Good morning tina we were suppose to get snow but nothing so far.How are you feeling this morning???/mj
not sick as a baby, i did have to wear leg braces i had crooked feet. oh and great story i was 5 my lil sis rolled my head up in a car window, back of station wagon. she was in front playen with keys (electric windows) i had my head out window. my mom was inside her friends house left us in car. she came out i was pretty much dead. they pronounced me dead on way to hosp. but this one ems refused to give up on me. thank god. i was in a coma for a few days. if i would have died they would have charged my mom with it for neglect.
yes addiction does run in my family. alcoholics on my moms side i believe my older sister does pills as i did my mom (but thiers is prescribed ya know) so that makes it different hahaha whatever. but they are all in denial. no one would admit it on any accounts.
terrianne
yes addiction does run in my family. alcoholics on my moms side i believe my older sister does pills as i did my mom (but thiers is prescribed ya know) so that makes it different hahaha whatever. but they are all in denial. no one would admit it on any accounts.
terrianne
Better, we had a nice night.......gained some understanding about each other.....realized we are both totally lost, lol. Well no not really but I think we got things figured out and how we fit into each others situation.....and that we need to remember to ask when either of us needs help with something....
Does this make some kind of sense!
He also read the post from yesterday and I think it helped him as well.....
Does this make some kind of sense!
He also read the post from yesterday and I think it helped him as well.....
good morning tina : ) fresh snow is always cool. when i was a kid i used to be the first one to track through everyones yard in the fresh snow. the kids would get so ticked off at me (thats why i did it) hehehehe see molly it was just inbreaded in me. either that the head rolled up in the window thing wrecked my brain, yeah thats it. it certainly isnt from all the pill abuse :P
terrianne
terrianne
I always wondered that like if we were real sick as babies and knowing the types of drugs prescribed back then if that has anything to do with how our bodies sort of crave a feeling.Like I always didn't feel right as a kid sort of like I was always not a part of life.Boy this is a phys 101 class huh???mj
LMAO Boo, I told the kids if they weren't allowed to walk in the back yard....no footprints! It still looks nice back there, besides the yard is huge they can leave some prettiness for me!
misty,
that makes great sense. communication is an awesome thing. so long as you have that then you have it made in my opinion. i do agree though the hardest thing to do is ask for help. even to our spouses or kids. because we want to be super mom or something. plus we dont want the other to think we are weak. or worry the other. but that way of thinking is what makes us crazy in our own heads. did that make sense?
terrianne
that makes great sense. communication is an awesome thing. so long as you have that then you have it made in my opinion. i do agree though the hardest thing to do is ask for help. even to our spouses or kids. because we want to be super mom or something. plus we dont want the other to think we are weak. or worry the other. but that way of thinking is what makes us crazy in our own heads. did that make sense?
terrianne
Tina something about you & bad just says you were meant to be.The hard times you guys have been through probaly made for a closer relationship than most.Thats how I feel.I know with me & my BF the stuff that we have been through has made a stronger bind that ties ya know???mj
Both of you make great sense.........
But I would bet even though are roles are different in this we all feel that helplessness, and we don't want to be a burden to are other half......feeling they already have enough going on....
But I would bet even though are roles are different in this we all feel that helplessness, and we don't want to be a burden to are other half......feeling they already have enough going on....
molly,
gosh, i felt the same way!! i do remember when i was a teen i had a tooth pulled and got tylonol 3's i remember loving them. but i would never take anything unless i was sick. cause thats what it was for. i can remember thinking i cant wait untill i get a cold cause then i get to take nyquil!! back then it gave me a buzz lol and again i would only if i was sick. i never thought to take it for fun. i was too goody goody. untill i turned 30 and had surgery. then someone i knew worked for dr and would get it all the time and pass them out like candy. at that time i worked close to 50 hours a week plus 2 kids. it was great at night for me to chill. but then the rest was history .
terrianne
gosh, i felt the same way!! i do remember when i was a teen i had a tooth pulled and got tylonol 3's i remember loving them. but i would never take anything unless i was sick. cause thats what it was for. i can remember thinking i cant wait untill i get a cold cause then i get to take nyquil!! back then it gave me a buzz lol and again i would only if i was sick. i never thought to take it for fun. i was too goody goody. untill i turned 30 and had surgery. then someone i knew worked for dr and would get it all the time and pass them out like candy. at that time i worked close to 50 hours a week plus 2 kids. it was great at night for me to chill. but then the rest was history .
