stuff. OK...now i'm rambling.... It was all good anyway;)
btw...last time i went to AA, i just wasn't on the same page as my temp. sponsor, (her moods were just too creepy for me, the choices were very slim) so one of my favorite people there ( a man, probably in his early 50's who just always made so much sense to me when he shared, and i just felt a connection with him right when i walked through the doors the first time) sort of took over for her (behind her back), since you're not supposed to have a different sex sponsor.
Good Day to all of my sober, cyber-buddies;)
LOL....yeah, VWGirl, there were a couple nice looking boys there too, and my favorite kind too! "Bikers!" (not that i was looking or anything;) lol... OOOps...darnit...there goes my alcoholic brain again;) Hehe!! just kidding, i'm actually comfortable sharing with men for some reason, maybe even more so than women at a f2f, i don't know why, but maybe because i grew up around guys (only have one brother) and i was a tomboy when i was a kid. I mean, i hung out with girls and everything, but i grew up on a dairy farm and i rode dirt bikes and deer hunted and all that "guy" stuff. OK...now i'm rambling.... It was all good anyway;)
btw...last time i went to AA, i just wasn't on the same page as my temp. sponsor, (her moods were just too creepy for me, the choices were very slim) so one of my favorite people there ( a man, probably in his early 50's who just always made so much sense to me when he shared, and i just felt a connection with him right when i walked through the doors the first time) sort of took over for her (behind her back), since you're not supposed to have a different sex sponsor.
Good Day to all of my sober, cyber-buddies;)
Hi all!! Jayde, Glad to hear the meeting went well for you. My homegroup happens to be a Tuesday night womens meeting. I used to hate the womens meetings and the women in them too! LOL I dont hate them anymore, actually I look forward to going now. They all tell me what I need to hear. I do find in mixed meetings that there are more men then women, but like everyone has already said I just look at them like another alcoholic. And hey don't knock looking...I'm sober and I'm married but I'm not dead!!! Nothing wrong with looking...lol
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lol...thanks Gina!
Have a good day;)
Have a good day;)
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Gina, now you're starting to post what I'm thinking too...osmosis? This is cracking me up! I too only went to mix meetings in the beginning, I got a lot of attention there...and I liked it...I was so insecure and had such low self esteem. I also attended the "Retreads" meeting daily, mostly everyone's share seemed to be drunk-a-logs; at least that's what I heard or could hear; it's about the only thing I could relate to newly sober. I love Woman's Stags now.
