hey guys, just saying hello, looks like the board has been asleep again, so WAKE UP
i have a sick little boy today so i am home from work, my husband is out of town, they always get sick when he is out of town.
It is almost FRIDAY, hope everyone is having a good day, nice plans for the weekend we are moving. yuk, but yeaaaa, glad to have a home that we own.
Insanity=doing the same thing over and over and expecting different results
Szzzzzzzzzz...what? who? Oh, another bored former smoker. Hmmmmm yall are so much easier to deal with when ya just sit there veggin! Ok, been working on a reply to your devils advocate post. It will be elegant! Watch this space. With any luck I will be able to post it around the witching hour. You would think prosecuting the devil would be easy, but he is a tricky one after all.
Have a good day, moving..yuck! (I hate moving, you'd think I'd quit)
Have a good day, moving..yuck! (I hate moving, you'd think I'd quit)
are you a lawyer? another lawyer???? oh my
you guys love eloquent responses. yes i was bored this am, but my son has strep so i have been mommy the rest of the afternoon, so moving day will be filled with furniture, boxes, and a sick 6 year old. wow could it get any better.
you guys love eloquent responses. yes i was bored this am, but my son has strep so i have been mommy the rest of the afternoon, so moving day will be filled with furniture, boxes, and a sick 6 year old. wow could it get any better.
jamv- thanks for waking us up :)
good luck with your move !
happinerd- did you see my post on another jamv thread?
aea- how are you?
wonderwoman- how are you feeling?
-jo
good luck with your move !
happinerd- did you see my post on another jamv thread?
aea- how are you?
wonderwoman- how are you feeling?
-jo
jamv-
No, I'm not a lawyer, I do bankruptcy paperwork for folks who then file it themselves. If you must know I consider myself a scientist, we also love eloquent responses and a good argument (er, discussion). Hope the move is going well.
jojo-
I read all the threads, (exept the just for todays) but don't remember right now what one you are refering to, I'm sure I must have seen it. Still working on that response, this evening job has been a drain on my time this week. It's about half done.
to the lady who just quit one day after 15 years (wifeandmom?), welcome, but a question. What brings you to this board?
No, I'm not a lawyer, I do bankruptcy paperwork for folks who then file it themselves. If you must know I consider myself a scientist, we also love eloquent responses and a good argument (er, discussion). Hope the move is going well.
jojo-
I read all the threads, (exept the just for todays) but don't remember right now what one you are refering to, I'm sure I must have seen it. Still working on that response, this evening job has been a drain on my time this week. It's about half done.
to the lady who just quit one day after 15 years (wifeandmom?), welcome, but a question. What brings you to this board?
hippienerd hi-
maybe you can help me off topic. i went bankrupt in the late 90's and have been trying to re-establish credit and keep getting turned down. how can you get good credit when you don't have any? any suggestions?
also.... i don't read the daily kerrbear posts either. turn me off and i'd write a whole 'to-do' about how it annoys me, but i know it helps others and that's good so i remain quiet. (except now lol).
hey how is it/is it still going with bella?
-jo
maybe you can help me off topic. i went bankrupt in the late 90's and have been trying to re-establish credit and keep getting turned down. how can you get good credit when you don't have any? any suggestions?
also.... i don't read the daily kerrbear posts either. turn me off and i'd write a whole 'to-do' about how it annoys me, but i know it helps others and that's good so i remain quiet. (except now lol).
hey how is it/is it still going with bella?
-jo
kerrbears posts annoy me too for some reason.. I guess it's mainly the fact that it should be posted in the off topic forum.. I get excited when I see a new post every day and it's always just that stuff.. and not someone actually posting something worthwhile.
OFF TOPIC--
Jojo-
1) go to a bank and get a secured credit card. you put, say $500 in a savings account and they give you a card with a $500 credit limit. Use it to buy food, gas, and other household items and pay the bill off in full each month, this keeps interest charges to a minimum.
2)buy a car on time. some car lots specialze in bad/no credit folks. but you will pay out the nose in interest.
3) Buy a household appliance on time. Try Sears, Best But etc.
Always pay on time!
Ok, sorry folks but maybe it will also helpout some others and this is the only board I ever visit.
I am posting that devils advocate response where it belongs, if I can still find it.
