i was off here a long time, my son was in prison, i felt like a ton of bricks was lifted. i focused on myself, i slept, i had fun. he is out and starting the bs all over again. This time he is on his own, im not on the addiction dance with him, he had a chance to be clean for 2 years and start over, he chooses to not. i choose after a decade to stay sane
Hi. I'm sorry you are going through this. . Keep chatting with us all. This board helps keep me sane, & reminds us all we have similar feelings and stories. . You might read shell's recent posts. . I've told some of my own story to her. .
It's so sad to think we actually want our kids in jail. .. But reality! I completely get it. Best of luck and prayers. ..
It's so sad to think we actually want our kids in jail. .. But reality! I completely get it. Best of luck and prayers. ..
My son just got arrested and for first time in a long time I can sleep. Still can't get him out of my head.
I need to talk vent scream cry for such a waste of life. I didn't make him take the drugs and destroy his life . But my family is sick of hearing about him .So here I am.
Ranting and trying to get stronger to say no.
We need to help one another to survive our children who are abusing our love for them to keep their habits going x
Susan
I need to talk vent scream cry for such a waste of life. I didn't make him take the drugs and destroy his life . But my family is sick of hearing about him .So here I am.
Ranting and trying to get stronger to say no.
We need to help one another to survive our children who are abusing our love for them to keep their habits going x
Susan
momg,
I don't blame you for being done with the addiction dance. My husband and I are also done. We've been doing it for over 15 years. As much as we love our children, we can't be dragged down with them. They can get well if they choose to. Just read stories from other recovered addicts. It's hard because we can't shut our brains off. That's ok. We can still control our actions. I absolutely know from experience that enabling will not make our kids (most of them are grown adults) better. We have to stay strong and let them face the consequences of their actions...just like we have to do. Love to you all!
Michelle
I don't blame you for being done with the addiction dance. My husband and I are also done. We've been doing it for over 15 years. As much as we love our children, we can't be dragged down with them. They can get well if they choose to. Just read stories from other recovered addicts. It's hard because we can't shut our brains off. That's ok. We can still control our actions. I absolutely know from experience that enabling will not make our kids (most of them are grown adults) better. We have to stay strong and let them face the consequences of their actions...just like we have to do. Love to you all!
Michelle
so he is back out of jail again and seems a bit less smug about fooling the system. he is tethered and his po put the smackdown on him. i so wish i had been in a group 12 years ago and had handled things differently. No, maybe his outcome wouldnt have changed, but mine would have. detaching with love is absolutely essential, we all think we can do it differently in the beginning, but we cant. people that have been through hell, listen to them, our story is quite similar.