terrianne
Goodmornin Tina, hope your havin a nice sunday mornin'
WOW Terri!!! I'm glad they didnt give up on ya in the hosp, that must've been soooo very scary for ya mom, and your sis oh and of course you!! Nah i dont reckon it was the window that rewired your brain, d'you think it could've been the pills??????-jokin we know it was the pills? dont we?
xxx
WOW Terri!!! I'm glad they didnt give up on ya in the hosp, that must've been soooo very scary for ya mom, and your sis oh and of course you!! Nah i dont reckon it was the window that rewired your brain, d'you think it could've been the pills??????-jokin we know it was the pills? dont we?
xxx
true misty about the burden, but geuss what, its better to share the burden, it lessons the load. its very hard to practice but it does work oh so well. try and remember that. cause as a woman i know guys are fixers. they wanna feel needed too. so it might even help to make him feel needed, and let him share the load it makes them feel strong and that they are taking care of you. again i have no phd, its just my observations.
terrianne
terrianne
Hey Gabbi, it is nice an quiet here, enjoying the silence......
hope you are a having a good morning also!
hope you are a having a good morning also!
Terri you got my ear friend.Did you kinda always feel as if you were outside looking in or that you were just some actor or something playing the parts without feeling the parts.Im talking about you ever started usen?????mj
definately the pills and part kids too hehehe, actually for me as far as the window experience i dont remember any of it and my lil sis was 3 at the time. i only was told the story a million times. but when i was about 19 i did get to meet the ems that saved my life and thanked him and all that mushy stuff.
terrianne
terrianne
No you are absolutely right Boo.....and another thing because they are like that they have a hard time opening up......afraid they will put to much on us girls......
I know mine is like that always trying to protect me, but they don't see that we worry whether they tell us things or not, it is in our nature.......They forget how strong we can be as women......
I know mine is like that always trying to protect me, but they don't see that we worry whether they tell us things or not, it is in our nature.......They forget how strong we can be as women......
yeah molly,
i was sorta forced to be an actor to begin with cause my mom was june clever and my dad was walt disney and we had to pretend to be perfect. cause god forbid we shamed anyone. but even at school not around family or playing with friends i definately felt like i wasnt the same as them and i wasnt "normal" but i never could talk to anyone about it because then that would mean i was crazy or something and god forbid my parents had a crazy kid lol. oh great story to give prime example....my older sis didnt graduate from high school....so my folks gave her graduation party anyway cause they didnt want to have to tell any aunts or uncle or grandparents that thier kid wasnt perfect.
terrianne
i was sorta forced to be an actor to begin with cause my mom was june clever and my dad was walt disney and we had to pretend to be perfect. cause god forbid we shamed anyone. but even at school not around family or playing with friends i definately felt like i wasnt the same as them and i wasnt "normal" but i never could talk to anyone about it because then that would mean i was crazy or something and god forbid my parents had a crazy kid lol. oh great story to give prime example....my older sis didnt graduate from high school....so my folks gave her graduation party anyway cause they didnt want to have to tell any aunts or uncle or grandparents that thier kid wasnt perfect.
terrianne
tina I think terri is right.Men are really not as emotianally complex as us.Yes I know thier feelings have meanings & such what I mean is I agree with they like to be able to fix things & feel useful.you leaning on him make help him more than you>>>>>>mj
true misty,
and there is nothing wrong with telling him just that. that you are strong and want to share the load too. and plus even let him know that its ok that he cant fix whats on your mind. not everything can be fixed. but just having someone to talk to and tell you that they care is enough to make you feel safe.
terrianne
and there is nothing wrong with telling him just that. that you are strong and want to share the load too. and plus even let him know that its ok that he cant fix whats on your mind. not everything can be fixed. but just having someone to talk to and tell you that they care is enough to make you feel safe.
terrianne
Ya know even now I see my mom & sis they I don't know I've caught them at times in discussions and they say the same thing 5 differentways & I'm left going HUH>?I was the one who messedeverything up.I remember when my folks were splitting up my mom & me were fighting and I remember crying askjing her what I ever did so bad that she didnt like me I remember it like yesterday she looked at me and said"you were suppose to make things better instead you made them worse you were suppose to be a boy so your father would love us again>Wow sorry....