KerrBear please don't feel like you sould stop posting but lets face it the 12 steps don't work for everyone. If they help anyone who reads this board they are not wasted. Thanks for your efforts.
If it works, it's good.
The only way to quit is to quit.
Jojo-
1) go to a bank and get a secured credit card. you put, say $500 in a savings account and they give you a card with a $500 credit limit. Use it to buy food, gas, and other household items and pay the bill off in full each month, this keeps interest charges to a minimum.
2)buy a car on time. some car lots specialze in bad/no credit folks. but you will pay out the nose in interest.
3) Buy a household appliance on time. Try Sears, Best But etc.
Always pay on time!
Ok, sorry folks but maybe it will also helpout some others and this is the only board I ever visit.
I am posting that devils advocate response where it belongs, if I can still find it.
KerrBear please don't feel like you sould stop posting but lets face it the 12 steps don't work for everyone. If they help anyone who reads this board they are not wasted. Thanks for your efforts.
If it works, it's good.
The only way to quit is to quit.
jojo-
You asked about bella, (and I was hoping to dodge that bullet).
I'm afraid I have to report that things didn't turn out so well. After she asked me to come to CA to meet, and I agreed, she started to have second thoughts. The first of those are what brought me to this board in an attempt to determine whether or not I was a pot addict. Then I signed off an email with "I love you" and she had a major problem with that, even after I tried to explain I meant unconditional love and not necessarily romatic love. Seems those words were loaded with negative connotaions in her head. She decided that maybe it wasn't good for her kids, having an older man around a bunch of young girls, seems that had also been an issue with previous relationships. Well, by the time these later issues came up, the plane ticket had been bought, it was nonrefundable and I needed a vacation anyhow.
So I asked her if she was still willing to meet me at the airport, and she said yes, but that since my flight was so late it might be a problem for her to get to work the next morning. I offered to meet her the next day at a more reasonable time but she declined, stating she didn't want to wait. She picked me up at the airport and after about a half-hour drive to the motel told me that I wasn't what she was looking for, and I had an odor problem. (can you imagine that, after a full day of traveling.) Ever seen a man's heart after it's hit a brick wall at 100mph? Not a pretty sight. So, a month later, I find myself sittin here with a tube of superglue and a jigsaw puzzle.
Time and only time is the cure, I know this having walked this road before. Maybe there is a lesson to be learned here, let's see:
a) never give a 12 stepper an even break
b) republicans are not to be trusted
c) don't take any more chances on love, not a good risk.
(I don't like two of those)
I can't say it any better than the beatles did 40 years ago...
we were talking
about the space between us all
and the people
who hide themselves behind their walls
of illusion
never glimpse the truth
till it's far too late
and they slip away
don't you know
its all inside your self
no one else can make you change
and that we all are very small and
live goes on within you
and with out you
or maybe it was jimmy buffet
-please don't say manana if you don't mean it.
In any event the choices of other people are something you can't change, so I need to find the serenity to accept this.
I'm a couple of (what do you measure serenity in? cups? kilograms? light years? whatevers?) whatevers of serentity short.
But I'm sure it will come with time.
One final note: It has been said that there are three sides to every breakup, his, hers, and the truth. You now have one of those, but I have tried to be as honest and objective as possible.
You asked about bella, (and I was hoping to dodge that bullet).
I'm afraid I have to report that things didn't turn out so well. After she asked me to come to CA to meet, and I agreed, she started to have second thoughts. The first of those are what brought me to this board in an attempt to determine whether or not I was a pot addict. Then I signed off an email with "I love you" and she had a major problem with that, even after I tried to explain I meant unconditional love and not necessarily romatic love. Seems those words were loaded with negative connotaions in her head. She decided that maybe it wasn't good for her kids, having an older man around a bunch of young girls, seems that had also been an issue with previous relationships. Well, by the time these later issues came up, the plane ticket had been bought, it was nonrefundable and I needed a vacation anyhow.
So I asked her if she was still willing to meet me at the airport, and she said yes, but that since my flight was so late it might be a problem for her to get to work the next morning. I offered to meet her the next day at a more reasonable time but she declined, stating she didn't want to wait. She picked me up at the airport and after about a half-hour drive to the motel told me that I wasn't what she was looking for, and I had an odor problem. (can you imagine that, after a full day of traveling.) Ever seen a man's heart after it's hit a brick wall at 100mph? Not a pretty sight. So, a month later, I find myself sittin here with a tube of superglue and a jigsaw puzzle.
Time and only time is the cure, I know this having walked this road before. Maybe there is a lesson to be learned here, let's see:
a) never give a 12 stepper an even break
b) republicans are not to be trusted
c) don't take any more chances on love, not a good risk.
(I don't like two of those)
I can't say it any better than the beatles did 40 years ago...
we were talking
about the space between us all
and the people
who hide themselves behind their walls
of illusion
never glimpse the truth
till it's far too late
and they slip away
don't you know
its all inside your self
no one else can make you change
and that we all are very small and
live goes on within you
and with out you
or maybe it was jimmy buffet
-please don't say manana if you don't mean it.
In any event the choices of other people are something you can't change, so I need to find the serenity to accept this.
I'm a couple of (what do you measure serenity in? cups? kilograms? light years? whatevers?) whatevers of serentity short.
But I'm sure it will come with time.
One final note: It has been said that there are three sides to every breakup, his, hers, and the truth. You now have one of those, but I have tried to be as honest and objective as possible.
hippienerd,
first thank you for your credit advice. how long does one have to do the credit that way till you can redeem oneself? it's so amazing how many things i have done since then, i even own property now. but i can't get a credit card. but they still send applications!
on the bella note, i'm sorry it didn't work out. i didn't know if no news was good or bad so i decided to ask you. must have hurt the whole dealybob and her comment in the car in my opinion was out there and not kind.....you came to see her and she sounds like she was ungracious and scared. i know this may sound weak but i think you are better off. it doesn't sound like it would have been stable for all the reasons you listed.
(esp. a republican! lol)
hang in there hippienerd. i hope your heart heals you sound like a great guy and there will be love for you. i know it.
on other notes, i'm considering letting go of sacred time. i'm scared. i know the only way to quit it to quit, to quote you. and i must eventually. so why not now..... i don't know???
i love my sacred time.... too much and i think that is why!
-jo
first thank you for your credit advice. how long does one have to do the credit that way till you can redeem oneself? it's so amazing how many things i have done since then, i even own property now. but i can't get a credit card. but they still send applications!
on the bella note, i'm sorry it didn't work out. i didn't know if no news was good or bad so i decided to ask you. must have hurt the whole dealybob and her comment in the car in my opinion was out there and not kind.....you came to see her and she sounds like she was ungracious and scared. i know this may sound weak but i think you are better off. it doesn't sound like it would have been stable for all the reasons you listed.
(esp. a republican! lol)
hang in there hippienerd. i hope your heart heals you sound like a great guy and there will be love for you. i know it.
on other notes, i'm considering letting go of sacred time. i'm scared. i know the only way to quit it to quit, to quote you. and i must eventually. so why not now..... i don't know???
i love my sacred time.... too much and i think that is why!
-jo
jojo-
What do you need a credit card for? A debit card works just as well these days. If you feel like a credit card is necessary, try providian, they specialize in these things. Usually a year of a good payment history is enough.
As regards your sacred time, why don't you try letting go once a week, or every other day? Sounds like at this point it may be just your way of clinging to the past, an island of peace in a world of change. I think you mentioned that you have skipped once or twice in the past, so why not make skipping a regular thing? I suspect that soon you will prefer skipping to not skipping.
Maybe the saddest part about the bella thing is that, having had much expierience with addictive personalites who were still using, I had always believed that once they quit things would straighten out. Anyway this info should explain recent comments of mine on "dry addicts".
The only way to quit is to quit.
What do you need a credit card for? A debit card works just as well these days. If you feel like a credit card is necessary, try providian, they specialize in these things. Usually a year of a good payment history is enough.
As regards your sacred time, why don't you try letting go once a week, or every other day? Sounds like at this point it may be just your way of clinging to the past, an island of peace in a world of change. I think you mentioned that you have skipped once or twice in the past, so why not make skipping a regular thing? I suspect that soon you will prefer skipping to not skipping.
Maybe the saddest part about the bella thing is that, having had much expierience with addictive personalites who were still using, I had always believed that once they quit things would straighten out. Anyway this info should explain recent comments of mine on "dry addicts".
The only way to quit is to quit.
